rationality vs emotions (22)

4 Name: Anonymous : 2008-08-04 07:36 ID:7wAuWdpV

You're girlfriend sounds a bit like me.
I'm pretty rational about most things, but some things are just beyong logic explanation.
I KNOW I'm not a worthless piece of shit,I know it with my brain and my mind, but not with my heart.

When I'm all down and crying, my boyfriend acts kind of helpless aswell (it was interessting to read your post, because I think my boyfriend could've written it just the same way).
Things like "But you're smart/great person/pretty" don't really help, since they are - as you stated - kind of general, naive compliments - things one would say in a situation like that, too easy to see through.

It helps much more when he takes a recent event as an example. I have really big iusses calling people by phone (yes, don't ask why), so he might remind me of an incident where I successfully called someone.
I won't cheer up immediately, but it really makes me feel better.

When you are depressed, you tend to forget all positive things, alls successes immediately after they happened. Every time you failed will be stuck in your head forever.
So it's nice when someone helps you to remember.
Don't swamp her with compliments or "I love you"s - that would be inflationary and in the end she won't believe you anymore.
I've been together with my boyfriend for almost three years now, "I love you" has been said maybe.. four or five times?
I like thatm because when he (or I) say it, we know it means much.

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