Plzz , Help Me .... (11)

1 Name: Hopless : 2010-05-11 10:03 ID:ScRIXkHl

I really don't know how to talk about my problem ... I'am a 15 years old girl , since i grew up i completly changed , i dicoverd that boys are not my type , do you know what i mean ? i'am afraid to be a lesbian , everytime i do a relation ship with a girl it is like Oh ... a love story and until now i didn't find the perfect Friend xD my relationship with one of them doesn't really last for a long period
So here's my Question !! ..
Am i a lesbian ??

2 Name: not my problem : 2010-05-11 10:11 ID:Kh5+GzFx

read more love story

3 Name: Hopless : 2010-05-11 10:52 ID:ScRIXkHl

What do you mean ??

4 Name: Wonderfelt : 2010-05-11 13:11 ID:PFBenWhm

what did u discovered that made u not interested in boys ? .. just let me say this not all boys are the same ...
just ask yourself .. Where do you find your true hapiness .. ?
is it being in love with the same sex .. ? or is it in a man that you are not interested ... you are afraid that you might be a lesbian .... but your still young .. you hav yet to met different kinds of man .. if only you can give me specific details on why you reached the conclusion that you are not interested in the opposite sex then I can give you a better opinion ..
there might be a someone that cherishes you more than you think or there might be no one that thinks of you like that ...
you might think that you are a lesbian bcuz not only did u lost interest in man but you had relationship with a girl ? ...
there might be a mountain of questions that you want to be answered .. but what matters the most is who and what truly makes you feel that this is the real hapiness that you sought for ?
you might be confused but your still young .. well Im also still young now that I noticed Im only 1 year older than you . lol . We can just support you or give you opinions on what we think .. but in the end .. no one else other that you can give the answer you sought all this time .. well .. I hope it helped ... good luck .

5 Name: Hopless : 2010-05-11 16:36 ID:ScRIXkHl

Well it happend 4 years ago i fell in love with a boy ( I met him in a forum of discussion) he & i coudn't imagine our lifes without each other xD Beleive it was a true love then a huge problem happend which separated us , He was everything to me and to be honnest i'am a geek that's why he was everything to me so after the brokeup , i became a little bit sociable , i met her she was my first friend at school i didn't like her in the beginning ( She was a little Ugly ) then day after day we become more and more closer , she was like a soulmate i even started to have converstations with other , i fell in love with her after a year we fought , i felt that it was the end of my life like ( Game Over ) I cryed , i even had serious health problems .... until now i still think of her ... is this love ?? After my story with this girl i couldn't love any boy ... I loved Boys in past but now they're like girls in my eyes and girls are boys .....

6 Name: Hopless : 2010-05-11 20:19 ID:ScRIXkHl

My life has changed because of her , Now i can't even look at her !!
We are enemies ...

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-05-11 22:08 ID:f+7cv6vs

I would like to help you, but the truth is I can't even understand you. Is English your first language?

>Am i a lesbian ??

This question is very moot. No one can tell you if you are a lesbian or not. Your sexuality is something you need to decide for yourself.

That being said, from what I've been able to gather from your writing, in my opinion it sounds to me like you could be pansexual/bisexual and going through a period of reduced attraction to men, or a recently realized lesbian. You could even be straight and going through a period of homo/bi sexuality. Hell, you could be a lot of things. As I said before, it's up to you to decide what you are.

>i'am afraid to be a lesbian

May I ask why?

8 Name: Wonderfelt : 2010-05-12 05:26 ID:PFBenWhm

I might be wrong to say this .. but isn't it just beacuse your love with the boy whom you met in the forum didn't go well that you are unconciously trying to protect yourself to any man because there is a high possibility that the same thing might happen again in the near future >.. ? and suddenly the girl who became your first friend at school became a special person to you .. thinking that this girl will always stick by your side unlike the boy you met in the forum ? and after a little while ... you noticed that you fell in love her .. and because you fought over something .. it felt like it was game over for you ... right ? maybe it truly is love .. at times when you cant stop thinking of her .. how much you've wished that you were always by her side .... but you must first make up with that girl ... you know the saying that ... "You can only recognize how important something is when it is no longer in your grasp to take and to hold on?" my own version though .. lol .. but you might be thinking too much .. maybe you just really care for her as someone who you cannot live without .. maybe as a friend or as a lover .. now there are two questions that you must answer honestly ..
Are you afraid to be a lesbian or you are more afraid of losing the girl you love .?

9 Name: Hopless : 2010-05-13 07:40 ID:ScRIXkHl

anyone to help me !!

10 Name: Hopless : 2010-05-13 07:50 ID:ScRIXkHl

>>7 No It's not ... ^^ I'am an arabian girl >< and my family is reserved that's why i'am afraid to be a lesbian this is the answer for your question .. i really want to know if i'am really a lesbian or not .... but i think that as u said that i'am bisxual ....
>>8 Well what you said is what i thought in the beginning
I'am afraid of the 2 ....
I'ahve already lost her but i just can't stop thinking about her ....

11 Name: Wonderfelt : 2010-05-14 12:25 ID:ffVqy39D

If thats the case .. what do you want to do ? Do you want to make up with her ? ... or because you might hate yourself if you realize that you are a true lesbian ... >>> ? Do you want to waste your time thinking how scared you would be if ever you will find the truth .. ? I know its important to think about things before you decide to do something .. but you know what .. ? You are just making yourself confused ... I think its more important to make up with your friend first .... then you can take your time and worry AAAAAALLLLLLLLLL!!!! night about the answer that you are trying to seek .... and it just might be ... the next time you see that girl .. is the moment you will understand your own feelings .
And let me tell you something .. I describe lesbians as females who interact with sexual activities with the same gender .. right ? Its not like you wanted to do something like that with her ... you just wanted to love her .. "her" that is a woman and "you" who is also a woman .. well dont mind the small details and just stay by the side of the person you love the most ... lol ...

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