Girls, am I boring guy? (19)

1 Name: Mark : 2009-12-02 07:03 ID:U9UOcvt8

I'm single, 21 years old, I'm going to turn 22 this December. I don't have a job after August of 2009. I haven't gone to college, yet. I'm a quiet guy, I don't talk very much but I'm down for a nice interesting conversation. Otherwise, I keep things to myself. I like to play video games, I like to use the computer, I love playing the piano. I watch Japanese animation but I haven't done that for a quite sometime now. I like all kinds of music but only the music that I really like. I'll give you a short example list: Muse, Daft Punk, the Pillows, Maroon 5, OneRepublic, DMX, Eminem, Aerosmith, Bee Gees, The Beatles, Abba, etc. I can list them all but it will be long. I love watching films but films that have a deep storyline. Like: Dan In Real Life, Darjeeling Limited, The Pianist, Final Fantasy VII Advent Children Complete, Constantine, Jurassic Park, One Missed Call (the original Japanese versions), Battle Royale, Speed, 40 Year Old Virgin, Marley and Me etc. I don't want to watch something less intelligent created. I do love comedy films but there are only some that I love to watch. I'm interested in different kinds of histories like the Roman Empire or Feudal Japan, I like learning psychology, all things paranormal, astrology, philosophy, some science here and there. I like reading books the one I liked so far was 1984. Well that's about me so far...

Gee, what do I look for in a girl?
I can't answer this question very well. I always choke for this. What I can answer so far is I like girl who is nice, respectful, and fun to be with who has a good sense of humor. I like making jokes but witty jokes only. I think witty jokes are more funny, imo. Slapstick comedy are my least favorite. I like comedy style like Adam Sandler, Chris Farley, Jim Carey, Steve Carell, David Spade, Michael J. Fox, Family Guy kind of comedy style.

So am I boring or what's with girls looking at me with a disgust look on their faces that have me put a question mark above my head and thinking: What the fuck is her problem?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-02 09:29 ID:xe8v1RiQ

Whether you are interesting or not, doesn't have that much to do with the kinds of entertainment you consume because all the things you list are a form of entertainment barring playing the piano which is more of a creative pursuit.

These things do not make a person, they are one small part of you. It's in the way you approach life that makes you interesting or uninteresting.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-02 09:32 ID:GCPjnDYn

Describes me pretty well, except the musical taste. I dunno, I have the impression that girls judge you by how you look. If you look good, they will associate you with more positive attributes.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-02 13:25 ID:eK2Tc7wq

i didn't read everything but the piano is a definite plus my friend.

i wish i could play music...it's a definite plus with the girls whether she's the musical type herself or not. plus the guitar is getting a little too cliche nowadays.

piano's good.s

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-03 19:01 ID:NwtRYrbC

I think most girls are less interesting than you are, so I wouldn't worry.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-04 05:27 ID:PkTWMNIv

You are not a boring guy. Your interests will attract many girls out there. Because we all have different interests, there will always be others girls out there that wouldn't be interested. But don't worry! Just like I said, you will find someone that will interest you and vice versa (when you do, get out of your bubble and talk to her!). Girls like it when guys talk to them first :)

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-04 17:53 ID:lxCk1P0N

> what's with girls looking at me with a disgust look on their faces that have me put a question mark above my head and thinking: What the fuck is her problem?

Are these all girls that could know each other? If they are, then you could have some kind of reputation, whether fair or deserved or not. If this is the case, it's best to start looking elsewhere.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-05 01:24 ID:cX/hSB2g

It's the girls who have a problem. They are stuck up thinking they could look down on other people and make faces at them. You are not boring. But since you're a quiet guy, it would help to be a bit more sociable. Other than that, just keep practicing piano.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-13 03:52 ID:C/fS79gO

Fyi, Adam Sandler is slapstick comedy. I feel like I'm degrading myself a little when I watch him make a fool out of himself.

That said though, I'm a girl, and I don't think you're boring.

I think your problem is not so much not having enough interests, but actually getting the chance to reveal them to people. In other words, perhaps work on your conversationalist skills.

