Problems (6)

3 Name: Anonymous : 2009-08-22 13:47 ID:70iI2Rdj

As you know, you have everything it takes to have a nice life (you have an education, don't seem to have a devastating drug addiction, life threatening condition or huge debts). However you are right that something is threatening you, and that's depression. The fears that you have not addressed for a long time have become so strong that your usual stress relievers have stopped working. So either you really work on sorting out your issues, or you may go into full blown depression, which is itself a serious disease.

Now, as for your three problems:

  • your hobbies will satisfy you again when you won't feel so guilty about them. Even starting to handle problems 2 and 3 will be enough to sort this out.
  • Learning to socialize is a long term endeavor. This means that you should start doing it now, but should only expect results to appear in a little while. Because this is particularly difficult for recluses (that's often why they are recluses to start with), I think you could start by talking about your problem with your siblings, and ask their help (for instance by inviting you from time to time to an evening, or a going out). Besides help from family and friends, you should use your centers of interest to further your social skills. These things become much more easy when you feel motivated to be with someone else. Because you like anime and video games, find out clubs which center on those topics, play video games with other gamers (together in real life), chat with people when you go check shops for anime or manga, etc.
  • as for your future, I suggest you contact people who studied the same stuff as you and are now finished, or about to finish. You can check whether there is an alumini organization in your school, talk with the teachers about it, etc. You are hardly alone in facing that problem, so it helps to see what others have done before you. You'll feel much less anxious if you become proactive about it.
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