Letting something go (8)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2009-05-23 23:37 ID:3XcugPZV

Helo just to start I ahve asperers syndrome and I think that may have caused an issue at my previous job. I didn't imform anyone of my disibility since I didin't know the easiet way to explain it. One day my team lead msiinterpreted me and in panic I raised my voice to get his attention and tell him what I really meant to say. However he thought I was getting an attitude and told he wouldn't stand for it warning he would write me up if it happened again.

Feelign dmeorialized and scared at the sudden agry display I caved in an apologized thinking "Hey he's older so he must be right." He the nproceeded to tell me people were finding me rude, impatiant, and angry and didint' elaborate why. Furthuremore he said his words alone were the sole reason I was still working there. Eventually I was laid off and despite everyone telling me it was because I was one of the last hire's, I still think my old team lead stoped talking nice about me.

It was months ago but still I can't forget it and sometimes I say I hae him to myself and hope that bad thigns happen to him. I mean sure after the "attitude accusation" he saw I was depressed once he and others gave a me a smiley face note telling me to "be happy." But I jsut really seem to hate him now.

MAybe I should just forget it but I just don't know. If I hadn't raised my voice this whole thing could have been avoided.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2009-05-25 00:30 ID:zax/e+eq

aww.. forget abotu him and just move on.. start looking for a new job.. keep on trying til you get it. Just try to control your temper a bit more.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2009-05-25 01:47 ID:3XcugPZV

I'm still looking for a new job with no luck. Honestly I was not getting a temper I only raised my voice in panic there was no anger at all in my tone.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2009-05-25 19:18 ID:DjEMqQ69

I think you learned an important lesson about yourself, and in the future you will be better able to manage your disease. It's a pity you did not mention it straight away, but that's another lesson for the future. Use your past experiences as support for the future, but not as chains that drag you down.

In your next job, you'll know that you have a tendency to get carried away, so you'll be more proactive about it. Everybody screws up, syndrome or no syndrome, and every one must learn from his own failures, but avoid being trapped by them.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2009-05-25 23:39 ID:3XcugPZV

Yeah your'e write I now know to explain it as a mild form of atutism. I actually called one of my old co workers and explained and he said he personally didn't have a problem with me.

Frankely I am starting to think that team lead was simply letting his offended emotions get the best of him. It happenes a lot with aspies such as myself. I just fiund it hard ot believe now that he was the sole link in my employment.

Oh and Aspergers Syndrome is a disorder not a disease.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2009-05-26 14:59 ID:Kjo+LTVY

>Oh and Aspergers Syndrome is a disorder not a disease.

I'm all for not calling it a disease, but if you call it a disorder, then ipso facto it's a disease, you can't have one and not the other (just check any online dictionary for "disease", and the word disorder will pop up). So don't call it a disorder either, if you don't like the term disease. I suggest you call it a syndrome, which is slightly more neutral and general, and stay at that.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2009-05-27 17:46 ID:2y0DsImZ

Did any of you actually get diagnosed with Asperger's or did you just read about it on the internet and decide it was a good excuse for your social failings?

8 Name: Anonymous : 2009-05-27 18:13 ID:Heaven

>>7 as far as I know only the OP claims to be affected by Asperger's.

Ignoring the contempt implied in your question, it does not really matter if the OP suffers from Asperger's or has another issue, the fact is that he has relational problems stemming from difficulties managing social situations.

This thread has been closed. You cannot post in this thread any longer.