My brother and I have fought our entire lives, but we still did a lot of things together. Starting around the 6th grade he changed. He started hanging out with a bad crowd, listening to rap, and before long we weren't doing anything together.
When he brings his asshole friends over I can hear him talking about me behind my back, he leaves messes everywhere and expects everyone else to clean up after him, also he's been kicked out of school and spends all day with his dropout buddies smoking and talking shit about other people. He's had one job his entire life and he couldn't hold it for a week.
My parents have threatened to put him out on the street, but other than yelling that empty threat they haven't done anything about him. The thing that especially pisses me off is that I know my parents would have NEVER put up with it if I had done half of the things he has done. I don't talk to him anymore, even knowing he's in or around the house makes me angry; yet I've never shown it. He used to steal a lot of things from me and I'm afraid if I got in an argument with him it would start happening again. I did stand up for myself when my things used to disappear, but I never got anything back and that just made things worse with him.
I now plan my life around him only doing things when he's not around, I just can't enjoy anything knowing that I can see him at any moment. The sound of his voice alone is enough to make me rage inside. Some days I'll just lay in my bed for hours until I hear the front door open and I'm sure that he has left the house.
The only way I can see things getting better is if he moved FAR away. I'm 20 and he's 16; can anyone give me some advice on this situation?
Er... if he moved away you say.
Why don't you move away? Are you a student?
If not I recommend you start studying at a University, do something you love. I gaurantee you a satisfied life. Go into academic research perhaps. In any case, move away and study.
>>2
I'm going to a college that isn't too long of a drive away. I don't know if it's too late at this point to get in the dorms, but I'd rather not. I'm not a very social person and I don't have any desire to be around large groups of people. I'm also worried about having some of my larger, more expensive things stolen (computer, HDTV, etc.) while I'm in class.
I don't have anything against anyone else in my family and I don't want to have to run away just because of one jackass.
Rough him up a few times until he learns to respect you and your parents.
>>4
This won't work unless you put him in the hospital.
>>1 OP, you need to learn not to suck and let a 16 year old push you around. You're 20 years old now, or is that just a randomly-assigned number? Beat his face in or make your parents do it. There is no reason for him to be there, and there is no reason for YOU to LET HIM ACT LIKE THAT, and in the end you are NURTURING IT by doing NOTHING.
what about setting up an alarm inside your very own room and putting up double or even triple locks at your room door and window?
at least that mkes you feel safe when you're not around your room~
Holy shit, this sounds exactly like my cousin, for a second I was going to ask if you were my cousin.
Silence helps the oppressor not the oppressed. >>7 What he said. I know how it feels to want to be alone, but you gotta know how to fight. Think up a strategy and frame him, then juvy. Do it. Or involve the police and explain what happened. You got to really scare him, other than that it's your suffering, don't you think?
>7 putting up double or even triple locks at your room door and window?
Steal your stuff back first.
And isn't there anything you can use to call the police on him without framing him?
>Steal your stuff back first.
>setting up an alarm inside your very own room and putting up double or even triple locks at your room door and window
>put him in the hospital.