Hi, everyone!
Although this isn't a recent realization, I was just thinking about it, so I thought I'd ask for advice.
Although I'm never mistaken for a boy, I tend to think I act and slightly look a bit like one. Maybe it's just me, but when I look around and see other girls, I can't help but be worried that I'm a lot less feminine than everyone around me.
Are there any little things I can do to make myself more of a girl? I was extremely tomboyish when I was younger, and a lot of those habits have stuck now. What little things can help someone appear more girlish?
A friend once told me that showing your ears is more feminine... I tried it, but with my hair out of my face I became nervous, so I'm constantly fighting with myself over keeping my hair behind my ears. What else can I do that will help?
Thankssss~!!
be flirtatious
makeup
skimpy dresses
long hair
My personal fantasy (not perverted, I promise)
A girl with long flowing brown hair, a nice tan that fits her, wearing a white T and plaid mini skirt, with some tube socks.
Hope that helps, (quite personally, think "what would a guy want" and you find how to feminine since most of those beliefs where started by guys.
If you don't usualy wear any jewelery or keep your nails nice, do so. Keeping your hair behind your ears depends entirely upon the person. On some women, it does indeed look a little more feminine, on others, it looks stupid, and adds ugliness. Possibly the most significant point you included was that you feel uncomfortable having it out of your face. This is usualy caused by lack of self confidence/feeling prettyness. When you feel beautiful, you give off a much more attractive impression. Unless, of course, you're giving off the cute 'shy girl' impression, which is good, but rare. Posture, mannerisms, etc have a lot to do with it. I suggest looking at women you think are feminine and pretty, and trying to notice differences in the way the conduct themselves with the way you do.
Also, a stupid, incomplete, and poorly written guide for adding visual feminineness, in case you're the type who neglects these things.
A 'pretty' necklace = +50 feminineness
A couple of rings = +32 feminineness
A 'girly' bracelet = +27 feminineness
Long nails = +74 feminineness
Long, painted nails = +80 feminineness
Long hair = +95 feminineness
A flower, or other girly accessory in hair = +85 feminineness
mascara [not too much, though] = +15 feminineness
A handbag which suits your look = +35 femininess
Girly shoes = +80 femenineness
Don't overdo it, or you'll stand out for the wrong reasons. It's much better to do less, but better,...
Why don't you check for girls with the look you would like to have, and ask them tips? That should be more efficient than some random advice on a text based forum.
You will also have to try different things to see what works for you. Enjoy it!
Wear some boyclothes and poast to any of the trap boards. Reverse trap = win.
Cute thread.
I would agree with >>4 and don't you have a female friend or big sister who can give you more advice?
OP Here!
>>2 If I'm myself then I definitely can't be flirtatious or wear skimpy clothing because... it's just way too different from my personality. I'm pretty bad at makeup (but I could try harder, maybe), but I've been growing my hair out (it's past my shoulders). Thanks!
>>3 I wear a bit of jewelry, but it's not really...classy or anything like that, but it all has sentimental value. I didn't know keeping your nails nice was really important... Of course, i know it's feminine, but maybe I should pay more attention and take more care... As for posture, I've been trying really hard to sit up and sit less like a guy, but old habits die hard. I'll do my best, though. Thank you!!
>>4 and >>6 I have a few really close friends, but all of them except one are boys. The girl is my best friend, but although it shouldn't be a big deal, for some reason I'm always extremely hesitant to ask for advice from people I know. It's not that she wouldn't help me, it's just that I can't bring myself to say: "Hey, I have a question..." I know I should get over that, but.. until then I'll watch people around me and look at mannerisms. Thank you!!
>I'm always extremely hesitant to ask for advice from people I know.
Then get your advice from people you know less well,... It's not hard to strike a conversation when you start by complimenting a person (ex: say you like the person's haircut, and ask for tips, for instance). I do it and it works well.
Of course, it works even better if you do it at an appropriate place, like a beauty shop, or hairdresser. People will anyway be open to those issues, since it's already in their mind.
Try wearing clothes that fit your body closely. Not slutty-tight clothes, just ones that aren't baggy. You can cover most of your skin while still looking cute and curvy.
If you do make-up, use it lightly. Don't go overboard with jewelry either - maybe just a pretty ring and a couple bracelets? I rarely do anything with my nails other than keep them clipped short, as it's really the easiest thing to do. Long nails can get incredibly annoying.
I look horrible with my hair behind my ears. I'm constantly having to remind myself not to tuck it back. Look in the mirror and decide which looks better, then keep it that way. Oh, another thing you can do is get your hair layered. Little hairclips to pull your hair back from your face are also extremely cute.
That said, I think slightly manly looking girls are adorable. And I know there are boys out there who agree. ;)
lern 2 feminist, imo
Try checking out some of the imageboards on iichan, like the ribbon board for instance. Sure they're drawn but they're frequently very feminine, maybe you'll get some good ideas from some of the clothing/accessories.
Keeping nails nice is important, and it'd probably be an easy step for OP since it adds a fair bit of feminine without people suddenly noticing you've made a big change.
Bitten, or clipped off, chipped, or nail polish thats wearing off isn't something that people are likely to notice heaps, but having nice nails makes a very big difference. There's no need for elaborate manicures or paying ridiculous amounts of money to have someone paint them. Filing maybe once a month, or more often if your nails are shit and need it is all. A coat of plain gloss adds to girliness without being too 'girly' or overdone, and takes maybe two minutes to do. As long as they're all roughly the same length, and that length is at least 3mm, you gots nice nails.
Don't worry about posture - you're not in the Queen of England or anything. All the chicks I know sit like guys and they're still good looking girls.
Also, don't worry about being flirtatious or wearing skimpy clothes. People don't really find that attractive. I mean, they do, but not in a serious way. Being yourself and looking good is they key.
The best thing to do is simply observe girls your age and copy their fashion and hair trends. For the most part today's clothes aren't too trendy unless you're looking for a specific look (scene/emo, punk, or other childish stuff like that). As before, layered hair is very in. Make an appointment at a salon and ask them to work their magic. If your hair is long (past shoulder) a layered, thinned cut looks great.
Also, side bangs.
Drillhair. That's the most important thing.