It's a really long story...
So I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years and I think he is the first person I've ever loved. The problem is, he is four years older than me and my parents don't really approve, so we see each other maybe once a week, but we always talk online. Lately I've been busy getting ready for college, and he is really busy with his college classes so we don't talk much or see each other much.
The other part of the problem is my guy friend. This probably sounds really stupid, but through some strange events that I cannot remember, we started pretending that we were deep lovers since a while ago [like really obviously mushy dramatic soap opera crap that no one believes]. I thought it was ok since I knew in my heart that I was devoted to my boyfriend, and I was pretty sure he didn't like me that way. But lately I've been thinking about him all the time, and I think I may like him. But I'm still unsure whether or not he likes me back, because he's this really strange person who doesn't show much emotion.
I'm not sure whether I like my friend more than my boyfriend because I've just been kind of disconnected from my boyfriend lately, I've convinced myself that I actually do like my friend because of that "joke", or because I actually just really do like him.
And should I tell my boyfriend that I'm confused over this? Because he doesn't really like my friend, and the last time he asked about what I was so stressed over, I lied about it. And what about my friend? Do I tell him that I might like him? Or do I just keep quiet about this until I find out more about how I feel...
do the right thing and break up with your boyfriend.
I know that if i found out that my current girlfriend was "pretending" to be some guys lover i would leave her and tell her to go do it for fucking real because if you do that you are clearly not mature enough to be with this guy.
he probably has a future dont make him throw it down the drain because hes waiting on some young girl who plays him around
Don't tell your boyfriend he will probably not take it well and don't tell your friend either or he also might take it the wrong way. You should definitly figure out your feelings first and try to soon too if you stay confused too long you might hurt both of them. Just think about both options carefully the good and bad points your feelings and what you've felt in the past. Have you told you boyfriend you've been feeling disconneted maybe he doesn't realize it? Also if you friend is a strange person who doesn't show feelings well can you really have a good relationship with him? And then again your current boyfriend could be with someone else and lying about school work. Or maybe your friend really does like you. Who knows The one thing that is most important is you have to make a decision you can only pick one and you're the only one who can make that decision.
Ok, so two days ago I told my boyfriend that I was feeling disconnected and flat out told him honestly that I didn't feel as though I loved him as much as I used to. We talked and he seems to really want to fix our relationship and have more time to talk to me and/or see me. Yesterday we got breakfast together before he dropped me off at school, but it definitely felt different. We didn't really have any physical contact except when he held my hand once for like a second. I think I see him as more of just a friend now...
But because I still don't know how my guy friend feels about me, I don't want to just make a hasty decision to tell my guy friend I like him, tell my boyfriend I think we should break up, and start a relationship with my guy friend. I actually really want me and my boyfriend's relationship to work again, so I am planning to maybe wait it out for a month so I can see him more and see if I can gain feelings back for my boyfriend.
But it's really killing me that he wants the relationship to work again so badly, yet I'm hiding these feelings I have for another person from him.