Should I get involved with a woman I don't find attractive? (4)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-08-17 19:28 ID:4ieUXigq

I've been approached by someone (through a mutual friend, of course - because I guess she can't be fucking straightforward with me) who wants to go out. She's perfectly nice, smart, and all that. I get the feeling her personality and mine wouldn't mesh so well. She's the extremely active type, while I would rather slam my hand in a car door twenty times than go to a club. But you never know about how such things will work out until you try them, right?

There's still another problem. I don't find this woman attractive. I mean, she's basically pretty, I guess - in a "normal" way, you know - there's nothing wrong with that, but it does nothing for me at all. I have a serious problem with attraction to women. And no, I'm not gay. I've checked. If anything, I'm just a deviant. I have a load of porn and it's almost entirely 2D, if that gives you any clue. Almost all pretty, perfectly normal women do nothing for me, or else they actively turn me off.

So what do I do? Go along with it? Pretend I'm normal? If I followed my deviant desires I'd end up living and dying alone, and I don't want to have that kind of life. At the same time, the thought of settling pisses me off. I know I can't have what I want, but does that mean I have to put with something I don't want for the rest of my life? I have two choices and they're both shitty.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-08-18 14:52 ID:oAM+FAGm

I understand you, OP. I'm like that - what most of the world seems to consider 'beautiful' doesn't really do much for me... and the girls that I find attractive would probably be considered average at best by most others.

My thought is to at least give it a shot. Go out on a few dates, fool around a bit, etc. and just see where it goes. It may be that your feelings for 2d are too strong to be overcome. But, exposing yourself to something new might be what you need.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-08-20 17:00 ID:xO4rJoCX

Yeah, what most people find attractive turns me off too. Women like that just feel all phoney and fake to me.

You sound like you might not like it. But try it anyway! You won't really lose much just trying it.
Think of it like tasting a new food! You won't know what it tastes like until you take a bite.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2012-08-23 20:26 ID:m/RGSmev

I'll take it a bit further. I used to dream about dating Asian (in particular Japanese) women and eventually marrying one. However, destiny took a wide right and decided to focus my interests in a Mexican girl (a culture I used to be not interested in). At first, she wasn't very attractive and really was the type of girl who sits at home and watches tv after school (hoodie and sweats in other words). After a year though, I got to know her better...and she actually started appearing more feminine. We started dating, and before you know's been 8 years and still with her. Now there's plans of marriage gasps...LOL.

Anyways, I understand that 2d hentai is crazy good and really a flirt for you. However, if you truly think it's unhealthy...then the next unhealthy thing is being involved with this woman cold turkey. Like >>3 said...meeting new women won't kill you (unless they kill you first). And in my situation it's not that I put up with my girlfriend...I learned more about her and the way her life matches with mine. Just saying the girl you would be involved in would be shit is both premature and unfair to her. Then again, if you still feel like another girl is meant for you...just calmly explain your reason for not dating and she'll understand. Otherwise, good luck with her and tell us how it goes.

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