Is this headed the wrong way already? (3)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2009-01-15 03:22 ID:larPZHC4

I've already somewhat had misgivings... and I of course somewhat feel like I am doing this because I am desperate.

A little background, I am 22 and graduated from University. She is 19 and has overbearing parents.

It started with me confirming my date for tomorrow, which I believe is proper etiquette, given both I and her are somewhat busy people and things happen at the last moment. It seems, however that her parents have stipulated that we can only date if we bring her two pre-teen brothers as "chaperons" on our date. Obviously, this is all kinds of "Jesus Christ, are you kidding me?" bad for ample reason. A list of reasons obviously includes: no intimacy, inability to maintain any conversation of any mental or emotional fiber without kids looking at me, and of course, the money.

I wanted to initially do something more expensive, but I can't foot the bill for four people and I told her parents that. They didn't really sympathize, and offered as options that I may either cancel the date and reschedule, or find something cheaper to do. I'm kinda bummed because I parred down to going hiking since it only cost two dollars for parking... I am just wondering if this is going the wrong direction from the start.

I'm not sure what I am trying to ask. I see this as the parents thinking that I can babysit their kids for them; that they see me as some sorta sexual predator; and that they can't trust their daughter with even a simulacrum of independence.

"Should I keep going understanding that it is normal for her parents to be like this at the beginning, or should I just stop?" I guess, is my question.

2 Name: sage : 2009-01-15 03:43 ID:Heaven

Oh, I apologize... this was my first time using these boards and it looks like this should have gone in the romance board... ignore this thread until it dies gets deleted then...

If you care, and would like to see the correct thread, refer to
http://4-ch.net/love/kareha.pl/1231990902/

Thanks, and I apologize again.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2009-01-15 03:44 ID:gfDVW0bu

Either talk to her parents directly, or ask your girlfriend to talk to them for you. They're being totally irrational; why would you bring two pre-teen kids with you? There is no way that that would be any less than awkward.

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