I'm 22, only dated once yet surprisingly hit it off with a girl I met at a bar. She found out I was still a virgin and insisted on having sex with me(I kind of imagined it would happen like this someday). I agreed, who wouldn't she is hot, really hot. She was kind, sweet and stepped me through everything. She made it clear that she wasn't looking for a relationship and I felt the same (really I do, Shes too outgoing for me). Well we had sex, everything was great, I came after about 5 minutes, but expected to cum early. When we finished I felt disappointed in a way. I don't regret it, its just, I don't know, its not what I thought it would be. The following morning I thanked her and she asked me to come over next week. I did, she said I improved but throughout the whole experience I didn't feel the way I expected to feel like. Again she said to come next week and I walked home thinking about whether or not if I'm gay, asexual or just fucking retarded. I'm not sure if I will come by next week.
I know many of you are going to be pissed, I would be. But after years of dreaming about what it would be like, I feel robbed.
HUGE difference between one night stand and sex with someone you love.
>>2
Yeah. You've fucked, but you haven't made love to somebody. I guess if you're virgin at 22 you've expected more the second than the first, so of course you're going to be disappointed.
But keep in mind it's not the same exact thing going on between the two.
By the way, the experience you're getting right now will certainly prove useful once you met the right person.
I guess your emotional attachment has a lot to do with the sensations that you will feel while doing it. I mean my first time was great, was around your age too when I got desecrated, hrhr.
Of course you feel disappointed. I bet you've built up huge expectations, watching porn and films about love and crap like that.
You expected everything to be different after losing your virginity. But real sex is barely a mixture of porn and love movies.
And then you hook up with this girl you don't even know, she tells you what to do, you come after 5 minutes - that's most likely the worst sex I ever heard of.
But don't be sad. There's always a next time. And this can be your "first time" with someone you care for.
No offense or anything, but you might want to get checked for STDs considering how easy this woman was to get with.
Also, as previous users stated, this experience will help in the long run.
Yeah sex was a major let down the first time I had it too. It gets better and after you are married, you tend to not want to have it anymore.
Relationships are a real fucking hassle.
Call me old fashioned but I think your first time should be with someone you love. Im still a virgin but I belive that it is a more wonderful experience having sex with someone you love rather than someone you dont have feelings for.
I love sex.
Why the hell would you agree to have sex with a woman who wasn't looking for a serious relationship? Any half-wit would know that if they're still a virgin they should wait for the "right one" instead of blowing it off on some random bitch. I'm sorry, but you were stupid in that sense. It's not something you can beat yourself up for, because everybody wants to have sex as soon as possible. But the important thing to remember is to overcome those desires and stay strong the best you can. It's not too late for anything. Just now you have to focus on finding a woman/man/trap who is willing to share a serious and long-lasting relationship with you.
> Im still a virgin
> more wonderful experience having sex with someone you love rather than someone you dont have feelings for.
what
>>15, you left out an important word.
>Im still a virgin but I belive that it is a more wonderful experience having sex with someone you love rather than someone you dont have feelings for.
>belive that it is a more wonderful experience having sex with someone you love rather than someone you dont have feelings for.
>belive
*believe
seriously, sex is far more meaningful if its with someone you really care about. I lost my viriginity to a girl last night, but it was totally meaningless and forgettable.
On a side note, if a person is taking anti-depressiants, does that have a major impact on sex?
Oh lawd if there's one thing I hate it's fascist virgins.
gb2/ Jesus Camp, fags.
at least the first women you had sex with wasn't a dirty whore.
>>On a side note, if a person is taking anti-depressiants, does that have a major impact on sex?
Propably yes. Anti-depressiants can decrease your sex drive and maybe cause problems getting hard on.
Sure does. I was on Effoxer, Paxil, and Cymbalta and ALL of them causing sexual problems for. Effoxer and Cymbalta made me have erectile dyfunction and Paxil stopped sex cold. I cannot use any anti depressants for this reason.
Watch out for the withdrawal systems too, they are a real mother fucker.
Yeah, it feels kind of hollow when there's no emotional attachment there. There's something to be said for lying around touching each other during after-glow, and possibly comparing notes.
Do anal.
You'll become an addict.
Just fucking go. Even if you don't care about it, at least you can say to your friends, who are just as much a loser as you are, that you have sex once a week.
stop fapping so much when you know you are going to have sex, else the feeling get's "normal" for you. well maybe stop fapping that much in general.
also sex is much better with someone you trust and love. true story.
I dunno, the best sex I ever had, including the ones I loved, was with a hooker.
Sex is a skill. It takes practice.
Sex is rather random though, just like everything else in life.
A can of coke can be awesome or incredibly boring depending on mood and other circumstances. Sex is the same, sure you can improve your skills and so can your partner, but results always vary.
The first time i had sex was with a girl i loved deeply, we were both virgins, and it sucked...
The more you do it the better it gets though, it takes practice, same as everything in life.
Whoever thinks that saving yourself makes it more deep and meaningful is probably a virgin.
You will just be better prepared when the right woman does come into your life.
Its just sex, get over it.
I think >>2 and co. are right, sex is so much better with someone you truly love. Sex with some random person lacks the "warm and fuzzy feeling" you get when you do it with your true love which is part of what makes sex so great. When you get a girlfriend(presuming you don't already have one) and you've been with her a while and you decide to take it to the "next step" you'll see.
>>31
Oh yeah, I would also get checked for any STD's if I where you.
eh dont worry about it.
just enjoy it and learn from her as much as possible. sex is only boring when you do the same thing all the time. spice it up. get into foreplay and massaging or something different to get her more in the mood. the more fun you can make her have the more fun youll have in return.
It's universal.After sex,so much loneliness.
interesting!
I felt the same way as you did in my firs tme, and i was 14. So guess it's normal. BTW, If you are kin of depresed, you might not feel it great at all.
I'm so going to sleep after this.