I want to find people who don't smoke, drink, do drugs, or party. Where are these people, seriously?
I'm tired of those people who have to rely on such things to have fun; generic sheep who conform to lame social norms.
I've got my head on straight, I know exactly what I'm all about, and I just want to find some self-reliant individuals.
I'm a 20 year old Asian male, an English major at UC Davis, and I'm discouraged.
I'm just like that and truth be told, I think all of the people like that are just shy shut-ins. I'd hang out with you, but I'm in Europe, so no luck. :<
i'm like you. i can't stand all the whole let's get wasted and/or high culture.
but sadly, i'm male and sadly i'm on another continent.
college here's more or less the same where the 'hip' people go to parties and drink. drugs less so but still.
im the same, i drink sometimes but never get drunk.
>>2 shy shut in my ass, paintball, snowboarding, back country trips. i have way more fun then those people.
all these "cool" people who go out and binge themselves infront of others are just sheep who b ecause of the lack of braincells (caused by too much drinking) can't think of anything better to do.
also, male, nowhere near by.
Well it's good to know that there are similar-minded people out there. I guess it's really just a matter of culture and location. Sadly, I think America has one of the most shallow cultures in the world--at least by my standards.
Really though, I just want to find a nice girl who can get high off of climbing trees, swimming in lakes, spelunking abandoned factories, standing on top of hills, or running through dense forests and fields of grass; top it off with a few hours of basking by a steady stream, just to indulge in silence... Anything romanticized and organic, away from the chaos that is conformity--contrived, thoughtless, and normalized.
lol come to Canada...
i know plenty of people (including girls like me) just like that! :D
its great to see other people like me out there.
people who go out and drink to have fun drive me insane, how can you be having fun if you cant even remember half your night, and have lost most of your control of how it even goes.
Gimme a canoe and some open water and i am set
There are a lot of people like this, but most of them don't advertise it because there's a massive stigma against our kind of people.
To be honest I totally understand why, nobody likes self-righteousness.
I don't really hate the hedonistic culture, I just stay seperate from it. They can do what they want.
I know you probably hate drinking because you resent the drinking/party culture on your campus. I've been there.
But as you get into your mid-20s any most of your peers have stopped drinking until they puke/pass out, bar-excursions and parties are a great way to meet people and have fun.
i dont do all those my i pleasure with myself, good enough?
go add people in facebook...
use your msn...
but seriously your 20 and narrow minded lik?
smoking isnt a social norm
you cant expect to do all your monkey-bandit games without first socialising to a common interest first, and thats where i think your troubles start...
drinking however is a great way for socialising, infact its a big ice-breaker in the UK, after college/uni/work hit the pub n have a pint, talk about your day, funny old storys, and future plans...think of it this way, when you sittin on the lounge wit your pint, you'll be discussion the past/present/future of whats happening wit your m8s.
pub-crawl till 10pm, hit toon till 3am
when i talk about 'future plans' im talking bout:
winter, it was mostly go on a ski/snowboard trip
summer, hot days get m8s into a trip to the beach
in general, concerts in/out of town, though out of your local town is better, as you get to plan your train/road trip and book a hotel, new scene.
films/cinema/movie nights; for us, Orange Wednesdays!
Driving around wit m8s, chilling in the car, listen to Dubstep/DnB/DJs, roadbashin basically
Whenever feeling depressed, go drive to a nice quiet place, just stare into the beautiful full moon for hours listening to your iPod/Music
Volunteering; great way to meet new people, help out - join your Uni Clubs/Assiosations
Personally I'm into my Anime Conventions, so a good travel down and wearing Cosplay stuff as well as the usually Banter
and whenever Im not scheduled for work, head down to a racing drift and get in with the Japanese culture of Drifting too
I don't think this problem is with the culture...its simply your not being socialable...and blame it on society, for the lack of creativity in style and options available that you feel is lacking.
Is there any need to tell us your asian? you getting any beef cos of it, son?
