Guess you'll have to drop hints so you won't be seen as only a friend?
Don't die on me thread!!!
my best friend is asking me who i have a crush on, it happens to be his ex and no way in hell im telling him
damn...he is a good guesser
Does it count if I'm ok with being single?
does anyone think long distance relationship will work?? alot of people tell me that its not gonna work but some say that depends on the people....
i say 60-70% they dont work
i agree, the relationship is so far away and plus you cant see each other so whats the point of it??
begin in a relationship means spending alot of time with ur partner, so with that logic long distance relationships dont work, it realy depends on when ur gonna see her next or how often u see her
While I'm very much a hopeless romantic and wish to believe with all my heart that love counqers all, I must sadly report that all instances of long-distance relationships that I've been witness too have failed.
One succeded, but that whole "long-distance" thing lasted all of four months or so, and they moved in together.
KEEP HOPE ALIVE! (But don't be a fool, eh?)
>>379
one could say that about relationships in general
Last night I realised that the girl that I've loved all these years died (metaphorically) a while back. Which is probably for the better considering it was unrequited love.
Happened to me not to long ago. I guess it helps you move on. I dont know though, ive yet to find a girl in which I can seriously like. Alot of the girls ive come to know are just party heads, and very high maintenance. Ones that wear too much make-up, really obsessive about clothes...you know those type of girls. Which I generally dislike.
Its really hard to find the nice simple girls now a-days.
I agree. This is one of the reasons I've been getting by even though I've been single for quite some time now. It seems like the few girls I think would be the effort are taken, and everyone else is just so high-maintenence or so completely into things I'm not.
I met a girl recently, whom I've become good friends with. I didn't realize she was single at the time but now she's dating another friend of mine. At first I was upset/jealous, but then I started spending time with the both of them and realized that we probably wouldn't have made a good couple. She and her boyfriend are very much into going out to bars everynight, something I'm just not that into. I go along with them sometimes, but usually when it's a group of us so I don't feel so awkward.
Nevertheless, I have met girls who get along fine with my quirks, so I know they exist. They just all have boyfriends. ^^;;;
I've been thinking alot latley whether i want to try long distance relationship but its very true what you guys said.. whats the point of it? your so far away and cant even see each other. i mean just now i havn't heard from her for 3 weeks so i dont think it will work, its best to stay good friends. sometimes i really wonder what a relationship is like cos i have neen single for my whole life at the moment ＿|￣|○" most girls i know are those "cool" types, i say hi to them and dont even get a reply ~~" by the way... if you have a dream... do most girls think your immature or something??
I don't know about the long-distance relationship, can't really say that if it's ever a good idea or not. However, I have a friend who's been in one for 7+ years, and is better off than when I first met him... even though he laments here and there about not being able to talk to her.
As for hating to be single: yeah, I do hate being single, but that is what I made of myself... an existence of loneliness. I made myself this way, and this is the way I shall stay. Unfortunately, it's not that easy, for me at least, to want to continue to stay single. Even though it was, at the time ( and still is ), considered "not really one", the experience of spending time and effort with the opposite gender, has ripped the ignorance of relationships from my character sheet. I can no longer look at my apartment and say "yeah, I'm single... who needs others?" Now, it's more like "well, shit" than anything... but I'll continue my course to stay single... not for that crap known as "the one" or, more expanded "the one for me"... because there is no other reason why I should not be.
Depends on the level of shallowness and other factors of the girl themselves: some thinks it's nuts to dream, others think that it's good to set a goal and whatnot. Unfortunately, there's too many variables and whatnot to work with, but basically there's a wide range of answers to that one.
hmm i see! thanks for that!~
most girls i know think having dreams are immature people or something ＿|￣|○" this girl i like is the only one that doesn't make fun of me because of my dream..
i don't think i've ever met a person that thinks having dreams is immature. foolish maybe but not immature lol
maybe i am just unlucky that i met those type~"~
btw if a girl ask you out... does that mean anything?
depends what you mean by ask out. like on a date or just to hang out? she could see you as a brother or something.
well... shes just returning some stuff she borrowed... but last time when we met, she dragged me to buy books with her and i bought her lunch. hhmm mayb just me thinkig to much ~"~
that doesn't really lean one way or another. that could be interpreted both ways.
really?? well i will just see what heppens later
hmm i just messaged the girl to see if shes free on wednday becasue apparently in the city there is going to be fireworks so i'm hoping i can ask her if she wants to go watch the fireworks... but maybe she doesn't want to go >"<
Gahah, she does it again.
