Stop tickling me now! (23)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-12 21:34 ID:7F5qK8qt

Hello there. Maybe you think this is weird but lately I've got this problem... I'm a 21 year old boy, I have some friends that I've known since I was like seven years old and they have always been my best friends. Lately stey have started hanging out with some guy, who is actually my friends classmate. That was fine with me, and he is often at my place too when my friends comes to visit me. But lately he started commenting on me and making fun of me saying that I'm too skinny and girly (he is quite a big guy and I've always been really slight but I'm happy with my own looks). I look much younger than I am. I don't usually care about such comments at all, but he's always provoking me like that so it's quite irritating. Lately we had another discussion and he asked why I was wearing slim-fit jeans and why I had bare feet. I always have bare feet at home and I told him to shut up. I also said that he was too fat and that he should lose some weight. Then he said "You asked for this" and dragged me to the couch where he made some of my other friends hold my hands behind my back while he started tickling my feet! I got really angry because it tickled a lot and he had no right to do that. I think my other friends saw it as a joke because I was laughing, but I was only laughing because it tickled. He just kept doing it for like 15 minutes or something and I couldn't get free because they're much stronger than I am. I was so angry afterwards because I found it really embarrasing. I told them that I absolutely don't want them to do that again but they just kept joking saying that I was whining and that it was just for fun. And that's not all. Everytime I'm at my friends place they do it again! Sometimes they just hold me while removing my socks. And then this stupid freak just keeps tickling my feet so that it's quite hard for me to breathe because I'm laughing for so long. I can't just stay away because we're in a study group where we must make some important exam projects. I don't know where they got that crazy idea from. I don't know why my best friends started treating me like that but I find it very embarrasing and they do it even though I've told them to STOP. Personally I think this stupid guy is tickling me because he is jealous because I've been dating a girl that he likes. That could be a reason. If I stop visiting my friends I'm afraid people will find out why. I think it is a really strange and embarrasing situation to be in.

What do you think about this? What should I do? Any advice?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 01:42 ID:fQBWRadS

Punch him in the face next time.

But seriously, it might sound primal, but this is a dominance issue. It'll be harder to establish your position now that you've let him get away with it a few times, but it's still possible. Fight back, and get your friends to help. If there worth anything, I'm sure they'll be happy to help you hold him down while you tickle him. This will establish you as being on an equal level.

If he still doesn't stop abusing you, seriously, punch him in the face. You're 21-years-old, so no excuse to call yourself a "boy", be a MAN for heavens sake.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 01:43 ID:fQBWRadS


4 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 03:37 ID:LlMb4oz9

The big one wants to do you with his pee pee.
This is how teenagers act when they like someone but don't know how to show it... No wonder you said you are a boy, you are surrounded by children...

5 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 03:37 ID:1owOoDU4

I think the big dude likes you. Or maybe everyone thinks you're cute cause you're so ticklish :(

just ask him in private real nicely why he has to do that, and you don't like it cause it makes you feel really helpless

6 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 03:41 ID:LlMb4oz9

Oh, yeah! Don't forget that he is human and so if you remove him from his peers he will be really honest with you. Tell him when he is alone that you don't like how he is treating you and ask if he knows how much it bothers you. Be an adult like your age suggests.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 04:36 ID:Heaven


Don't listen to this guy. If anything, 2 had it on the dot stating that this is a dominance issue. If you try to settle this in the way 5 told you to, it'll only make you look weak and you're just trying to appease your aggressor. Of course, this doesn't mean be a barbarian and bash his head in with a chair or something. Instead,just physically resist him. You state that because you're much smaller than your aggressor, you tend to not fight back. It's the very same reason that because you don't retaliate in any way, it makes your aggressor feel like it's ok to continue to do something like that. So the next time when he does something like this, just fight back-although you probably won't win, it sends a clear message to him that you are willing and are capable of fighting back so at least, the teasing should ease up.

In my own personal opinion though, you sound like a godamn nancy boy. Seriously, I know that this is a personal problems board, but Jesus H. Christ I can literally hear your whining through the internet. Just reading your post makes me want to beat you up simply because you present yourself in such a girly and weak manner. As 2 said, grow some balls and man up. You're 21 and you still refer yourself as a boy? disgusting

8 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 08:18 ID:qT1Ziga+

You just don't fit in with your friends, find new friends.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 09:10 ID:LlMb4oz9


Do you completely miss that he is an adult Tickling His Feet? Do you miss that this is a classic teenage crush and the 'aggressor' is half hinting half suppressing this. If this were a girl treating the 21 year old like this you should not doubt that it is a messy crush. You know there are homosexuals in the world right?
You honestly suggest that he has to act like an animal/child in getting rid of this 'bully'. They are a lot older than that; too old for that.

And so you attack his character, way to null any chance he listened to your ill formed advice. (lol irony)

10 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 15:35 ID:33IoQuhy

The big guy is either retarded or likes you.

>>9 is right, but >>7 has a point;

> You're 21 and you still refer yourself as a boy?

11 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 16:02 ID:Heaven

By the way, it's possible to train yourself not to respond to being tickled.

12 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 17:45 ID:Heaven


Do you really think that it's just because he likes him that he's tickling the OP's feet? There are other reasons (such as not to present himself as overly aggressive) that the aggressor's just tickling the OP's feet. If I'm correct in reading OP's post, he's usually studying with his aggressor, his friend, and his girlfriend. What better way to show your superiority without being overly aggressive in a thinly disgused game of feet-tickling. Not only does the aggressor show that he can physically and mentally (in the form of making the op laugh through tickling) overpower the op, it sends a subconscious message to people around him, including his girlfriend, that the OP is a chump.

