Hey.
The past three months have been terrible and still, I am not great right now. I am not looking for pity. To summarise everything; broke up with girlfriend, finished Uni, came home, no friends, lonely.
I'm just looking for some tips on how to get myself back together. Currently I am focusing all my time into looking for jobs, I often go out for walks, and sometimes, I go to a bar with some old old friends, but I don't enjoy it much, although it is a very welcome distraction.
Really, I am asking for people who have had a similar experience, and what they have done to get out of it, thank you.
what you need is to catch a flu, or some disease that makes you feel like crap and bed-ridden, but from which you heal without too much trouble. While you are sick in bed you would have time to think about all those cool things that you could be doing if you were not sick.
You are in a time of transition, so why not take the chance to do some of those things you thought would be good to do, but deferred to a later date? Why not try/read/meet different things/books/people? Make an effort to break out of the mould, and experiment a bit.
Hi there.
I've been through something similar myself.
Well, I say similar. I mean the same thing. Exactly the same.
I find the only thing that would make me happy is talking to my ex, but I know that's not what he wants to do, (and not what you'd want to do either so I guess it doesn't really help). To make it worse he hates me and I think one reason we broke up was because - as I've just discovered - he followed a lot of bad advice on the internet rather than just talking to me about his problems. It's been months and it still hurts just as much as before.
I wish I could give you advice. I've done a lot of stupid things I wouldn't advise. All I can suggest is:
Just remember the things that have made you happy and do them; MMOs or long walks or Bob Marley or anything. It will at least temporarily help to block out some of the stress. If there's something you miss, work on getting it back. If there's something new you want in your life, make it your mission to get it. Occupy yourself with the things that brought you happiness; even if you don't think it will make you feel better, surrounding yourself with good memories will take your mind off your problems.
I think this is basically the end of the road for me, but hopefully things will get better for you. Try not to feel too lonely. There are always people that care about you.
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This actually happened. I spent my time in bed reading. It was good to break away from using my PC all day, every day. So if you are some sort of gypsy that has cursed this on me, thanks.
>>3
Thanks for the advice. I was reading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. It pretty much highlighted every mistake we both made.
I'm going back to bed now.
i dont give a fuk u.
Live for something.
The only thing that has ever helped my soul (beyond playing music and reading the Myth of Sisyphus) was getting in my van and traveling the States for months, stopping at National Parks and spending little money. Sleep in your vehicle. Eat simple.
Learn to love being alone. It's the best thing that's ever happened to you.
read the thread" death brings skeletons" Its a shortened version of my personal life that I wrote hoping people would read it and learn to just move on with their life.. Just know that all these things happened six years ago and I am an adult now and not a rotten kid before u check it out