Okay, I'm quite the introvert. Long conversations with people aren't my thing, but small talk is easy. But, I now have a situation. At my job theres at least 5 girls constantly flirting with me. This is fine, I return the favor. However I never really get the chance to have a long chat with any of them. Theres two that are really trying to get to know me - and one who's really pretty whom I'd like to get to know. The problem is how do I carry on a long conversation? What do I talk about? How DO I talk to them? I'm not a virgin or anything, but any sex I've had was nothing more than drunken party sex. Socializing isn't my thing, so this is all foreign to me.
Easy,... Just be curious about them, ask them questions, and discuss about what they tell you, and what is of interest to them.
If you keep asking questions, you will constantly have new conversation topics.
Also don't forget to give some info about you, so that the exchanges stay balanced.
Enjoy!
determine the person's interests. Ask questions about them. if you got it right, they should talk a lot and enthusiasticaly. Ask questions about the things they've told you. occasionaly give out information about yourself.
How do I initiate a conversation then? I can start with the 'Hello, hows it going?' fine, but after that I stall unless they say something.