Don't really know what to do (25)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2011-05-11 20:30 ID:ZwghpQ22

I play some games online with my GF and an old friend.

Recently my GF and my friend play games alone. This happend because the game we all played, I hated. I only played because my friends were playing, then I stopped. GF and friend continue to play.

Now it's all weird. She stays up all night talking to him on text and voice chat, and recently he bought her some 2 player co-op game so they can play together, it's full price too and pretty new. She's loud on the computer so I don't sleep in her room any more, I sleep alone.

I asked her what was up about it, I said he clearly likes her. She said she didn't know, but a similar situation has come up in the past and I was right. I said I was uncomfortable with it, I feel like I don't talk to her at all anymore. She doesn't even start chats online anymore and seems to forget the world around her. I don't know.

It's bugging me. Should I just man up and leave them to it or intervene and be a gigantic ass?

2 Name: Anonymous : 2011-05-11 22:36 ID:zc+VTBwq

She clearly likes him too. It happens.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2011-05-13 01:40 ID:1/JUrlyI

Leave. She likes him, get out before she embarrasses you by dropping you for your friend.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2011-05-14 09:05 ID:A7DKmhUG

geez, go talk to her about it... just tell her what you feel and whatever happens after that you can deal with it...

5 Name: Anonymous : 2011-05-14 21:08 ID:ZwghpQ22

Yeah, I did talk to her about it after this. I guess I was overacting, I don't know. Everything seems normal now, maybe it's the stress of work.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2011-05-20 00:49 ID:ZwghpQ22

I talked to her, it was fine for a while. He asked if she wants to come visit him and stay at his house.

I said I was uncomfortable, but that she shouldn't not go if she doesn't want to. Thing is, he lives further away from her than I do, but in the same direction. I said why can't she just stay at mine, she said she wouldn't want to bother me if they all go drinking and she'll be drunk.

So my drunk girlfriend could possibly be staying at one of my old friends houses.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2011-05-20 15:26 ID:4XX4dOq7

why don't you drink with them? Or go pretend to get drunk and watch to see what happens? it gives you an excuse to fight your friend for trying to take your girl too. Its simple I got drunk and couldn't control myself. This whole story is kind of weird though I mean do you want to let her go it seems like you are pretty disinterested in the whole thing.

8 Name: Anonymous : 2011-05-25 15:39 ID:ZwghpQ22

I haven't been invited.

For a good analogy, I live on a peninsula near the start, he lives towards the end. Shes going to visit me, then visit him. They're going to go drinking together in his town, then she's gonig to sleep at his house.

Yesterday, she said to him if she wasn't my girlfriend, he'd want to have sex with her. How am I supposed to keep calm. I feel completely unequipped for this kind of scenario. Its like I'm Lvl. 1 and I'm facing the end boss.

I'm going to talk to theguy today.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2011-05-26 06:51 ID:zc+VTBwq

They're going to fuck. Deal with it or move on.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2011-05-31 14:05 ID:CtGRkmFZ

something similar happened to me.

at the end the girl left me for the other guy, sad but true.
move on man, welcome to the real world.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2011-06-02 00:02 ID:YG6zOYag

Your best bet would be to wait and see how things play out.
I had a run-in with the same situation a few years ago, and it ended with us staying together.
Good luck, bro.

12 Name: Anonymous : 2011-06-02 00:19 ID:VRltP0kF

I am just waiting. Same thing every night though. They stay up talking, she talks about intimate things. I can hear her through the wall since I have to sleep alone now. We go home in a few weeks (currently in an apartment for university) so things might change then.

She seems grouchy with me, and happy with him. Any chance she gets, she checks the internet. It cut out for about ten minutes just now and I got to see her for a bit, but it's back now and they're both playing videogames again.

Thanks for the advice, even the hard hitting stuff. I'm never ruling out them getting together. I feel like I'm on the cusp of something.


13 Name: Anonymous : 2011-06-02 08:47 ID:UlH1yiM5

Leave her. You deserve better.

14 Name: Anonymous : 2011-06-05 13:41 ID:VRltP0kF

Going to stop posting here because I feel like I'm whining. It was nice to write about it though. Thanks for listening.

15 Name: Anonymous : 2011-06-05 16:06 ID:YG6zOYag

don't worry, it didn't feel like whining to me.

16 Name: Anonymous : 2011-07-07 05:19 ID:UKX3ndXJ

You may have feelings for her, but you need to realize that she isn't valuing you as you value her. You deserve a better woman;n man up and leave her. It'll hurt, but you'll be better off. Trust me; I know.

17 Name: Anonymous : 2011-07-12 15:02 ID:FowHO6xF

OP here. ID might be different because I'm at home.

We did break up, it wasn't really what anyone in this thread said but just things have been building up for a long time and it felt right to end it when it ended.

I am sorry to see her go, but right now she's at this guys house. I have gone through many stages of emotions since we broke up, but I have hid them all from her.

I'll see her soon at graduation, and i don't know how I'll feel. I'm going to sign off this thread forever now. I deleted the bookmark.

Thank you all for talking to me.

18 Name: Anonymous : 2011-07-13 19:03 ID:nU+h6U9P

I feel for you, >>17. I hope this experience makes you a stronger person in the end, and that you find a girl that's worth it.

19 Name: Anonymous : 2011-07-13 19:26 ID:FowHO6xF

can't leave this thread, I'm sorry.

I don't have any friends in real life to tell this to or hug to get it out. I just want a big hug. just something. I work from home so I've just spent the time alone in my room being sad.its been a week now.

went for a long walk today to try and clear my head but the only thing I can think about is them both doing things to each other.

it's making me sad. i can't believe i believed the whole 'just friends' thing. i can't believe it. im a fucking idiot to believe that. talk all night, share intimate things, just friends. i want to have sex with you, just friends. come to my house, just friends. go past your boyfriends house to get here, don't make any plans to visit him, book the ticket while he's away, just friends

spent a lot of today reading stories about emotional affairs.

im listening to this album we both listened to in its entirety when we got together. i used to like this album, now it reminds me of this.

i feel so desparate and lonely posting here. i'm in that stage where i think i'll never love anyone again. i feel like shes already moved on. she never texted me back when i replied to her message.


20 Name: Anonymous : 2011-07-13 19:27 ID:FowHO6xF

thanks, really. i hope so too.

21 Name: Anonymous : 2011-07-16 23:18 ID:FowHO6xF

Well. We broke up ,she went to his two days later. They had sex. I am now attempting to cope with it. I guess this thread is now over.

Goodbye, and thank you.

22 Name: Anonymous : 2011-07-18 12:08 ID:3VzNpqB2

Don't say you'll never love anyone again. Stay strong, you'll that girl who is right for you someday.

23 Name: sharky : 2011-07-22 01:03 ID:ePlmsT3S

shes just a hoe, don't worry op, you'll pull through

24 Name: Captain Goldpenis : 2011-07-22 17:27 ID:G71NsxvZ

I made a post in your other thread, and I want to make sure you read it. Just in case you missed it, I'm linking it here:

25 Name: Anonymous : 2011-07-22 20:13 ID:FowHO6xF

Thank you sir. And All of you. Even thoughthis episode is over, you have all been a great help.

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