Basically I'm retaking my final year of high school, and all of my friends have moved on. I get along fine with the people in my classes, but I don't have any friends. More precisely I don't see the point of making relationships with people I'll only ever know for a couple of months.
I want to know how I can cope with having no friends at school, bare in mind I'm only their at least 3 and a half hours a day because in England last year of Highschool is a college kind of deal.
I'm a relatively normal person so I do get lonely, but I'm finding it so difficult making friends with these complete strangers that I've only known for a while.
How on earth did you manage to fail? Were you too busy fapping and playing video games?
>>2 No, I was given an opportunity to study in Japan for 6 months and I took that opportunity missing out on tests. You probably wouldn't believe me, I don't care. It was worth this hell I'm going through now, went through a few trials their as well.
On a side note, you only really need to fap once, in the evening
I'm in a similar position, I'm taking a year long course at Uni, after that I intend to disappear as if I was never there at all. I don't feel the need to make friends that I have nothing in common with, I have difficulty relating to people a lot of the time.
Then again I am lonely, I just wish that I could meet people that shared my values and perspectives on the world, no doubt like me, they avoid a lot of human contact as well. I've tried in the past to be a more sociable person, make friends with people I wouldn't normally, but the whole time I felt as though I didn't know myself anymore, I was no happier than before and I ended up getting very hurt.
Well I don't know what to do anymore. I can't offer any ideas on how to cope other than when you have free time do things you enjoy, to try to stay happy that way.
Anon here...
In my whole not so short life, i been force to be what u can call "on the run" from place to place, town to town state to state, my parents never really noticed how fucked up i was when i reached jr high, i was a hardcore loner, i spent like a year in a place and then move, it was hell, i have virtually no friends, and no social interaction outside my SNES or XBOX. When i reached a self consicous age, i was doomed to be like that for, if not the resto fo my god damn life, a very long time, i saw how other kids, guys and gals cope with each other, always going to parties and hag out with their friends... and there u have me, watchin them from a far place. I started to becoming agressive, very very agressive with almost everyone. One day, i remember a girl drawing an anime character, top quality, not that crappy fanart, the most awesome thing was it was made from pure memory, i started to sayin stuff about the drawing, and there u go, my first highschool without even know it, ill latter knew the most wonderfull couple i ever met, wonderful people, pulled me out from serious shit and got me back on my feet when almost decided to end it all. Be more open, i had a very narrow friend spectre, ull find people whoe i might have things in common, aswell as people u might classify like apes. Just look arround you, see past those retard classmates u have, of wait a little bit, ull make some great friends, yes, they will hurt u, but u just cant spect people nor life be perfect let alone fair, people tend to hurt people once in a while, work it out, if that doesent work, that kinda people wasnt meant for u
So much encouragement and positive reinforcement, yet I remain a pathetic, alcoholic hikikomori... ;_;
I travel a lot. I'm also good at my vocation, which requires almost obsessive learning and practice. One of the things I've given up in return are close relationships.
It usually doesn't bother me. Life is all about tradeoffs.
It helps that I keep up with a few old friends online.
>>6
Hikikomori is a culture-bound disorder. You're just an asocial shut-in.
this is relevant and interesting.
http://www.vickery.dk/hikikomori/cat_is_hikikomori_a_unique_japanese_phenomenon.html
If the exact same problem occurs elsewhere then you might as well call it whatever you want.
>>10
but they aren't the same problems. they're symptomatically different and
fuck i'm going to have to go digging for a troll post i made a while ago to get a reference.
Social Withdrawal in Japanese Youth: A Case Study of Thirty-Five Hikikomori Clients by Yuichi Hattori. It's short and reasonably interesting.
How do you make friends in Uni anyways? I've tried in the past, people just stop caring. After the class where you met your friend ends, or if you don't see the friend around they just stop talking to you. I had this great friend for like 2 years that I met during my first year at Uni, but stuff happened and we both got booted and ended up at different schools to start over. Now he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, I tried to bring up some topics of interest and he answers pretty coldly now. I'm pretty sure I never did anything to piss him off at least. So now I pretty much stopped trying to meet new people, not even worth my time. I'm just curious how people actually make friends that stick...since my friends now are pretty much still my high school friends that I was close with.
Same here OP, failed my first year of college so I gotta retake it and lose all of my friends QQ