So for the longest time (probably from middle school on) I've been having an inner battle waging inside me. On the one hand I felt that I am capable of whatever I put my mind to and should find a dream and pursue it to the end. But what everyone else told me (mom, peers, etc.) is that no matter how hard I try I'll end up in failure. So I've gone through the Navy, earned a Bachelor's degree, and I'm now stuck unemployed and living in a housing facility (a shelter that is shiner, cleaner and more long term).

On the one hand I know that I should just go out and try to find something in my field, look for a school program, work hard and try something, but I feel deep down that whatever I do won't be enough to succeed. Does anyone have this sort of problem?

And I don't believe in affirmation statements, or whispering to myself that I'm the best or some bullshit. Reality will happen to you whether you not you plan for it. But what can I do to motivate myself to try harder and convince my subconscious that failure is not the forecast of my future?

I'm writing this as much for my sake as you. All I value is this laptop on which I am writing. Things can always get better. Always. Things can also always get worse.

If you're likeable, and/or attractive, things just fall into your lap. I suggest you try to socialize as much as you can without jeopardizing your beliefs (meaning, for instance, don't do drugs you normally wouldn't). This can either give energy to you or take it away, but either way it's experience. It's not easy to try to start a conversation, or yell a comment into one you overhear, but if you're not creepy about it, it's supposed to help. Things can always be better, and your only way to hedge your bets is elbow-grease, effort, and a willingness to learn and adapt.

Did your military service help you, or was it a waste of a few years of your life?