@ScotlandBBC
No, I'm not getting any "beef" because I'm Asian. Apparently you take offense or, think I'm personally attacking you based on the tone of your response. I admire your personal take on drinking, and that's exactly why I'm irked. I mention the basics of my identity because in my current community, it is assumed that I follow the "common interests," just as you put it. And as I mentioned, I don't get any "beef," however, I feel it necessary to let the few people around me who care to know, that the stereotype is truly all that it is--a stereotype; since me stating who I am and what I'm about goes against the stereotype, I assure other like-minded people that an individual exists. To continue with your points, everything you listed is delightful to hear, given that you have good reasons to do the things you do. Which finalizes the point I mistakingly did not make--I am irked by the fact that many Asians and other identifiable groups in my community, do the things they do, for the same common, and unagreeable goal: to get attention. To be recognized. To basically, feel existent among other people. This is only an issue to me IF they truly do not enjoy the art of alcohol, and the implications that go along with it. It is mistreating the basic foundations of the drink, for they don't drink to break any ice, or genuinely get to know a person... they do it to appear "in." They do it to feel included. They do it to be somebody they really are not. And this is why, many of MY social norms bother me. It's the people who misuse the true purpose of the act.
With that said, let me alter my initial statement: I do not have anything against anything, I instead, have many things against many people. I only wish to meet people who would prefer to do the things that I would prefer to do. It's all a matter of taste in activity, and apparently, not many individuals exist that have similar tastes to mine, which is the root of my angst and solitude. Above all, I am not willing to sacrifice my own principles just to fit in or to appear the same as nearly everyone else. Otherwise, I'd have no character, which is another thing I highly value.
The activities you've listed are, I think, exciting, agreeable, and enjoyable, only because you participate in them for the right reasons--the reasons they were intended for.
This compulsory drinking thing is very much of a problem in Finland (where I'm from) too, but I don't give up to it too much. When in college I always ignored those student parties. My contacts to "common people" were not that good.
I do like to go to parties, but not the kind of parties discussed in this topic. I go to rave parties for the music, but not to get wasted. Sometimes I drink a few beers, because it helps me relax, and occasionally I do organic drugs at home, but usually when I go to a party I'm sober or almost sober. I dislike sitting in bars, because of the shitty music and I don't like the thought of drinking too much (which is encouraged by the sheep herd).
I am sure you can also find likeminded people in the things you are interested in. Schools or jobs are not always the best places to find people with common interests.
wow an asian hippie.
OP, I know what you mean. (Sorry I'm near DC) It's hard to find legitimate people who aren't full of things to get themselves high off of and distract themselves. @Scotland BBC, pub-drinking is completely different than American college drinking. (Blech) I agree, going to the pub with mates is good, but not getting wasted at someone's house until you can't even stand up isn't a good thing.
Your ideas of fun in post five really seem like a good time.
;D I think you get more attention if you DON'T do those things, which is kind of sad, since you're seen as the loser. Well, I'm SORRY I'm not killing my lungs/liver.
Is this tread for real? I'm sure there's a bunch of like-minded pussies sitting in a circle doing yoga on your campus grounds somewhere right this second. If not, why the fuck are you surprised? How do you expect to meet like-minded people when your lack of interest in typical social activity precludes you from meeting other people?
>>Really though, I just want to find a nice girl who can get high off of climbing trees, swimming in lakes, spelunking abandoned factories, standing on top of hills, or running through dense forests and fields of grass; top it off with a few hours of basking by a steady stream, just to indulge in silence... Anything romanticized and organic, away from the chaos that is conformity--contrived, thoughtless, and normalized.
This is the funniest thing I have ever read on this board. Why are you on 4ch when you could be running through a forest naked? I'd love to see what your attitude is like in 10 years or so.
>>I want to find people who don't smoke, drink, do drugs, or party. Where are these people, seriously?
sitting at their computers whining just like you, since they obviously aren't partying. either that, or out doing all the things that you claim to want to do, instead of whining at their computers. maybe you should reexamine your lifestyle.
