No motivation whatsoever; a cure? (9)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-31 11:35 ID:Heaven

while I'm sure that this may have been covered in a previous topic, one on hikikomori if I guess right, I've got my own set of questions (not to mention, haven't really kept up with this board...)

In any event, I have no motivation. I am underage and yet have not been to school in nearly 4 years now (complicated situation). Against my wishes and out of my control, I have essentially become a highschool dropout. I don't even know if I'm depressed or not, to be honest. I'm pretty much a total hikikomori, and stumbling moe fan. My knowledge on the Japanese language, various programming languages, and such, is basic, but nothing that could truly be useful in a real-world environment.

I've spent the last 2 years of my life playing Ragnarok Online, and now I just don't know what to do. All motivation to continue teaching myself useful things (language, maths, various computer-related topics) is for some reason or another, drained. My physical self is in terrible shape.

Despite feeling like everyone here has asked 1,000 times over, what the hell do I do? I don't have many friends, and no real future. Another NEET in the same position has me has recently begun attending school again, but let me assure you that is not an option for me anymore (like I said, complicated).

I don't want to turn this post into a novel, but I guess I've never really ranted about this before. I don't know what to do, though. Other than MMORPGs, eroge, anime, and jerking it, I have literally nothing.
stats: otaku, hikikomori, lolikon, NEET, MMORPG addict with no future.

Where do I go?

2 Name: fart man : 2007-01-31 11:48 ID:pwxjufx0

Other than MMORPGs, eroge, anime, and jerking it, I have literally nothing

having nothing might be better than having those things...
by the way, why dont u stay to be a shut-in and wait until u have motivation. u seem quite young, so u dont have to rush. just take time.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-31 17:57 ID:3Ak5Wnf+

>>2 is trolling in case you can't tell.

Get a job.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2007-01-31 23:28 ID:mJXx9m+C

(RO can do that, sadly.)
If you know a lot of computer stuff, Apply yourself! Apply for jobs or whatever, support yourself. You're the only person who can get out of this.

I have a motivation problem too. It's hard to get back (motivation). But you should try to get the best out of your life, and again, you're the only person who can do this. Depending on how old you are this might be a stage but, if you really messed up, don't be afraid to ask people to help you.
Or sometimes you just have to [get up and] DO IT, no matter how hard it seems.
I would get rid of the computer/games/whatever. If you still live with parents, ask them to take it away.

You have a future... because they don't just pop out for you, you gotta work for a future that you want.

5 Name: Do it!8NBuQ4l6uQ : 2007-02-01 06:30 ID:O8DtwTvI

SWEETHEART, unless you have some sort of certification, degree or references for the experience you have you are not going to be able support yourself on basic wages that are out there. Get your GED. Even prisoners are getting theirs so they at least have that when they get out into functioning society again. Take up a trade, get situated in a state job...SOMETHING. Turn off the computer games, quit wasting money on things that aren't getting you anywhere and latch on to a passion.

When your motivation is low you really need to get situated with a mentor or an accountability partner that will stay on you to get things done. Relying on yourself isn't working and will not work if you keep feeling blah-zey or lost in what to do. Only you will make your life work. Someone isn't going to scoop you up and change your life. Those are extremely rare instances.

Go apply for jobs at companies you'd love to work for, get some education and be on your way. Even if you have Japanese language skills and can interpret or translate or whatever they will not want you if you don't have any formal instruction and much less any experience.

You have to light the fire under your own arse on this one. No one else will do it and you don't need negative words spoken over you keeping you down in the dumps.

6 Name: 何で男 : 2007-02-01 14:27 ID:5TXBabSA

I think you need to start working, but you should start with small part time jobs just make enough money to suit your current lifestyle.

Take it slow, as you won't be cured from Hikikomorism instantly. Perhaps set yourself a goal with the savings from your part time jobs. This may seem pointless, but the thing is, life is pointless. You've just got to deal with it and try and improve.

7 Name: fart man : 2007-02-01 18:36 ID:pwxjufx0

>>2
who r u?

8 Name: Anonymous : 2007-02-02 04:38 ID:Heaven

>>7

You are a waste of time.

9 Name: 1 : 2007-02-02 17:13 ID:Heaven

hmm, thanks for the suggestions guys. I've tried to find jobs but all places I apply, either apparently aren't hiring or I just never hear from again. Though I think a job is a good idea... I'll try again and again to apply at places.

But yes. I just have to apply myself. Honestly I knew that... I just don't have the willpower to actually go through with it.
I've gone a few days being constructive AND playing games/whatever, and it's been good. I just have to keep it going...
anyway, I have to stop looking for a magical solution. It's time to stand up and do something useful... hopefully <.<

about the G.E.D., I guess I have no other choice. I really want to go to school but I can't. Perhaps I should look into homeschooling again (done it before...) but that requires organization and willpower I didn't have. Maybe if I can get myself together with a job and general constructive hobbies, I can become organized enough to go through with homeschooling and get a high school degree, then go to college.

sheesh it sounds like a dream to me <.<

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