so i was at school today, and in one of my classes theres a girl i have a pretty big crush on, and in this class the girl and a person who i thought i was pretty good friends with started calling me my beloved nickname, whale, (while im no featherweight im not exactly obese) usually when people use that lovely word its out of jest and they dont really mean anything of it, but this time i cant be sure but they were pretty much on my case the entire time i was there, and believe me its not so fun to sit through 1.5 hours of fat jokes. the thing is im usually not really stirred by this, i like to think of myself as more or less mentally tough, and i could normally tolerate this stuff, but ive never had something like this happen from a really good freind and a girl that i liked at the same time, and i couldnt really put it into words but imagine just being dumped, then humiliated a 1000 times over, it really cuts, it physically made me want to throw up, and i got the worst headache ive ever had. basically i want to know how to get them to stop, as they dont seem to realize how far theyre going, without losing a friend and the person i love?
Just say something like
"Do you have any idea how annoying that is?" in a really serious tone when everything is quiet in the class, preferably right after she says something offensive.
Follow up with
"I expected better from you...". Make absolutely sure you do it when everything is quiet and the laughter has died down; say it plainly and clearly so you don't have to repeat yourself and look like a dumbass.
Facial expression is important, don't wear a goofy smile while you say this, try to look as serious as possible, and afterwards don't say anything to her, just go on about your day. Believe me, she will have that in her head eating away at her for the rest of the day.
What this does is make her seem like another really annoying kid that no one likes because they have to mock everyone else to be cool, so it helps that you seem like the victim who just wants her to stfu.
Do NOT tell them how annoying it is or you will look like a wus. The thing to do is join in and tell so many fat jokes that they get sick of hearing them. Say things like, "when I sit around the house, I sit AROUND the house" and other stupid ones that will just take the fun out of it. It will also make them think about the whole thing in a different way.
They are trying to get a reaction out of you for some reason, but it is not because they don't like you. If they didn't like you, they wouldn't talk to you at all.
Suck it up, fatty
seconding >>2's advice. Playing along with them may help, or it may just egg them on. If it insults you, stand up for yourself. Nothing makes you a bigger wus than playing along with someone whos tormenting you because you don't have the guts to tell them how it makes you feel.
I think the important thing here is that you said you considered these people friends. Is this what you could consider friendly banter, as in they are just poking fun at you as a joke or is it really to put you down? Tease them back, mention her bad hair cut or the way she talks or her shoes, nothing serious and poke back. If they laugh it off and tease you again then it's just banter.
If they get pissed off or increasingly hostile you definately have a problem. If they get hostile then they have no respect for you. There is no fun in loosing a friend but if you loose their respect then you have lost their friendship. If they continue teasing you and it's more then banter insult them back, don't take any shit. If you accept their hostility they will give you more and more. Do what you can to make it stop, because if you don't it will only get worse.
Find something about them that they're sensitive about and tease them right back. Alcoholic/trailer trash/dropout relatives, ones with too many kids, that zit on her nose, the way her backfat bulges out around her bra, a unibrow...
punch him in the face until he learns some common sense
or tell him he's only alive because his father raped a pig