> When people speak to me in Chinese, I always get insulted and unhappy because I think 'Just because I look Asian doesn't mean I speak your language!'

Heh. I'm ethnically Hungarian (meaning black hair and slightly dark skin) and people speak to me in Spanish all the time. -_-

Anyway, in my opinion, centering one's identity around one's race is only slightly less stupid then hating and fearing others because of their races. It's usually just another excuse to feel superior to others, another excuse to ostracize people because they aren't quite the same as you. Even when it doesn't stem from xenophobia, it's misplaced pride. The world would be a better place if all the people so proud of being white or black or AzN instead took pride in things that are genuinely admirable, like being compassionate people.

So, no, you shouldn't consider yourself Asian. Instead you should consider yourself human.