Definitely keep practicing the piano. That's a hot skill.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-13 04:19 ID:4fPBh5r9

Your interests sound pretty nice, but I agree with the other person that said that that doesn't make you an interesting fellow.

I'm a girl, and if I knew someone with your interests, I'd definitely be interested, since I like most of the same things. (And I love guys who love music, especially if they play it)

Try talking to more people, or if you do go to college, join some clubs that you have interests in.

And girls who judge guys by how they look are stupid. Like... really stupid.

Good luck!

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-13 07:17 ID:uwqahlxc

Music is seriously like some cheat code in the 'game' of girl-getting. It's not God Mode, but it's damn well close to unlimited ammo/cash.

The only girl I know who wasn't impressed by musical ability in a guy was one who was burned badly by a guitar player in a previous relationship.

Everyone else goes weak in the knees for a guy who can play some music. Extra points if its the piano, guitar, violin.

No other skill (maybe except lovemaking skills) comes close.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-31 01:44 ID:X2dQ0f5j

>>11
Only if you can actually play the instrument. If you suck at it, it's worse than never playing one.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-31 04:29 ID:fVK5vE1s

God mod is being antisocial discotec trash. By being it, you will only met with the antisocial trash girls. It's god mod, indeed.
Who the hell needs fake class?

Don't have money to buy pretty lovely house in english country side, to spend rainy english summer there?

Don't even pretend.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-12-31 06:50 ID:AKxulLLf

>>12
On the contrary
If you can't play, but are trying to get better because you love the instrument, then it might be taken as a dedication to the things you love.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-01-01 07:44 ID:st1xa+CK

>>13
I'm confused by what kind of musicians you're referring to, but I assume classical music players?

The thing is, playing a musical intrument (let's assume violin, piano, guitar) has little to do with faking class. Sure, it might make them look a little more sophisticated to girls, but what really gets them is that it shows females your sensitive and artistic side. Not to mention, like >>14 said, it is the best way to show that you are hardworking/talented. Females love guys who are particularly skillful in something (presumably something with merit). Natural selection perhaps?

John Mayer and James Blunt, case in point.

Trust me, all kinds of girls will falter, or at the very least, be impressed when you can play an instrument well. It's hard to describe, but you look different when playing an instrument. Like you're immersed in your own little world. And that is very attractive.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-01-14 04:58 ID:LXv2dqsN

You sound like a hippie faggot.
There I said it. That's your problem.

For the most part girls don't care what you like or dislike provided you aren't grossly fat, unemployed, and wanted by the law.

I don't really concern myself with trying to find the girl I like. I have fetishes and aesthetics I'm attracted too...but I save most of my efforts on actual objects I can attain as opposed to women I merely objectify.

I usually talk to every girl I find moderately interesting and if they start boring me or being silly, I just kinda start ignoring them. Looks catch my attention but when a woman's a bitch I just don't feel like putting up with it unless she's bitchy in a cute way.

You overthink this too much. You aren't trying to date yourself, that's called masturbation. I just do whatever the fuck I want.

17 Name: The Bear : 2010-01-15 14:21 ID:uxHHJJ4R

grab life, by the throat

18 Name: Bare Bones : 2010-06-10 13:25 ID:Bd+xCq/n

the Bear is boring, but happy that way. ~ Are you?

Brother dude... to answer your question, let's look at this from the other side.

When you see an attractive girl, do you know if she's boring before she begins to speak with you? (no) And while you're speaking with this attractive girl, if she does have a boring personality do you think she looks attractive? (yes) Does she KNOW that you think she's boring? (no, she doesn't know what you are thinking) Is she still attractive? (yes) What do you have in common? (answer: you both are attracted to the other in some manner which is not boring.) ...Ride that wave piano game-boy.

19 Name: nursing heart : 2010-06-23 01:23 ID:sAcjyAuV

ur quite interesting actually...
well, every girl would succumb at a guy who can play an instrument, just continue playing the piano...
maybe in time you'll meet someone who interests you and has interests in you two... just wait and be patient...

ALWAYS EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED!

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