>I hate my past, even though it makes me who I am, I hung out with the wrong crowd, I let myself down in so many ways because of this, just wish I can re-do everything from the begin, to start again...
Yeah? And? So?
Can't you just let it go? Why let yourself down? What can you do about the past in the present day? All I see in it is you getting practically nowhere. Re-do everything by letting go and starting fresh. Begin a new day with optimism. Everything here seems really down in the dumps and hopeless, but there's so much more that this world has to offer and you're blinding yourself to it.
>what is my comfort zone and nonsense? I do not understand...
Anything that you wouldn't normally do. If you're shy, timid, and uncertain then to hell with that. From what I read (sorry if my perception is way off) you seem to barricade yourself in a shell for some reason or other. I don't know what it is, but I bet there's a shell. You limit yourself based on looks and other people. Do you compare yourself a lot?
> take it your a girl...if so of course you think you do not need to flirt, as girls dont do the first move, I mean you are on your 3rd relationship...and did you make the first move in any of them? I dont think so, its your bf that got you where you are.
Flirting is simply being extra friendly and showing affection. That's it. It's small talk but with added "umph" that let's the other know of the deeper feelings. How else would anything work if the other doesn't participate in flirting?
Girls do not typically make the first move as most are more sensitive to rejection, at least that's what I felt. The first two of my relationships were hardly touched upon how I viewed relationships. Numbers don't matter if there wasn't any experience gained. All I learned was how to better protect myself from hurt.
The one I am in now I made the first move, as a matter of fact. I DID, and not so much him. The notion of guys doing all the work is completely and utterly ridiculous. A relationship is not based on ONE person taking the initiative. A relationship is built upon friendship expanding because of equal feelings being shared. I mean, I could rant and rave about how effective your "its your bf that got you where you are" comment was, but eh. You just don't seem to get it.
Who is the relationship really for? Yourself, her, or both of you? This seems all about you you you. What about her?
>once again, what do you mean by 'switch'? confused abit now
No clue here either...my bad?
>ill never be with someone who will look beyond my first layer, sorry but im not naive enough to believe there is a special person for everyone, and that they will meet...out of over a 1b people and Thank you, although impossible. girls are not blind as when lookin for a guy, a girl will sub-conscious judge guys with there appearance not personality, I been with so many friends, that are girls not to believe other-wise
Never. Seriously? 100% Never with no doubts. You're not naive in that aspect, but enough so to ground yourself into the ground. You're welcome though. Girls do judge, but with you around judging, they won't have to judge. You seem to be doing a fine job of it yourself. You seem to have a gajillion layers blocking everything out.
>intimatdated by what achievements
All that you seem to have going for you. Where you are in life, I know that not many guys can account for.
Make life what you will.