Me "Yeah so next week let's go to [....]" (awesome date spot)
Her "Ok ^____^"
Two days later
Her "Oh btw I invited two of my girlfriends along, hope you don't mind ^____^"
Me "...." %#^&*$#%^&@
Give-up time?
Also, bumping this thread so someone can 400GET.
Ouch, that must suck. But I dont think you should give up... just yet.
Bumping as well. Eheh.
sigh..... I don't know if its sad cuz I'm alone or its sad that I'm posting here =P
my parent finally left for Hong Kong for a while leaving me in canada a house/5 floors of emptyness... normally I would be like w00t, but now the house is just slient,
I'm a 18 year old Canadian male,
been though 6 relationships to date,
but lol ya know sometimes I think I know what those people mean by its easier to stay single if you have been single all along verus if you have dated before, before you date you don't feel like anything is missing or it can be replaced by gaming, anime, studying, etc... but few things can fill that void....
lol I need a beer (or probably not a good idea)
*woo! 400th post! xD
anyway it turned out she never replied me back and stil we dont know when we are meeting. I'm also waiting for a reply from a girl that lives miles away from me! *sighh!~~"
>>399 i know whats its like being by ur self at home cos i know that silince and quietness at home! lol a beer is not the best idea! go watch a movie or do something on ur spare time! or even better jsut bum around 4ch xD
>>399
I say, blast extremely loud music as you lounge around the house.
And on the subject of dating, I myself believe that if youre single, youre single, and if youre dating someone, youre dating. Theyre two different experiences.. Both with their pros and cons. Being single means you can basically do what you want and stuff, without someone there to be like, sorta nag at you in a way. But if youre in a relationship.. theres that whole "love" thing.
So theres my nonsensical ramble for today.
>>401 (sorry I don't know how to do that blue thing please teach me XD)
ya I know what you mean hmm I guess I'll rant a lil last winter/spring I was in a well not soo great relationship (she wanted me purely for physical reasons and I didn't want that so I ended it) afterward in summer I dated again but I just can't get the feeling out of my mind that I was being used so thus before anything got too deeper I sorta politly ended it with that other girl saying I wasn't ready yet and I don't want to hurt you she understood and was like but when you are ready if you ever wanna date again gimme a call
I never dated since... I still feel lonely at time but I guess that is my fault XD but I still don't think I should be dating I guess... dunno I have a weird life or I guess everyone goes though that as well.
Man being fucking single sucks, I just left a short lived relationship a month ago, and before that not much else happened, a friend of mine is a total friggin tease and drives me off the wall, and so do afew others.
It sucks, but what can I do :/
^ ^
masterbate?
errr kay I'm probably gonna get called a lair or something
first I'm not gonna say I never masterbated nor will I say I will never do it again
but seriously for some people after a person as gone to a certain length in a relationship, well you sorta grow outta it
just like how I now find porn boring... I mean its the same shit over and over again...
basically what I'm trying to say is if a person lives in a hole all his life watching the shadows that appear on the wall its gonna be the coolest thing for him, but once he leaves that hole and sees the real world, then gets thrown back into the cave, watching shadows ain't what it used to be once you've seen the rainbow (sorry for using bits of Plato's "the allegory of the cave")
I am giant vagina when it comes to women. I am a freshman in college, and I am sitting terrified that I am going to ask a girl I really like out. I have asked out few girls out before, but I didn't care about the girls. They were just challenges me and my friends gave each other to pass time during our 'study sessions' are Barnes and Noble. I asked out a girl once, and got shot down. It didn't really bother me, it was a random girl, I didn't fucking care if she said yes or no.
Now I am in college. And now there is a girl I would without a doubt care if she said yes or no. I have never felt such a strong feeling for someone in my life, I also never felt such a terror in my life. I am very shy, I have an inferiority complex, thats why I took up the drums (Beatles reference). I have been taught that every action has a consequence, and it doesn't help that I am a pessimist.
I digress. This girl, she is my biology lab partner. I am guaranteed to see her once a week. She is our college's marching band is a fan of our basketball program as am I. Without a doubt, she considers me a friend, well at least I hope. Our lab is the last lab of the day, ends at 9:30pm, and I walk her to her room after class. However, I just see this as coincidence, since we both finish the assignment at the same time she being my partner and all and she her dorm is on the way to mine. We both like have similar interests (movies, music, love for the school's basketball team). She too plays an instrument; she is our marching band and was able to go with our beloved basketball team to the NCAA Tournament games. However, fate being ironic, decided to upset our team and she had to come home early, but that allow me to see her. In fact, when I saw her, when she got back, something inside of me said, 'you need to ask her out.' and this is where I am right now.
