Living alone (10)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-08-21 01:29 ID:m8bMaJsD

I've always considered myself a very introverted person. But recently, living alone, both away at College (where I procrastinated, avoided work, and came back home after 1.5 years there) and in my own parents' house, when my family is away, I've realized how different I function when I am living on my own, regardless of mitigating circumstances like the ones I faced at college (new environment/classes/etc.) I think I need people around me, maybe all the time to function properly. I need to be like part of a team. I function quite well at work, when I'm with other people, and with a supervisor over my shoulder. When it comes to being alone at home doing homework, though, can't do it, or won't do it.

I'm still very much an introvert though, and have few if any friends, so it's hard for me to find myself in a kind of social living/working situation with other people. I've been thinking about going back to college, but for that to work, I'd need a very good friend, or group of friends to live with/work with. However solitary I might think I am, I don't think I can live independently.

How about you? How do you deal with your alone selves? Have you found strategies/techniques to help you function as independent members of society?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2007-08-21 02:07 ID:k3DC9kHY

Unfortunately, I had the same problem when I first moved out. I couldn't muster up the energy to take care of myself at all. I wouldn't even eat because if I was alone, I didn't see the point. Everything seemed like a big chore. I can't really help you on duking it out alone, because the only thing that fixed it for me was when I got a roommate, but maybe just getting a dorm mate would fix things?

I hope someone has some better advice than me; I'll be watching, too. (^_^)

3 Name: 丹頂女 : 2007-08-21 07:27 ID:RDQczNFV

Are you reluctant to do things for yourself?
If you're fine in a group, maybe you're working hard to please others, but when you get alone, you see no point to it?

You shouldn't go in to solitary situations thinking that you won;t get anything done because you're by yourself. If you have to get something finished, go in to it thinking, "I will do this today!". Don't think about how you're alone, focus on how beneficial doing your task will be to yourself.

Maybe that wasn't helpful at all...

But, OP, good luck!!

4 Name: Loser : 2007-08-21 09:25 ID:/qYjBO0R

Well i have never really got anything finished in my life ;(

5 Name: Anonymous : 2007-08-21 16:51 ID:pHwXovN9

>>4 not dead yet, eh?

6 Name: Loser : 2007-08-21 18:30 ID:/qYjBO0R

>>5 well, you know i am somehow so lazy, that i even can't get me to move to buy the "indigrents"!

Besides that i am also a HIkky, who has not been in the outer world once for over 6 months know ;(

So i am caught between the devil and the deep blue sea.......

Well have to wait until my parents kick me out then.

With the small money left it is enough for me to pull through my plan.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2007-08-22 15:55 ID:hh1rF8fy

Kick yourself out. The world will be equally scary.

8 Name: Anonymous : 2007-08-22 17:49 ID:7CBCiefS

I'm not one to take my own advice, I'm just exactly like you, OP. I feel like I always need someone to compare myself to, or be around with, just so that I can do my homework, and yes, even eat. It's got something to do with that laziness and procrastination combination.

Living like this for the past two months however (it's summer), made me realize that I need to start reigning my life in if I want to survive past 27. Start a journal, start writing down thoughts, anything and everything that crosses your mind during the day. It helped me to get some goals in front of me. The next step after that is to just do something you were hesitant to do in the first place, like >>7 said. You have to embrace the fact that you're inevitably dependent first.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2007-08-22 17:51 ID:jMUX5f/h

I'd work with you.

10 Name: OP : 2007-08-23 02:54 ID:Sw6ZyYm2

>>3 Thanks! I guess you have to keep reminding yourself that.

>>8 Yeah, I remember I kept a log of the things I did at one point. It's not a bad idea, I might start it up again, even if I just jot down stupid things, like how much time I wasted today. ^^

>>9 \(^∀^)/ We should form a party split the XP!
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