OP you're the reason why no one likes Asian guys except fat wapanese chicks
i hate to say it but i agree with:
>>18
Im asian and i actaully dislike asians who dont social, party, drink, flirt, etc...makes the asian race as a whole, disfunctional to the point you get the media contributing to the disrespectful nonsense you see now, which is why I myself detach my whole chinese culture and follow my birthplace, The Mighty Brave Scotland, Home of the Brave.
In anycase, I suggest you do the same to some extent; you cant follow your ancient ancestors way and act like a starved dog and just let it happen and not fight back.
What you call "Social Norms" is actually Natural Human Behaviour, its been like this for centuries, you my friend are disillusioned by your selfish asian desires and need to wake up and smell the alcohol.
>>Really though, I just want to find a nice girl who can get high off of climbing trees, swimming in lakes, spelunking abandoned factories, standing on top of hills, or running through dense forests and fields of grass; top it off with a few hours of basking by a steady stream, just to indulge in silence... Anything romanticized and organic, away from the chaos that is conformity--contrived, thoughtless, and normalized.
you havent had a gf yet due to your personal beliefs im i correct? in essence you feel bitter and envious that you are acting out the old asian stereo type that you dont see,
staying on the computer as its not possible to make your idea of fun a reality so to live it out in computer games, stay inside?
(PS. If your lookin for a female companion, in hopes to be happy; it doesnt work that way...its not alway going to be climbing trees, swimming in lakes or spelunking in factories all the time....)
What's wrong with partying? I go to parties all the time and I stay away from substances. Just got out of High School in NY. I think partying can be fun as long as people aren't too smashed, since it forces you to interact with people. I've made decent friends out of people I meet at parties.
So did the OP ever find a magical pixie girl to frolic in forests with?
>>21
He probably went to a party and found he actually had a lot of fun.
I've got pretty much the same problem. Bumping for interest and bookmarking!
Bumping this thread because it is full of gold quotes that made my morning.
I don't like parties so I just do club activities and stuff if I want to meet people. I'm both an athlete and a musician so drugs are really bad for me (I like my lungs). As far as drinking, I never get drunk. I like the taste, that's it. So I guess I fit the bill well enough but I'm kind of put off by the bias you exhibit that I used to have (and am still getting over.
I'm surprised this thread is still open. I'm humored by a lot of everyone's negativity and "rational" assumptions. I was never against any actual activity, I thought I readdressed that? It's the people that I was disappointed in. People who do the things they do for the wrong reason. For me to initially state that I wanted to look for people who didn't party, drink, do drugs or smoke was very misleading on my part. It was the simplest way to differentiate the kinds of people I was interested in. In my area, I'd say 90% of the people I've met who were in any way associated with these activities did so for the wrong reasons. Asian hippy? Sure, I might be one. You make it sound so bad. How on Earth do I make other Asian's look bad? By being different? Anyone who isn't different from anyone else makes the human race look bad. It basically implies that humans have no individuality. And what the hell are all of you people doing on this board anyway if you so claim to have lives just as much as you claim that I don't? Everything is an activity, you can't judge. I skate, trick, b-boy, rock-climb, DJ, write music, play guitar and piano and drums, mountain bike on a regular. Like a lot of you, I also play games, watch movies, and go on the internet, just like all of you. I socialize, flirt (like hell), crack jokes and tease girls as much as the next guy. What makes me any different? The fact that I do everything for myself and nobody else. Beyond that, I don't understand why any of you assumed I myself didn't party, drink, smoke or do drugs. For the record, I go to massives. The reason? I love the bass and I love electro house. What's wrong with finding a "magic pixie girl to frolic with?" For what reason do you find to speak so derogatory ? No, I haven't found a "magic pixie girl to frolic with," but finding one sure would be a hell of a lot better than the average girl. And Mr. Silver, what made you assume I never had a girlfriend? Wouldn't it be more accurate to assume that I've had too many that were all too similar? Conforming, socially traditional, generic, crowd-followers, and non-individualistic? I won't lie, I've been in three serious relationships within the past five years, not counting anything uncertain flings inbetween, and you as well as I sure as hell know that three is a pretty damn big number for just five years; sure I was happy with them all in those moments, but the very reason why I'm alone now is precisely because I'm so different. I had to end each relationship simply because I could not see myself living as free-spirited as I wanted to be. I admit it, I'm not ashamed. I'm different, and I love who I am. All I was ever complaining about was the fact that there's so few people out there with similar mindsets. When push comes to shove, I'd choose me and my nature any day. I will always choose the "magical" the "fantastic" and the "extra-ordinary" over the norm. We got one life to live, and I'm continually on the lookout for someone who chooses to live life differently from what you see on a day-to-day basis. How can you look down on me at all for that? If anything, I pity any of you who don't strive for difference.
