First off. I am usually the first to tell you to never go back with an EX. and that drama isnt worth it but.....
I was dateing this guy for a year and 3 months...we broke up. It hurt because he was my best friend, and I pushed away from my family to be with him. I moved and a few months later he contacted me again. We talked and ended up getting back together. but i can tell he is hiding things again. He doesnt want me to be mad....BUt it is makeing me CRAZY. I know he isnt good for me....but i can't stop going back.
do you truly believe he'll change?
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I'm not sure. I had trouble being with anyone els. but when i decide i am done with him. he hugs me and i cant say good bye....
Well.. I was trying to date other people...but it was hard to be TRULY interested in anyone other than him...
I would break off all contact with him completely [aka block communication so he can't contact you] and just do whatever it takes to keep your mind off of him. He isn't worth being miserable over. It might help to sit down and write down everything bad about him in a list. Then put it somewhere where you have easy access to it, maybe in your wallet/purse/etc. Any time you think anything positive about him, pull out the list to remind yourself why you want nothing to do with him ever again.
Also, keep in mind: Family > Boyfriends. Never abandon family for some guy, ever.
Thank You....Very Much. =)
>> Family > Boyfriends. Never abandon family for some guy, ever.
Agreed, although some families do not help at all (over protective, etc).
Anyway, "lots of fish in the sea", take some time and pick whoever respects (or "fits") you best
I'd add, don't go back even just to be friends.
A clean break hurts more, but heals easier.
And it doesn't leave your next love interest wondering why you're keeping that boyfriend around.
I see.. I feel so stupid. for about 5 months we didnt have contact with each other. I said at the first sign of trouble i would back away...but...He is so damn hard get over...I can handle being alone....but not if i knew i didnt have to be.....I moved back and now he lives so close....
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dont lose sight of your wellbeing. i know it may be hard to forget all thats happened. but i think it would be best to just follow your heart, however dont do anything you'll regret.
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First: You have to be firm with yourself. You know he isn't good for you. Keep that in your mind. Do NOT give in to him when he hugs you or whatever.
Then, you need to sit down and have a talk with him. Don't just walk away and cut all communication with him and think that the drama will help. You want to break this off, but he has to have a say in this too. So, you need to sit down with him and tell him 1.) Why you want to break this off and 2.) How he can help. Be reasonable, be logical, and most importantly, be FIRM. Don't let him take you back. If he's reasonable enough, he will accept your decision and not get with you again. If he's not reasonable enough, then NOW you've got the right to block all communication with him.
Here's something you should remember:
The quote "You complete me" from a lover (or from you to a lover)is not healthy. Your lover should not be your "completion," he/she should be your "complement." A complement is someone who makes you a BETTER person, not worse. If your lover is not your complement, he/she is not the one for you.