How to love myself? (4)

1 Name: M : 2010-07-24 04:03 ID:5LMz+3aH

I've been in a strong, steady relationship for two years. We have never broken up, and our relationship is pretty much excellent: we have great communication, we both teach each other things about life and our experiences, and we try our best to be the best partner for eachother. It has worked.

But my problem isn't in that. My problem is that I don't think I love myself like he loves me. He tells me he loves me allllll the time, and always tells me how beautiful I am, but I just don't feel this way about myself.

I feel fat and ugly-- which, I know I'm not, but I just feel it. Every guy I know always tell me how cute I am and how jealous they are of my boyfriend. My boyfriend himself tells me that I do have potential for a more amazing body, and always encourages us to work out together (since he feels he could loose a few pounds himself). When I ask him if I'm fat, he says "I think you're just fine, and while maybe a few pounds off would be great for your health, I would not mind at all if you stayed just the way you are." He also hates when I wear make-up or hair-spray because he loves my natural self.

But yet... I get to jealous when he thinks another body looks nice, or when he shares his porn with me. I just feel like I dont and never will compare to those girls.

How can I go about loving myself more? Because I don't love myself, when he tells me that I look great, I don't really feel the nice compliment feeling I should be getting..

tl;dr:
My life is great and my boyfriend loves every piece of me, but I don't love my self or my body. Help?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-07-24 04:54 ID:wrqwykco

You do compare because you're the one he chooses to stay with. He's happy with the way you are and is so sure of his assessment of you that he can look at you realistically and present both sides of your appearance. This balance of his views of your body is overshadowed only by a deep fondness and appreciation for you.

Of course you get jealous. You want to be your best for him, right? So when he shows you something he's happy with, you wish you could model that yourself. But the truth is that you are. He's complimented your body. So have others.

You love yourself because he wants you to love yourself and be comfortable the way you are. That's the way to make him the happiest. You love yourself by taking his love for you seriously and committing yourself to it. Then you can start to see yourself in a different light. He loves an amazing person that you don't allow yourself to see. But she's there. Don't you want to see that person he loves? Go look for her! You'll find her!

3 Name: M : 2010-07-24 05:02 ID:5LMz+3aH

>>2

T-Thanks. ;_; That was 100000x better than what 4chan told me. (Which was "Go get therapy")

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2010-07-29 15:49 ID:Heaven

>>3
Protip:
NEVER ask 4chan for advice, especially /b/.
Remember that these guys are the ones who encourage suicides and laugh at other people's anger.

Good luck with everything though.

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