College students: What's it like to live with a roommate? (22)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-10 20:13 ID:UCUnpKlr

So I'm headed off to graduate school this fall. Problem is, I lived with my parents throughout my undergraduate years (with my own, private, lockable room), and my new school has assigned me to a 2 bedroom/4 person apartment.

This isn't what I hoped for.

I'm your typical chan-dwelling otaku -- quiet, antisocial, and thoroughly invested in unsavory hobbies. A roommate is the last thing I want. For Christ's sake, how am I supposed to masturbate? How am I supposed to enjoy my hentai collection?

Unfortunately, economic reality beckons. The cheapest rents I can find on off-campus 1B/1P apartments are twice what the school is going to charge me for this room.

I'm not sure what's worse -- being poor, or sharing a room with some creepy civilian.

So, fellow Anonymouses, what are your experiences living with roommates? I want to know what I'm giving up (besides my dear, sweet money) when I decline that housing contract.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-10 20:37 ID:27+1jpWn

creepy civilian? dude, you're talking like it's the end of the world. living with other people isn't horrible at all and if anything, it'll help to improve both your social awareness and social skills. especially since you're going to graduate school, it's not like the people will be dicks to you if anything, they'll be too focused on what they have to do to care much or they will accept you for who you are. as for masturbating, if you're in the habit of doing it everyday, think of this as weaning yourself off such behavior. If you can't take it anymore, just do it when they're gone cause i'm sure that they're not gonna be in the dorm 24/7.

But in all honesty, dorming is probably the best thing you can do during your, for all intent and purpose, college life. Don't be so quick to dismiss living in a dorm, it's really not as bad as you're making it out to be.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-10 20:52 ID:UCUnpKlr


>>creepy civilian? dude, you're talking like it's the end of the world.

As far as I'm concerned, it might as well be. I was looking forward to the whole experience of living alone, just myself and my gear.

That's the other thing -- over the years, I've amassed a sizeable collection of DVDs, CDs, books, and home-theater equipment. I'll want it with me -- my new school is halfway across the country, so I can't go home on a whim -- but I'm not keen on sharing.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-11 04:27 ID:fEtcg2UB


Geez, you're so selfish. Why do you care if they use some of your stuff or not? They're not gonna break your stuff and most likely, your roommates will also bring some of their stuff that everyone will probably use, so just let them use some of your stuff too. I can't believe you're trying to reject such a prime opportunity in order to better yourself socially, mentally, and maybe even physically. This probably the last chance you'll be able to make friends easily along with improving your own being but you're willing to throw all that away because of god knows what reasons.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-11 08:45 ID:uzdbuHKf

roomate might be better than you thought
i agree by the way if you share some of your stuff then they will also share theirs

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-11 10:24 ID:3Kiv23u0

dude, college is perfect opportunity for new beginning if you couldn't for some reason find friends, girlfriend etc. at high school and roommates are the first step... of course, you can just say only two words to them through whole year (hello and bye) and stay with your collection not borrowing it to anyone but hell, is it worth it? if you just want to live alone with your stuff then choose being poor, drop college after a year or two, move back to your parents and die in your room fapping to death...

you were given a chance to improve your life and give it some meaning, it's your choice what you'll do...

7 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-11 13:42 ID:UCUnpKlr


>>dude, college is perfect opportunity for new beginning if you couldn't for some reason find friends, girlfriend etc. at high school

I'm not going to college; I'm going to graduate school. My high school graduation was seven years ago.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-04-11 14:05 ID:3Kiv23u0

well, I don't think I understand it entirely, my country has probably different school system and english is not my native language but I would say that the point of new beginning is in new people, environment and so on...

9 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-11 14:23 ID:UCUnpKlr


I'm sure your country has graduate schools of some sort; they're where you go after college if you want to continue your education even further. Here in the U.S., there are typically two degreed tiers to graduate school.

A Master of Arts (M.A.) or Master of Science (M.S.) degree is the first step in graduate school. If you stop there, an M.A. or M.S. often qualifies you to go right into mid-level management positions.

A Doctorate of Philosophy (Ph.D) is the highest degree achievable in most fields. It signifies an expert level of knowledge about one's field of study. Tenured professorships at most U.S. colleges require applicants to hold a Ph.D.

In my case, I'll be starting an M.A. program in the fall.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-11 15:28 ID:UCUnpKlr


>>Geez, you're so selfish. Why do you care if they use some of your stuff or not?

Some of my study materials are very rare and essentially irreplacable. Further, they were quite expensive to acquire. I need to bring them with me, since they're relevant to my studies -- and I don't want to have to regularly ship them back and forth across the country -- but I have no idea how to secure such things in close quarters.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-11 19:38 ID:fEtcg2UB


that's easy, just tell them this thing is something important to me (and my studies) so please don't touch it. They're not gonna be evil and go out of their way to sabotage your stuff

12 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-12 02:58 ID:yTxUMIg/

It is a gamble. Some roommates can be annoying, some can be great friends, and some don't spend any time in the room so you never see them.

