Issues with the people around me, and my gf (3)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2012-09-07 07:31 ID:khDbLQTu

I'm having a pretty big issue here, it's been a fucking long time and it hasn't really been resolved. I guess I just didn't have the energy to deal with it but it's reaching the boiling point. Basically, my parents and my sister do not seem to welcome my girlfriend at all. My sister's always been weird, she just hides in her room if there's a guest over. My girlfriend isn't just a 'guest' though, and each time my gf comes over she just walks away and doesn't even try to say hi. My girlfriend is really upset that my sister does this, and also because my family does not invite her to any of our activities. My family does not do that much at all though, so mostly just a dinner a few times a year if anything.

I wanted to just approach my family and have a chat, but I feel and know things will end up being fucking awkward for EVERYONE once I bring it up. I feel that if I say anything, then there will be a bad impression on my girlfriend since it's obvious she had a problem with my family (whether justified or not). She's my first girlfriend, so I just assumed at first that my family is just not used to me having a gf and bringing someone over but it's been a year already. I feel that something's gotta be done.

I'm also having this issue with my friends not seeming like they give a shit too.

What I'm trying to ask is, my gf is pretty upset and I feel she is right to be, but how am I supposed to bring this up to people without making things awkward? Or what else can I do to make things work out. I really don't know.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2012-09-07 10:59 ID:frGkJEbO

I'm sorry, I'm not quite following you here. I understand your sister is acting like a bitch, but how about your parents? You said they don't invite your GF, but they invite you, right? They don't say "don't bring your GF with you" do they? From your post it doesn't seem to me they're doing anything wrong, but of course there could be some other things you didn't mention in your post, so sorry if I misunderstood.

Anyway, what I think is you should talk to your parents alone at first. Don't involve your GF and sister in the discussion, at least not at first. Just ask them do they not like your GF, and why not. They might hold back if she is actually there, and if they don't hold back and she's there she might be pretty hurt. If you get things sorted out with your parents, you could ask them to talk to your sister, it would probably mean more coming from them than from you since it's YOUR GF she doesn't like and she might just ignore what you say because of that.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2012-09-08 02:50 ID:khDbLQTu


Thank you for your response. I'm surprised I got such a serious response, I haven't posted here for a while.

I wasn't sure what details to put in my post but my parents also acted weird. My dad wanted to go to the states one time but I asked him if I could bring my gf as well, he basically said no. Then a few weeks later my parents were talking about going to the states, and he brought up that my gf's house is so far (not really) and it would take so much gas to get there, I just thought there was no point.

My sister is pretty weird, and difficult. She won't really listen to my parents anymore so I'm not sure how that would work out. However, I do agree with your idea and it makes more sense. I wasn't thinking properly and I was about to approach my sister first actually. I think it WOULD be best to just talk to my parents because I'm not sure why they're being like that because just because my parents don't like her (if they don't) doesn't mean that much to me because my gf didn't do anything wrong.

Sorry long day of work, I've been out for 12 hours so I hope I made sense in the post.

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