Hi
Did you ever experience this:
I have a full time job for 3 years now. The pay is not too much but OK, and the job was started as "wow, this is suited for me" but now, I don't like to go to work. Every morning I think "oh, I hate this treadmill". I always get depressed on sunday evenings as I need to go to work next morning.
When I started it, the job was pretty diverse. Sometimes I coded programs in the office, sometimes I went to customers to repair or upgrade computers, sometimes I build new networks and so.
But recently I only sit in the office, coding for f*ckin' PDA-s (boy I hate them) and getting depressed as my boss picks on me and always asks for some stupid modification on the program.
Nowadays I can't sleep enough and I'm always tired. It feels like I were a little drung all day. I cannot concentrate on my work.
Recently I have huge mood swings. One time I'm feelin' happy, five minutes later I'm depressed again.
On top of this, I don't have a real girlfriend. There's a girl I used to hang out with, but this isn't love from either side.
My family suggests that I shoul quit my job and search for another but this isn't that easy. I applied for various job offers recently but either I didn't have the necessary papers or I didn't get a response.
Have anyone experiences such a situation? What can I do to get out of this?
Do you really think the job is the major reason for your depression, just something obvious you can see. Maybe there are other reasons for it?
Maybe you lack motivation? No girlfriend could mean you don't see a point in working, since nothing is coming out of it. I also had the same situation - depression before going to a work I didn't like - the only way to go on is to still go to work, but more importantly seeing a reason for it - the money you earn, what you can do with it, the pride of actually having a job when a lot of people are unemployed etc.
Just keep on working and search for another job that you like more - just don't give up so fast! I went trough various jobs, and finally found one after over 200 applications.
Well, I live in a smaller city. I would certainly have more chance of finding a new job in the capital, but I don't want to move. My grandparents live there so I could move to them and work there (I could even earn more money there) but I really don't like the idea of living with them. Also, the capital is too crowded for me.
I like to live with my parents and siblings, so I think I'll only move if I'll ever be that stupid to marry someone. :P
You're lucky, I hate my parents and can't wait to move out, unfortunetly my current wage doesn't allow that yet.
You shouldn't be afraid of leaving your trusted place, if that's the reason you don't want to move out. Go for the best job you can find and meet new people. You can only really fail if you don't even try.
やっぱり、ホンマモンの英語は違うな。
ワシの英語はまだまだや、
> You can only really fail if you don't even try.
Well, that's true for most of the thing in life. I know it but it's hard to leave something certain for something unknown. I'm the type who usually avoid any risks. Maybe that's why I don't have a real girlfriend.
I want to go to the UK for work and experience, but I'm not confident if I can stand my ground.
>>1
Hello.
Lately, I have been taking a drug called Modafinil. I think this could be the solution to your problems. Before, I was always tired and cranky, unfocused and depressed. But when I take this drug I am always 100% concentrated and with a bright mood. I take it in the morning and stay alert all day. Because I can work more efficently when taking it, I got promoted and got a very nice raise. Now I also talk more to people at work and have made a few friends. I have no trouble falling asleep at night either.
I have noticed no side-effects after taking it for 2 months, except, I drink alot more water now. Thank you for listening and I recommend you to talk with your doctor about this and inquire about the possibilities of having Modafinil prescribed to you.
Have a good day.
it is probably better to try solving the problem on your own before trying some substances with unknown side effects...for example, if the company who makes the pills goes bankrupt and you have gotten yourself used to depending on the pills, what would you do then?
>>8
you should always see a competant doctor before getting medication and do research about the effects of the drug. of course, there are plenty of doctors these days that prescribe whatever the patient thinks they need to get them off their backs
>>7
I took 200mgs of it about 2 hours ago and now I'm happy for the first time in 2 weeks.
>>11
There isn't anything produced by the mind that cannot be surmounted by force of will. What happens if you are unable to afford the drug one day, or by circumstance are unable to buy it? It's much better to solve your problems without drugs.
(Reading up a little more, >>8 says the same as me ( ﾟヮﾟ)ｂ
For >>1-san, why are you working at a job you dislike? Work is a major part of most peoples' lives; if you're not doing something that is fulfilling and meaningful to yourself, why bother? If this job is only to get through college, then just remind yourself that you can always take a job that's less stressful in exchange for having a few fewer luxuries. You mentioned it being difficult to find a different job; realize that the only reason you are working is because of your desires for decent living, decent food, etc. If you cherish those desires then you will find meaning in your work, just like someone who climbs a mountain doesn't do so for the sake of climbing, but for the exercise, the thrill of danger, etc.
>>1
You need to consult your doctor.
And take days off for 1-2 weeks and go on holiday.
Daily multi vitamins work wonders. A little extra Vitamin C is good for helping depression. Eating healthier will also help.
> I want to go to the UK for work and experience, but I'm not confident if I can stand my ground.
you should go to the UK, then you can have sex with me.
Went through a similar situation couple of years ago.
Had a great job I was initially ecstatic about but
as the years gradually wore on, I got major burnout
due to a change in my jobscope that made my daily working
life miserable.
I knew then that I had two choices.
Voiceout my concerns with a superior and work something out
or if that failed, to get myself a new job.
So yeah, superior wasn't keen on listening to my 'problems'
and so I began searching for another job.
I didn't leaveimmediately though, not until I secured my
current job. I reckoned it was way better to endure things
for a while instead of just cutting off a source of income.
I'm happy with my job right now but nothing's for certain
so who knows what the future brings.
Just try to deal with it best you can. :)
bumping ancient thread due to boredness
Well, when I feel depressed and tired from my job, I make goals that I want to achieve with the money I earn. That way, I actually have a reason to work.