[Discussion/Advice] Apathetic, Bored, Romantic (10)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2008-12-23 11:29 ID:ZIOtIXNV

I'm 19, male, from Southern California. The world is becoming boring and I'm starting not to care about it (not in the complaining emo way). Other than trolling random places or chatting with friends over the net, and maybe the occasional gathering of friends every once-in-a-while, the world is just becoming uninteresting and thus I'm starting to not care, only doing things that would amuse me at the moment for the moment.

I've noticed the effects: Too much imagination that's fairly distracting (like watching a video and thinking about something else, which ends up making me miss portions of that video), an urge to write out the stories of my imagination, and the transformation of me becoming a fairly hopeless romantic who wishes for something great and interesting to happen as to be involved in it as to be involved in something interesting (something interesting has widely ranged from myself living with terminal illness and suffering, to romance, to epic conquests abroad). What irks me the most is that I'm a sloth, the lazy, procrastinating "what-else-can-I-do-at-the-moment" and "how-can-I-do-this?-I-can't?-seems-impossible?-oh-well!-I-give-up" type.

I have taken steps (early steps) towards getting a chance to do something interesting by taking classes so I may eventually land myself in a field that might permit me to do so, which is my hope of optimism. On the otherhand, I do not know if I will get that chance. The field isn't of any importance to Anon, but the feelings are.

How do I deal with the problem of boredom, apathy, and hopeless romanticism? Am I taking the correct steps? Is it a case of Decemberitis, encroaching on the life of another faceless victim? I don't know. All I wish is that you help me with these problems or distract me from them.

Also, if you are able to, please muse us with your stories of apathy, boredom, and/or hopeless romanticism and any advice to those who are apathetic, bored, and/or hopelessly romantic.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2008-12-23 13:12 ID:iN05avGT

It's funny, because I'm exactly in the same mood as the OP. I have lived through this several times in my life, and from experience it reflects times of personal change and re-orientation. Usually these periods end when I make some decisions and devote myself to one or several projects. That can keep me busy for months or years, until at some point I have changed in a way that is not reflected in my life. I must then start again the whole process until I find again where my interests went, and what should I do about it.

A basic fact about this problem is that the world/universe is definitely not boring. On the contrary, it's a fantastical place of such awe and scope as to easily fill up our tiny lifetimes (just check this to see what I mean http://www.boston.com/bigpicture/2008/12/hubble_space_telescope_advent.html). So the problem is not that the world is boring, the problem is that what YOU are doing with YOUR life is boring. Also, boredom is relative. Something which is fascinating to someone will bore someone else to death. So it's up to you to find out what interests you. This is easier said than done, but there is a fool prof method: TRY THINGS. If you try things, you will have a chance to judge if they interest you or not. Also, the mere act of trying things may actually lead you to things that interest you even more, and that you had not considered from the start. On the opposite, not trying things won't lead you anywhere. So think about what has or might interest you, select some of the best options, and try them out.

Also, when you try something, you must actually be serious about it. All new things are hard, and if you try half-heartedly, you will fail, because you will never overcome the initial discomfort of novelty. The best way to counter that is to set yourself some objective, and keep doing the thing until you get there. Only then you will be in a position to say if you find it worth it or not. So you should try things with an objective in mind. Not an overambitious goal (guaranteed to fail), but something as easy as possible, and interesting from the start (if your goals are not interesting to you, you will fail, even if you manage to achieve them).

3 Name: Anonymous : 2008-12-23 13:59 ID:VRmpNgkM

I'm a romantic myself, certainly my sentiments are predominantly romantic. However I'm depressed at the moment and I can't give you advice, sorry.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2008-12-26 05:30 ID:cRXd7zRW

I'm afraid I'm in the same boat as well. Completely hopeless romantic, apathetic, bored, and just plain depressed. I'm surrounded by family on Christmas, but I can't shake this gloom off. I've been in this same slump for more than a year now, and while I feel like I'm slowly picking myself up again, it still hangs on me.

For me, there's really no real solution but to keep living, even if life sucks. I just have to hope that it gets better, and hope is all I'm going on.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2008-12-26 07:11 ID:LCSav5te

Do you mean by romantic the common modern misconception of romanticism as something pertaining to love, etc., or in its proper sense?

6 Name: Spike : 2008-12-26 13:51 ID:B5Yv8Reo

i am apathatic, def not bored and i used to a hopeless romantic..let's just say experience completely destroyed that part of me. Life does suck but like you i hang on, i don't really hope things will get better because i'm the type that gets worse and worse with each disappointment. So if things do get better, great...if not, well there's an end to everything.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2008-12-29 01:44 ID:f0T4mMa+

Proper sense, otherwise this would find itself in /love/ and be much shorter.

8 Name: Anonymous : 2009-01-16 00:26 ID:2w+ILGho

I know the exact feeling, last 3 years I haven't been living, I've been existing, surviving, my dreams for the future is being able to afford attending a Con, being able to pay my dentists bill and insurance and still have enough money for snacks.
I'm not worried though, things will "work out" I.E. not get worse, they always do, perhaps that is part of the problem, no matter what i always pull through, I usually end up back wherever I started just a year older.


9 Name: Anonymous : 2009-01-17 05:32 ID:WiEYx3bN

I'm not sure you really get what OP is talking about.

Well, if that can cheer you up: you can be an apathetic bored hopeless romantic who does stuff because, well, one must do stuff, and still be exactly like that.

You'll get your three seconds of elation here and there... and then well, you're back where you started.

I recommend some reading on the concept of Weltschmerz.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2009-01-18 19:15 ID:Ov2/BEmi

Take classes! Going to school also makes it easier for you to go abroad! You'll also be able to meet people easier.

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