> They are a lot older than that; too old for that.

Any notion of maturity was dismissed the moment the OP referred to himself as a boy.

13 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-13 22:28 ID:Heaven

An addendum because I ran out of time and had to go to class:
Op's aggressor's sexual orientation is a moot point because I'm giving advice on how to force someone like OP's aggressor to stop bothering him. Gay or not, OP's aggressor sounds like a meathead, and the only way to truly deal with those kind of people is to simply be aggressive back at them. They may outwardly say that they'll stop if confronted enough times through non-aggressive ways, but the problem stems from a repsect issue. The most effective way to make OP's aggressor stop bothering him is to show that the OP is indeed physically capable of fighting back and is not afraid to use it. Even if it is ultimately futile in actually repelling his aggressor, the act of actually fighting back sends a clear message that the OP is not that much of a weakling as originally thought.

14 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-14 05:56 ID:LlMb4oz9


If you assume that there is no sexual tension here then I could agree with aggressive action, but that would be a very immature way to go about it. It's pretending that this aggressive person really is some sort of mindless animal. He has reasons he is doing these things and it is reasoning that can stop him. As soon as you remove this sort of person from their peer group (the other friend and girlfriend) they aren't going to have anyone to show off to.
If he turns out to be a real meat thump then it will become apparent very quickly while talking to him alone, but I highly suggest just approaching this like an adult to find a solution where you are not constant checking your back for 'the enemy' would be much better. AND if talking to him doesn't work just fucking leave your friends. What a bunch of dicks.

15 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-14 07:10 ID:2udx+pFv

“If somebody asks you the question “Are you ticklish?” it doesn’t matter whether you say yes or no, they are going to touch you. If they say “Are you ticklish?” and you don’t wanna be touched, you have to say something like “I have diarrhea, now don’t touch me ‘cus you’re gunna make it come out. And yes…….. I am very ticklish.”

Demetri Martin

16 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-14 10:46 ID:qT1Ziga+

Tickling by adults strikes me as quite the pseudo-sexual activity.

17 Name: Anonymous : 2009-10-14 17:49 ID:V95tmtK/


18 Name: Anonymous : 2009-11-12 03:55 ID:Bf/7k5W+

It's pretty clear to me that if a grown man feels the need to touch another grown man's feet, it's a cause for concern. And while I won't question your own sexual preference, it's entirely possible to gather up some of your confidence and pride and confront him directly without provoking him too much. Pull him aside, look at him sqaurely in the eye and ask him straight out if he's gay, so that he knows you're not joking. Don't smirk, don't smile, don't stutter. If he admits to it, tell him that you don't swing that way and it's clear to you and all of his friends that he's attracted to you because he likes touching your feet, whereas you don't care for it at all. That will clarify things for him in the case he's confused. He's not much more than an aquaintence, and I sure as hell wouldn't even let my closest male FRIENDS tickle my feet. Kinda makes my skin crawl to think of it.

19 Name: Anonymous : 2009-11-12 07:49 ID:agoxnf11

Tell him to fuck off. Don't laugh, say "NO!" and "STOP IT!" in a really pissed voice, and if they don't stop, fucking call the cops on them or something. It's their own fault for molesting you.

20 Name: Fygar : 2010-03-17 00:23 ID:LIFxN79J

This guy sounds like a foot and tickle fetishist who goes both ways at least when it comes to tickling and he's doing this to you because he CAN and because your friends are unsympathetic traitors.

Most tickling fanatics online don't approve of this sort of thing as it's downright cruel and it also makes other tickling enthusiasts look like pervs.

Tell him that Fygar from the TMF said to leave you alone or else he'll find himself in a REAL ticklish situation!! >:-(

21 Name: Anonymous : 2010-03-17 16:45 ID:9wfLRS7e

Sounds like either (A)he has a foot/tickling fetish and you make him randy, or (B)he is trying to show that he has dominion over you.
Regardless of situation, you can either kill the nerve endings in your feet with a neon sign transformer, or you can start working out so you can beat the shit out of him.
Also, your friends hate you.
Also, you hate your father and have sexual thoughts about your mother.
Also, cocks.

22 Name: Anonymous : 2010-06-29 13:00 ID:WsqmYlPd

You pass yourself off as quite helpless. You go around barefoot
in front of a guy who obviously likes feet. Your bully and your
friends like holding you down.
Look either stay away from him and your friends and keep your shoes on or give in, show off your feet in front of them.
Let him tie you down and tickle your feet till he's content and
your screaming like a might paint your toenails while your at it...

23 Name: Psyan : 2010-08-17 21:59 ID:oH/TWudu

You know what? I've given this some thought now and then and something tells me that the OP is in to this whole domination/submissive torture thing and just wants to post about it to see what kind of reactions he'll get.

I think you like being held down and tickle-tortured by this guy or maybe it's a fantasy that you wish were true and making up a post about a situation like that tickles your fancy and you're just tingling to see what kind of answers you'll get.

I mean really! How many guys wine about being the victim of a bigger man who makes weird comments insinuating that he has a girlish figure, wears girlish attire then proceeds to hold him down and tickle him?

Think about it...

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