Cant stop obsessing about this girl (35)

1 Name: T_T : 2008-02-28 21:48 ID:N+NRpW3h

I have known this girl since my freshmen year in high school and found myself instantly attracted to her in every single way. During freshmen year I also got the guts to tell her that I liked her, but I really badly botched it. She just stared at me and kinda looked around the room. The rest of the year was spent with me trying desperately to flirt with her and get her attention, finally over the summer break I tried to sort of forget about her, but as soon as sophomore year started she was in one of my classes and I just couldn't keep my eyes off of her. We have remained friends ever since, not really hanging out but definably talking a lot about social and political issues. She also seems comfortable talking about many other things like her social life and all of that stuff. She has never talked about her boyfriend much to me directly, but I remember her talking about him with her other friends a lot. Later in my sophomore year I was at a party. I had kinda told some of my friends that I didn't care for her as a potential girlfriend anymore, I think I said it to try and eliminate those awkward scenarios were she says "oh you like me so lets not do this together because I have a boyfriend". Well at this party one of her friends just starts saying how happy she is for the girl I like because the girl I like just had her first kiss. It really ruined my evening and she was a bit surprised when I admitted to still liking her and I just abruptly walked away from the other girl at the party. So then we just remain friends and I am still not sure if the girl at the party ran over and told the item of my lusts (lawl) that I still liked her.

Junior year passes, I still like this girl a lot and try so damn hard to get closer to her.

Senior year and I still like her a ton, were both now starting classes at college but she is going to a different school. Right now it seems that she still likes me as a friend and we get along pretty well together. Her boyfriend is a nice guy it seems, but because it feels like he stole her from me, I kinda still want him to burn in a lake of fire.

I think if I just stop seeing her all together that I will eventually move on, but it just seems like she pops up from time to time. Is there anyway that I can move on more easily? She doesn't seem to dislike me but she has been going out with the same guy for three years now and she doesn't seem interested in me as a potential boyfriend.

Creepily enough, I sometimes think about stealing some of her hair or saliva so I can clone her later on, then sending out a space probe that is faster than light so I can record her whole life and reproduce it so she is the exact same, but she loves me.

Damn, I am such a dweeb!

PS. I wasn't sure if this goes in love and romance, because I badly want to STOP loving her.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-28 22:30 ID:fGs3QUTn

This belongs to /love/ section,...

3 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-28 22:40 ID:tGT0Kehs

Yes, this goes in /love/ And I think you need to have some serious conversations about this with people, because the way you've worded it here makes you sound not only obsessed, but like you're somehow stuck at age 15.

4 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-28 22:43 ID:PhYm20x8

S/T/A/L/K/E/R/...

But, good luck. Hope you get the girl

5 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-29 00:06 ID:T7+muMkg

>>Creepily enough, I sometimes think about stealing some of her hair or saliva so I can clone her later on...

LOL!

Only time can fix this shit

6 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-29 01:19 ID:PhYm20x8

You want to stop loving her?

then straight up stop talking to her.

Itll hurt a little, but eventually youll forget her face. and then her name. and then any part of her.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-29 01:57 ID:mz2ikK2j

">>Creepily enough, I sometimes think about stealing some of her hair or saliva so I can clone her later on..."

I've had the exact same thoughts...some day my friend, cloning will be a reality and each man will be able to craft his own love!!!

LET'S MAKE IT HAPPEN - everyone to the labs!

8 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-29 11:03 ID:jkcwEw+N

"then sending out a space probe that is faster than light so I can record her whole life and reproduce it so she is the exact same, but she loves me. "

That is actually cute.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2008-02-29 12:35 ID:Cf3JEAaJ

>>5

> Only time can fix this shit

Indeed, it will take many years to perfect cloning technology. I can't wait. I'll make loli clones of all the girls who rejected me and keep them as my personal harem.

10 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-29 12:39 ID:PhYm20x8

No, that is actually real bitchy.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-01 13:47 ID:9m79fixh

>>9
You're cute.

