i don't know how to play with people...well...i have one best friend that i have no problem when i play with him. i have few friends and our relationship are very erratic including my best friend. what can i do ? one more! i find that i can't chat with girl ! i will even almost cry when i chat with them ! i don't know why :( wwwwwhat can i dooooooo
maybe u should cut ur ballz off so u don't feel anything 4 grlz anymoar
You have too many ties attached to girls. Every time you see one you think "OMG A GIRL, SEX" kinda thing. So it makes you nervous when you talk to one. "OMG DOES SHE LIKE ME? GOTTA TRY AND IMPRESS HER" kinda thing.
Get rid of these ties and realise that they are a different gender human. Nothing else.
Am i right?
How dfo you mean play with people? like football or something? I find it hard too but you jsut have to make ourself do it. You'll have fun and then it'll jsut come naturaly. Dont think too much about it too or else you'll get worse (EG: Dont keep pointing out your mistakes to yourself, if you acciudently kick the ball in the wrong place jsut let it go dont dwell on it).
>realise that they are a different gender human. Nothing else.
..wow
>Get rid of these ties and realise that they're just fellow humans that just happen to look a little different, and sometimes have been grown up in a slightly different culture. Nothing else.
Fix'd.
>>1
Explain playing, do you mean hanging out with people? If so, it might be useful to hang out using some event as excuse, and actually do pay attention to the others, and speak with them rather than focusing too much on the event. E.g. playing some games, whether they be LAN games or sport games; going to a movie and to some diner afterwards; cooking or baking together; working on a hobby together, such as painting miniatures together, or take up knitting (knitting isn't just for grandmothers or females). And so on and so on.
Yeah, shame on you. fart man's grammar is worse than that.
Uhm if you were finnish i would suggest that you get the team togethor and get some alcohol involved... but well.
If you dont know how to play and relax i suggest some violent game like rugby and the like, nothing like good tackle and mowing around in the ground to relax things up. Good dose of adrenaline and the like loosens people a lot.
And as for the girls? Well shit dont ask me... im akward with teh girls aswell, but well, i bet they are more or less normal.
I think by "playing" Pro means "fucking around with" and/or "joking with" ppl. Females are like alchohol. Trouble follows them. Ever stand outside of a bar and watch ppl exit and they are sad, stumbling, pissed, throwing shit, being loud, crying, etc. That's what you get with women as well. You have to be strong to commit to a real relationship, because real relationships are full of all the mental, emotional, and spiritual tests you can imagine. Jeez, I don't know...maybe you should just try talking to a girl, get beat down a few times, then patch up your game and try again. It's a slow process, but you will learn. Just don't be scared to move forward with your interpersonal relationships.
>>12
For me it's been the other way around. The temporary, unserious relationships have been a bigger pain in the ass than the serious long-term ones (I've only had two of the latter, however). Communication problems seem to be the biggest issues in relationships, as well as the inability to realize that the different people have different expectations of what a relationship means. Being the kinda guy who can talk people's ears off if we're actually having an interesting discussion, I've been lucky in the communication department so far.
#1: Just to comment on the crying over a chat...You have not experienced shit as an internet denizen until you've cried over a thread, blog, im session, etc...(*_*))
>>14
Though is that really related to the medium itself? Is it not because of the contents, that would have yielded tears in person as well.
#15...Just pointing out that that's what makes the internet and it's residents so amazing!
wow some of you guys are so clever to leading people to think
i aware a bit now...just try . " try " is the most important
thing, although i will beat down a few times but i will get
experiences... ok . i want to express my situation more
clearly. i am a secondary school student and in the recess
time, just sometimes , some girls who are in the lower form
will chat with me a while , just a while . they chat to me on
one's own initiative but i still can't chat with them for a
long time. of course i have no any contact about them
and recently , i found that i have fewer and fewer friends i
don't know how to do............ok just try ! ^^