^dear. fucking. god. TL;DR buddy. paragraphs, have you heard of them?
effort. have you heard of it?
TL;DR: I me me my.
ITT insecure ABC baaaaaws
I'm sorry you seem to think anyone is interested in your irreverent whining.
>If anything, I pity any of you who don't strive for difference.
Some of the best and smartest girls have done more drugs than you even knew existed and drank enough alcohol to make the Germans look like Asians.
But you'll never meet them. Sorry, pal.
>>19
Just because you're Asian doesn't mean it's okay to be a racist prick towards Asians.
>>28
Funnily enough this post is a reflection of you.
Whilst you expect people to bend themselves to understand you, you are unwilling to accept views that are different from your own.
Perhaps the reason why you feel misunderstood is not because of your sober ways, but because you're constantly segregating yourself from others and labelling yourself as "different". After accepting yourself, and then accepting others, you'll realise that people aren't so different after all.
Don't respond if all you've got to say is a product of ignorance and an unwillingness to accept who I am. Don't bother reading and claim that you weren't interested and have the nerve to respond claiming otherwise. Hypocritical. I'm not looking for an answer, I'm looking to vent. Get that straight. I shouldn't have to pretense any of this to begin with, it just goes without saying. I created the thread. Not you.
>>31
Yeah, I did. That's what these threads are for. And yeah, you are interested. Because you read enough to know that I was whining. Then you replied.
>>32
So have I. I've met some of the most brilliant women on Earth who just so happened to drink and do drugs and a whole lot of other things. What makes you think I haven't? You act as if you know me. I can reverse what you've said and tell you I've met some of the "best" and "smartest" girls who DON'T do any of that. And then I can say to you, "But you'll never meet them. Sorry, pal." It goes both ways, man. You sound as if you think I've missed out on something. Well, "sorry pal," but I haven't missed out. And "sorry pal," you don't get the satisfaction of being more accomplished than me.
>>34
Thank you for your constructive criticism. I didn't ask though. And you're right on many points. The only thing you've got wrong about me is that you think that I expect people to understand me. I don't. I just wanted to complain. I'm segregated, not because I wanted to be, but because I stood up when the speaker asked, "Who here believes in God?" while everyone else stayed sitting down. Because anyone who stands up will get shot. It's this cowardice I won't tolerate. It's this that I have issues with.
Anyway.
I sought out to vent, not be defined and contained by incompetent fools.
I'm done with this thread full of ignorance and hypocrites. Have a nice day! :]
>And "sorry pal," you don't get the satisfaction of being more accomplished than me.
Such a tiny ego.
you have way too fragile of an ego and far too little self esteem to handle posting on an anonymous board. you can keep coming back to respond to every single person whos clowning on you, but its past the point of being entertaining and starting to get sad.
I think its still pretty funny actually. Whine more OP!
Not much of a FREE SPIRIT after all I guess.
>>35 fucking LOL at this."I'm talking to myself on a public board, you're not supposed to point out that I'm a pussy. Go away wahwah!"
>>I'm a 20 year old Asian male, an English major at UC Davis, and I'm discouraged.
I want to make it clear that this guy is not a typical Asian male and we as a group want nothing to do with this loser.