12 Name: Kojiyu : 2008-03-01 23:23 ID:M6Q75oDy

This type of relationship is what you call one sided you love this girl yet she does not love you back that way.I Congradulate you on having the courage to say that you like her i'v seen so many people give up with having the guts to tell the girl. There isn't a quick way of getting over feelings of affection for the girl i've always believed that time and a resolve is he way to get pass a relationship that is not meant to be and keep moving on in life

13 Name: T_T : 2008-03-02 01:33 ID:N+NRpW3h

>>3

I just worded it funny because I am not used to avoiding names and places. Plus I almost changed my mind about five times when I was typing this.

>>6
Thats a bit hard, she will eventually be going to the same college I have been accepted to. It would be VERY hard to stop running into her.

What totally sucks is that she is still nice to me, she buys me stuff and talks very openly to me. Its not like she has gone out of her way to avoid me, I think she feels bad that she doesn't want to go out with me so she tries to make it up by being nice or introducing me to her friends. If only her friends were not so incredibly ugly/dramatic.

14 Name: T_T : 2008-03-02 01:34 ID:N+NRpW3h

>>13
When I say "changed my mind", I mean X'ing out or deleting the original message and not posting it.

15 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-02 02:42 ID:mz2ikK2j

Common guys, you all know that the only answer to these kinds of problems is CLONING. Yes, cloning and neuro-scientific braincell reproduction to recreate a real memory.

You all think it won't happen, but believe me, it will. It'll be like the second coming of christ, only a lot better.

16 Name: da PG king : 2008-03-02 02:58 ID:PhYm20x8

cloning or jesus... One died for our sins, the other will make us dead sinners.

17 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-02 06:28 ID:Heaven

>>16 LOLOLOLOL.. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHH LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

DA PG KING IS A CHRISTFAG

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

OH THE IRONY!

18 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-02 16:04 ID:2O8Iapb6

>>16
rofl

19 Name: da PG king : 2008-03-02 17:41 ID:PhYm20x8

Fuck jesus... just saying, comparing jesus to cloning is a bit wrong.

20 Name: T_T : 2008-03-02 23:04 ID:N+NRpW3h

>>19
Yeah! Cloning is WAY better than that fag.

21 Name: da PG king : 2008-03-03 00:24 ID:PhYm20x8

>>20 Agreed Nikka

22 Name: da PG king : 2008-03-03 21:26 ID:W6JfI0jw

i'm a clone of a retarded gangsta.

23 Name: T_T : 2008-03-05 20:35 ID:N+NRpW3h

Gah!

Goddamnit I saw her again today, she was so beautiful and quirky as always.

She says she wants to see me again in a few years at our high school reunion.

24 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-06 03:40 ID:mz2ikK2j

>>23

I'm in the exact same situation as you. Been obsessed about this girl since freshman year, and I'm in junior year now :(

I thought I was over her until I found her myspace. Once that happened it all came back in full force and pretty much killed my soul again. I have really no idea what to do about it, I think I'm pretty much screwed.

25 Name: T_T : 2008-03-07 20:25 ID:N+NRpW3h

>>24

Yeah, my girl is going out with this guy though. They have been together a long time so it doesn't look like I will get any sort of chance.

Still holding out hope to get her DNA, clone her and raise her as mah loli.

26 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-07 20:50 ID:RLKpSZFq

>>24
tell her you're totally fucking obsessed with her, tell her all the things you want to do with her. For the lulz, fucking do it.

>>25
You too, also tell her bf, tell him how you fantasize about fucking her senseless. Tell them about the DNA thing lol, it's the only way

27 Name: T_T : 2008-03-08 02:37 ID:N+NRpW3h

>>26
Naaaaaaahhhhh
I think I'll skip out on that one.

28 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-08 05:49 ID:CT76xzAI

>> PS. I wasn't sure if this goes in love and romance, because I badly want to STOP loving her.

