My mother has been dating a man for a few years however he is a drug addict. He has done drugs so much that he suffers from drug induced psychosis meaning he sees things that are not there. His issues with drugs have sent him to jail a few times and. Also he has gotten my mother into drugs last I heard she was doing crack.
However this weekend was the last straw for me regarding him. He and my mother visited me to witness my college graduation (which they missed) and they stayed at my apartment. On Sunday evening things went crappy. Because of his delusions, he started busting up the wall underneath the sink along with the pipe leaving a hole and the sink unusable. then he proceeded to eat the broken plaster and vomited into my bathtub.
I was miffed at this but he did something else that added to my anger. For my 21st birthday a friend of mine bought me a fanmade dvd boxset on e-bay. I was on the second dvd and of course left it in my dvd player since that is the only dvd I had been watching lately but I later found it missing and today found out he destroyed it. After that I envisioned more than just hurting him.
Pretty much everyone in my family who has met him hates him. and form what I have been informed he is the link to all the recent drug related troubles my mother has had. But my mother keeps
saying "we have to feel sorry for him". She keeps making up excuses like that for him and basically takes care of him. He mooches off of her, acts like he owns her house, and does in a inappropriate things like curling into a ball in the passenger seat and plays with the radio with his feet.
I know my mother has the right to be with someone and live her own life but I feel that with this guy she is going to ruin it. I just don't know what to do. My mother is so in love with him to the point that she would marry him.
If any one has advice or thoughts please tell me.
Drive him to the middle of a desert and leave him there. Seriously. This guy sounds like a humongous fuckup and it would be better to just let him die.
Maybe this would be a problem if you were a dependent child, but you are a college-educated adult and in most countries that lends you the ability to lead a comfortable life on your own.
Also I gather from this that you have been putting up with your Mother for a long time, probably more than you needed to. The best thing you could do would be to cut ties with your Mother and lead your own life, but failing that you should most definitely bar your Mother and her Boyfriend from coming into your home.
I have been in your situation, and your Mother will defend him till the end. Don't treat her as an individual, treat her as "Mother and her Boyfriend".
Sounds like you're mother wants somebody to look after, now that her kids are all grown up and moving out.