I never really thought about this until I moved away to college last year. I think the last time I ever made a friend directly (IE just starting a conversation with a person in class etc and eventually becoming friends, etc) was back in elementary school! Almost every friend I’ve ever made has been a friend of one of my friends (excepting the ones that I made back in elementary school). My question to you guys is, is this normal? I mean I don’t really see a problem with it now because the friends I have now have been with me since the fifth grade and we have the best times in the world together but later on in life I could really see this becoming a problem. I generally have problems gaining friends because of my weird/nerdy sense of humor and the fact that I’m just plain awkward but I’ve been in college for 2 and a half years now and haven’t made a friend yet! Are any of you guys like this?
If it´s a problem or not depends on how YOU feel about it, not on what the others say :)
I think I´m pretty much like you in that way( except i´m a girl and you sound like a boy..but who knows?)..I´m a person with "weird/nerdy" likes so I find it very very hard to meet people who can really understand me. My real,true, close friends are so few, but it´s part of my own choice I believe. I´m really selective about the people I wanna spend my time with, so that leads me to be a loner most of the time. Anyway, I don´t believe those guys who have a million friends either..that´s impossible and highly probable they´re fake friends.
Maybe there are lots of people like us, but with our lack of ability to make friends or our tendencies of being alone, we just don´t meet,lol. It´s funny to find them all over the world through chat though.
If you feel ok with that, I don´t think you should worry. Greetings
What kind of shallow friendship could you have with someone you haven't known since your childhood anyway? That would never last, so you'd only be eternally looking for new shallow friendships so that you didn't feel lonely. That's pretty shitty, IMO.
The solution to all of this is becoming a hermit.
>>2
yeah i'm a guy but how did you figure that out? is my writing style just so chock full of testosterone that you could tell right away? haha glad to know at least i'm not the only one who has trouble with this, male or otherwise
>>3
comparing my long time friends with newer friends it wouldn't even be fair! I also know that if i were to just go out and get new friends they would be shallow, but even if they're just shallow relationships i just like to hang around with people (ironic i know)
>>4 LOL :) No, I don´t think you sound so much like having an excess of testosterone :P..I just guessed (without much info but thinking most of the people writing here are guys). English makes it difficult to guess genders and I usually mix them,haha.
>>3 I don´t agree with you at all...being friends from childhood doesn´t make a friendship stronger. It´s not about time but quality of the relationship. Besides, I don´t think it´s easy to keep friends from childhood (I don´t keep any of them because as times passes, I have different interests, necessities,etc that make me closer to new people). I find it very healthy to change friends after a while as long as you have the chance to do it.