You're not in love with her. You're just in love with your idea of her.

Practical advice? Instead of fixating on her, go talk to someone else. Go talk and hang out with more people. Overcompensate your fixation with her by fixating on everything else.

You're not going to succeed forgetting about her and stopping your obsession about her until you can replace that obsession with something else. Just trying to stop it's gonna fail.

Fill that hole in your head with something else.

29 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-09 02:52 ID:mz2ikK2j

>>28

This man is exactly right. I had the same problem as the OP when I was in high school and I fixed it by taking up Judo. I concentrated on my training and once I started winning tournaments I realized that I didn't any girl to validate myself.

30 Name: T_T : 2008-03-09 05:38 ID:N+NRpW3h

Yeah those are some very good points.

Hopefully my soon to start college career will distract me plenty.

31 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-11 19:29 ID:Heaven

>During freshmen year I also got the guts to tell her that I liked her, but I really badly botched it. She just stared at me and kinda looked around the room.

Give up now, that should have been the first sign you noticed.

32 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-25 16:44 ID:X4YZVZPk

I agree with >>31.
You've been thrown in mankind's hell, the Friend Zone.
Come on dude, what've you been getting from her?
You waste your thoughts and feelings on her, only to suffer and occasionally get a few gifts, or be introduced to her "ugly/dramatic" friends.
It ain't worth it. Just like she showed you the way to Friend Zone, show her the way to Nobody Zone. So you're gonna meet her a lot in the future? Big deal. Even if you run into her ten times a day, you can just say "hey" and slip past her. It's not pleasant in the beginning, but as you go on and meet other people and begin liking your freedom of thought, you'll be set.
Trust me, I've been there a few times in the past.

33 Name: IV : 2008-03-29 08:29 ID:iX/pi/cw

yo man, just keep her out of your mind even if she sits next to you randomly, its gonna hurt like hell trust me i went through the same shit in hs (and again with another in college) n i still talk to her (the hs crush) n even her sister but remember even though u may think she is perfect, there are at least another like 3 billion women on this planet and there are bound to be some similar ones who genuinely want to be with u so when the time comes the wont f*cking stare at you blankly but rather run into your arms as if it was meant to be since the beginning of time.

once u find something else to fixate on instead of that one thoroughbred youll be fine. take up a hobby, fix up ur room, renovate something, study i dont know just find anything else to lead u away from her. and even if she turns out to be the one in the end, you have to let her make her decisions whether they may be wrong or even downright foolish, she needs to go through them for herself. but trust me, this is the one thing youll regret throughout most of your life, wasting your time on something so unattainable at this point in time only to have missed out what the present had to offer.

take care man, this battle is no easy struggle but youll get by as have i and as have the many other men who have shared your misery.

34 Name: IV : 2008-03-29 08:32 ID:iX/pi/cw

yo man, just keep her out of your mind even if she sits next to you randomly, its gonna hurt like hell trust me i went through the same shit in hs (and again with another in college) n i still talk to her (the hs crush) n even her sister but remember even though u may think she is perfect, there are at least another like 3 billion women on this planet and there are bound to be some similar ones who genuinely want to be with u so when the time comes the wont f*cking stare at you blankly but rather run into your arms as if it was meant to be since the beginning of time.

once u find something else to fixate on instead of that one thoroughbred youll be fine. take up a hobby, fix up ur room, renovate something, study i dont know just find anything else to lead u away from her. and even if she turns out to be the one in the end, you have to let her make her decisions whether they may be wrong or even downright foolish, she needs to go through them for herself. but trust me, this is the one thing youll regret throughout most of your life, wasting your time on something so unattainable at this point in time only to have missed out what the present had to offer.

take care man, this battle is no easy struggle but youll get by as have i and as have the many other men who have shared your misery.

35 Name: Anonymous : 2008-03-29 20:49 ID:mz2ikK2j

>>33 actually the number is closer to 3.5 billion women :)

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