Hello, I am/was a hikikomori. I have started a social life. Let me tell you how it began.
So I was at school one day, watching all the other students act like the idiots they are, when I realized that some of the people who where acting like idiots in fact where NOT idiots. This lead me to the realization that socializing has some type of effect on people. The more I observed, the more I got interested in the modern day social rituals of the average teenager. I wanted to learn more, but sadly, could only learn so much from observation. I took it upon myself to make some 'friends', for purely research. I learned the social standards, how to act amongst teenagers, and so forth. I have integrated so much, that now I cannot return to my old lifestyle of being in the house. I have an urge to be with people. I do not want to be with people, I want my old life back!!!!!
Don't, lol.
I did basically the same thing except I didn't think about it so much.
>>3 So you still have those 'friends'?
BTW I never really liked any of my 'friends' to begin with, I have no desire to keep them.
>>5 as much as I love consuming liquids that make a person make out with his sister, I dont think I want to be drunk all the time. My brain cells are too precious to lose. :)
i know that condition. don't know why there're always my friends. really want to get alone again.
well, maybe i have to ignore them slowly
Seriously. Keep them until you get new friends.
I dont WANT to keep them, nor get new friends. I just want my old life back.
>>9
Then stay at your home. Geez, I dunno. Isn't this way easier than the other way ?
But you have an URGE.
We all know what happens when an URGE goes unsatisfied..
>>4
3 here. You need to find friends who are smart people. That's all.
Bleh, I dont think ANY persons that attend my school are in the least bit intelligent. I go to a school where everyone thinks the students are retards. And they have a right too.
Then use the Internet. I was pretty much in the same situation as you, until I met some pretty kickass and intelligent people through the 'net.
14
who did you cyber with?
Well, yeah I do have internet pals, but the point is that I have an URGE and I need to get rid of it.
14 here.
I live in a European country. I like anime. I then registered and start to post in an anime forum of that country. I met GREAT people, and they pretty much got me my social skills back. I lost my shyness, I became waaay more social. Before then, school was the only thing keeping me from turning into a complete hikky, and in school, I was basically non-existant, since I just thought they were too dumb to even talk to. I now am friends with said 'dumb people'. They are good practice for social skills, and even though I'll pretty much lose interest in them after I leave school, my social skills have surely progressed.
Mackai: Meet up with your internet pals.
I dont mean to sound like an ass, but I dont need practice.
I also cannot meet up with my E-Friends, they all live in a different country. (I live in the U.S)
I'm another European hiki. I became one when I was 15-16, but managed to cure it within a year. The year after that was the most amazing I have ever had, made great friends and still hold the grade record for a high school I graduated. Then after failing college with one exam, I went back ... recently I tried starting another college after being a shut in for a year. My parents made me sign up after I had been inside the house for 8 months without ever going out.
I've met many of my online friends in real life. Hell, my girlfriend is someone I've met online. They are some of the only people I don't get the pressuring feeling of impending doom and failure and shun away from, but I can't meet them often enough to maintain a lifestyle where I get out of the house often. I recently dropped out of the second college, and now signing up for something completely different .. I live in a shithole full of unintelligent people, and the friends I did have moved off to university towns by now.
I've never met a person who feels like I do, and even my online friends do not understand the problem when I try explaining it to then ... currently there is nothing wrong with my social skills, actually. Except people people always react so strangely when they are exposed to my "extreme" interest in computers. Or in drawing and graphic design.
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I wanna change. But I don't even have the money to meet up with people anymore. I just want to move away, because even though they don't understand my problem they still critique my actions.
The life of a hikikomori is clingy and painful.