2 months of not seeing each other.. (2)

1 Name: false alarm? : 2011-06-01 05:01 ID:P1azm8tg

here's my background. i broke up with my ex whom i have been dating for more than a year a few months ago. it was based on a mutual agreement, so we're at peace with each other.

there's this girl. we took class together last semester. so i met her while i was still dating my ex then.

we were just classmates until recently. we hang out quite some time, such as grabbing a cup of coffee while writing our paper, visit to a museum, etc. for some reason, i feel like we connected so much in so many levels that i feel that i grow feelings towards her. to be honest, this feeling of attachment isnt because of physical affection. literally, we connect in so many ways. a bit exagerration there, but around that area.

1) now my question is: do you think that i'm subconsciously trying to move on from my ex by trying to find a rebound girl? (of course, im not doing this intentionally) or maybe i'm forcing myself to move on by closing in on another girl?

moving on. she is another province now for pretty much the whole summer. so i wont be seeing her until probably august or september.

we had a little conversation before she departed from the airport. this was done through text message. basically she ended our talk with "i really enjoy hanging out with you recently. it sucks that i will be away. but we'll definitely hang out when im back."

2) i get the feeling that she's trying to express her liking towards me. how do you guys translate that?

3) finally. i feel like it's kind of awkward if we don't talk to each other while she's away. so, is it okay if i tell her how much i miss her? maybe not literally, something around the line, "i went here......i wish you're there" or "i miss hanging out at the museum with you!" and i guess that wont be the first thing i say.. so, how about a simple "how are you?" or should i just wait until she texts me so that i dont sound like im desparate? (quite risky, i think) OR my friend suggested that i shouldnt talk to her at all until she comes back (this means that i'd disregard her texts if she ever texts me) so that when we see each other, there'd be a catharsis of feelings (that is if she does like me and still like me for the next 2 months!)

what do you guys think?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2011-06-05 11:38 ID:nmd4aIQD

First of all, don't worry about whether it's rebound or not, just go for it and see what happens.

Personally, I hate playing the texting game, but it sounds like you don't have much choice. As you noted, too much contact will seem clingy. However, you don't want to be completely silent. Send her a friendly message now and then, asking how her summer is going and such bullshit smalltalk. Don't reply too much or too soon. Never say shit like "I wish you were here" unless it she starts saying that kind of thing first. Playing "hard to get" is an old and simple trick, but it works.

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