I've experienced all of the above, and I am personally very happy to be renting a single apartment next year. Nothing against my current roommate, he's a great guy, but there's nothing like having your own space to work in and stay up however late you want and not be woken up by your roommate.

13 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-14 20:58 ID:q3bSTAmX

>It is a gamble

Very true. One of my first roommates is one of my best friends 6 years after the fact. Learning to coexist with someone is a useful exercise in assertiveness and negotiation. If you really don't like them, you can usually request to be moved. All in all though should be good company.

14 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-14 21:42 ID:7IdtNWtr

You could also just get a large chest to put your stuff in get a lock for it put it under your bed and your stuff is safe thats what I do at college anyway but I have my own room and next year I'll end up rooming with someone so I'm a little worried too but trust me living by yourself whether in an apartment like I did for a year or in a dorm getting a single room like I am this year has its disadvantages besides monetary cost you will go crazy I am losing my mind I've become paranoid depressed and flat out afraid to even look people in the eyes. Living alone in college a highly social environment is not advised. Living at home with your family is one thing this is entirely different

15 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-15 01:42 ID:UCUnpKlr


>>but trust me living by yourself whether in an apartment like I did for a year or in a dorm getting a single room like I am this year has its disadvantages besides monetary cost you will go crazy I am losing my mind I've become paranoid depressed and flat out afraid to even look people in the eyes.

Actually, that's one thing that really worries me. As things currently stand, I'm already socially awkward, paranoid, and depressed. I've had problems with suicide. Given this, and the fact that I know nobody in the city to which I'm moving, I worry what will happen to me if I live entirely on my own. I'm still highly attracted to it, though, simply because I gravitate to a loner lifestyle. Isolating myself is like a reflexive response to life.

In any event, all this is now a moot point -- I couldn't make up my mind and the university's housing app deadline passed yesterday. Solo living is now basically my only option.

16 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-16 23:26 ID:n3elhEY9

Stop being so fucking full of yourself.

Your shit stinks just as much as everyone else's (if not more).

17 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-19 00:49 ID:N7WOvNHw

dude, you're the creepy guy

18 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-22 09:58 ID:LPP0Izvj

I'm in my second year of graduate school now and I got roommate placement with other graduate students last year... let me tell you it fucking sucked.

Graduate students are some of the most fucking pretentious prissy fucks I've ever had the displeasure of suffering through living with.

In undergrad I had roommates a bunch too and it sucked more than it was cool. I made some friends with my roommates, but the only guys I really got along with were this Korean guy because we had like the same friends so we would all stay up late listening to jazz and this Japanese guy studying language last year, since we were both obsessively clean and shared a bathroom things worked nice.

The other fucks though can get bent. Having roommates is necessary to be a well rounded person. I've had roommates and now I have a single. I've had to deal with this, you haven't.

If you can't deal living with another person, how will you ever get married? Oh wait, this is a chan site, lol.

19 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-23 02:56 ID:wrM1FMnJ


You usually choose with whom you marry. Not so often with roommates.

20 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-26 03:25 ID:3PR9/VEY

All of that "forces you to be social" crap is useless. Trust me, if you're a soulless and quiet loser, having someone sleeping 5 feet from you won't change a thing unless you choose to change your ways.

Plus, not everyone is meant to have roommates. Take me, for example. My desired schedule is to go to sleep around 6-7 PM and wake up around 2-3 AM. I fuck around on the Internet during that time before going on a walk/jog at around 5:30 AM.

However, since I have to share a room with someone, I can't do that all the time. My actual schedule is taking random naps during the day because I don't get enough sleep because my roommate likes to sleep with the fucking TV on.

And the one thing that cemented my decision to give up my fucking paycheck every week before deciding to share a room with someone else was when my roommate left the door unlocked while rushing to class. As a result, someone came in and stole my laptop. I hate him in ways I never thought I could hate someone due to that.

So, here are three questions you should consider when deciding whether or not to share a room.

Do you want to be able to study whenever you want?
Do you want to go to sleep at any time of the day?
Do you want to be able to masturbate when you want to?

I chose yes for all three and because I've experienced not being able to do any of these, I choose to pay extra to have my own room.

To each his own.

21 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-27 16:58 ID:Rdpo8YsG

how do you guys masturbate ???

i am lucky i don't have one.

private place is very important for me

22 Name: Anonymous : 2009-04-27 18:14 ID:aWS1h0pX

i have 2 roommates and still there's time, when nobody's in the room... so chances are always

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