I've never told any of this before. I feel like I need some help.
I'm 26 year's old. I've only ever had 1 girlfriend, which I met at student accommodation at university, I've lost my virginity to her when I was 20.
At first I had problems with my erection when I was intimate with her, which was a massive blow to my confidence. I saw a doctor, he said everything is fine with my hardware. We worked on it, and figured it out.
We where together for almost 2 years, then she broke up with my email when I was in another country. After a year of not seeing each other we've started hanging out again, and having sex on a regular basis. It were sort of together, but didn't want to admit it.
During that period I've had attempted drunken sex with a flatmate, but also had problems with getting hard, which I blamed on how drunk I was. I've had a crush on her since we've started living with each other.
University ended, we both went separate ways. Same with my exgirlfriend.
My ex visited my a year or two after university, and we where having sex the same day, she stayed at my place for a couple of days. When she went back home I cried for a day.
I've never ever had any other sexual contact with girls, had a few drunken make outs, but never one night stands.
I've only been one 1 date in my life, with a girl I met via OKCupid. It didn't really work out, it was pretty awkward.
I'm scared of getting close to girls/dating, because I have a fear of not only being inexperienced with women, but also I'm freaked out that I won't get hard when it comes to getting freaky.
So this is the story of my dating life.
I'm not unattractive, I'm quite skinny, but not horribly. I've been told I have nice eyes, and my lesbian friends say I'm handsome.
Some people think I'm gay, I'm not really. It's also an issue for me when people insist I am. Anyway, any advice about dating would be appreciated!
"You must be gay!" is the popular solution to every sexual issue these days. If you honestly know that you're not, then you're not.
I have a similar problem. I don't have any hardware problems, but I'm just not attracted to most women although I'm straight. It's something about most of their styles and behaviors that seriously turn me off. This might also be the case for you. Have you considered that possibility?