people are annoying! (2)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2009-02-25 01:54 ID:XIPlRdRs

i really dont get what is with the people at my university. In college i had a lot of friends, it was easy! now ive moved to another town and im trying to make friends with as many people as possible. I would like to make friends with lots of girls, but that probabely wont happen.

So anyway i have one or two friends in class, and thats it. If i start a conversation with anyone else, even one of his friends, i get almost no response Maybe a "yeah", and then they walk away soon after. This happens most often with women.

I think that i try to be tasteful in my conversation choices, i ask meaningful questions and mention the things going on around us such as the music in the bar, the band that's playing, drink prices, accommodation, other people, etc.

Im starting to get the feeling that girls just assume that you want sex straight away. Even if i know a girl through someone i know already, one of the guys i hang around with will try to flirt and drive them away anyway.

anyone got any experience with this kinda situation or any suggestions on how to get people talking to me? or any suggestions as to why i might be being avoided would be helpful

2 Name: Anonymous : 2009-02-25 07:28 ID:On61gPLP

  • get introduced to girls through common friends. This often makes it easy. Parties are a good place for that, but any group activity works. This means you must also acquire more friends, since probably your two present friends are in the same situation as you.
  • join your university clubs, fraternities, whatever. People in those groups are also looking to make more friends, so it's perfect for you.
  • be relaxed about it. If as soon as you approach people you ask too much from them they may think you are an annoying guy who is desperate for contact. So be sensible about it: start the contact, wait for feedback, provide some more contact, and so forth. Don't force contact on others, it's often detrimental. This is specially true for girls.
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