Shitty Self-Analysis (2)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2008-01-17 17:27 ID:0zbrJodk

I'm 20, and I've never felt even a hint of affection from the opposite sex. I swing between indifference and depression. Right now I want to die, as stupid and dramatic as that sounds. I'm overweight but not so much that I get looks (I'm in the dreaded neutral zone) of disgust, more like the occasional 'meh' that I catch out of the corner of my eye. I'm told that I have a handsome face (A mixture of Tony Soprano and Leo DiCaprio), for whatever thats worth (not fucking much, let me tell you). I have a serious case of self-hatred right now though. I seriously want to punch the mirror every time I look in it.

I'm in a Community College right now, building up credits so I can transfer to a University. The social life here is basically nil. No one in class shares my interests, small talk is frigid or brief/distant at best, and when the periods end, everyone just silently shuffles to their next shit class. I have no job, and frankly I don't want one, I don't much like customer service and that's the only kind of job that I have available at my age. Even worse, my parents are friggin' fixated on me getting a conventional 30 hours a week job while I have 15 credit hours of schooling, which I'm not terribly keen on.(I don't like assholes walking over me all day, managers and customers included, and all the good stocking jobs are night shifts, and all the good construction jobs are taken by Mexicans around here).

I know this is kind of a crosspost from Romance, but the thread I posted in was really more like a "round table" sort of thing, everybody had a story but nobody had advice.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2008-01-17 18:24 ID:4rgO+nwL

If you don't like your weight, fix it. With healthy eating and an exercise routine you can capitalise on your looks. Even better than just looking healthier, you will feel a lot better about yourself. There's another post from fairly recent in here where somebody who was overweight asked for advice. I posted a routine and also a few links. I suggest you take a look at that information and go to the communities I posted and ask for further advice there on what you need to do.

As for social life - I'm at university and nobody talks in class and as far as I know nobody meets outside of class unless they already knew each other from other social situations. Are there no clubs or societies at your college? That kind of thing would be best, because you'll be meeting people with the same interests and also they will have similar work schedules. If your college doesn't run any, try looking for other schemes in the community that interest you. Or even try something new. As for people saying you have a handsome face, that is pretty good; girls can overlook an 'average' body if you have a nice face/smile/eyes.

Jobwise; eventually you are going to have to grow up and realise you need some sort of job. However, I don't think you need to throw yourself into a demanding job alongside studying as it could be detrimental to your grades. I'd suggest you speak to your parents and explain that at the moment you want to focus on building up credits to transfer to University. That should get them off your back for a while. Try to start organising your time now, so that if you need to get a job at university you can fit it into a solid study schedule.

Best of luck

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