So, when, where, how...what the hell should I do? I am too nervous to think/to act. I think when the Perfect Situation comes, if it comes, I will recognize it and wuss out. I need to stop ranting, its 2:45 am and I have class at 9.
wow. damnit. i just dreamt about someone i had a massive thing for a year or two ago. someone i haven't seen since back then, and am unlikely to see ever again, in reality. i suppose i'm not over him.
>I am giant vagina
the size of a hallway.
Though seriously.
You're waiting for the perfect moment. Don't wait for it. Just do it. If you wait for the "perfect situation" to occur you'll be 95 years old and still waiting for the "perfect situation." THEY DON'T EXIST. Better to try to MAKE a good situation. When she's not busy, ask if you can talk privately, and ask her out without vibrating or acting like a wuss. Just ask to see her privately somewhere, and ask her. The worst that can happen is she ties you up and whips you for a few hours before cutting your balls off and dipping you into a vat of iodine.
I know how it is when you like a pretty girl and you feel too embarassed to ask her out. Just ask yourself three questions constantly and reassure yourself. 1. Is she a good person? 2. Is she someone you could see yourself with a month or two down the road? 3. Is it better to just keep it at Friendship, if circumstances don't permit a deeper relationship? If those questions can be answered properly, then do it. NOTHING BAD will happen. She might turn you down. She might say, "Oh hey sure, how about Saturday?" You'll never know and you'll kick yourself in the ass if you never ask. And you'll never gain any confidence unless you try. Even if you fall flat on your face, you'll know how or how not to ask the question.
But for gods sake never let a turn-down or a heartbreak fuck you up. I let that happen and threw away three years of my life. Just get over it and don't keep asking yourself "what if" or "I shoulda coulda woulda", or you'd have learned nothing from your experience. "Take it like a man", and all that shit.
Hope this was helpful.
I agree with >>409 perfect moment isn't for waiting, you have to act to get it. if you never experienced being shot down by a girl, its better if you try it cos you would know what its like but i must warn you its not a good feeling, the thing about being shot down is you must get over it ASAP otherwise it just drags your feelings down and you will feel even worse. I'm not trying to scare anyone here but just a warning about it! currently I'm waiting for someone i really like and i properly said that so many times xD anyway have some confidence!! you can do it!! ^^
Don't wait for the perfect moment that never exist if you want to ask her then just do it before its too late.
If you try to wait for the perfect moment you are only going to end up regreting it after you missed your chance.
With that said I'm not saying just randomly go up and ask, you have to well wait for the mood or chance to ask properly but that doesn't mean wait for the perfect moment basically
You should try to act quick before its too late.
Don't wait!!
Girls are usually sensitive... she can feel that there is sth going on.
Girls usually do the waiting, we are actually waiting for you to do the first move. Try to talk to her and really pay attention to the small details of her life. Make her feel that you care for her and is interested in her.
Oh.. and look her straight into the eyes when the moment comes, then ask her out!!!
Thanks for the advice. I was reading my little rant, and man I really must have been stressed out. I had to write a history paper and a physics lab (in fact I had to do the lab twice, since I messed up the calculations). When I am really stressed out and left alone to hear my thoughts, well lets say things can go nuts. As of now I am far more calmer (skipped my morning class to get a extra hour of sleep and I eat a full meal for once). I'm hoping to ask her out by tonight for a date on Thursday. I have leave campus for the weekend, so I can't plan anything for the weekend. If I can't find her today, I will probably ask her out Monday after lab. Anyway thanks for the help, I'll try to keep you updated on my progress, if I get time to post (I am sitting in history lecture right now). Again thanks for all your help.
goodluck!!!
moichido
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
I wish to hear ur good news :)
Don't freak out or act weird in front of her though, give her a good impression!
Way to go!
Busy, I am way too busy.
I was able to see her at the dinning hall, as she was leaving while I was eating. I quickly ended my meal, and i hurried to catch up with her. Our dinning hall has two different exits on opposite sides of the building, and I chose the wrong side. orz
Awww, at least you tried^^
if you haven't already though try to get her contact/phone/msn/ for ummm "study purposes" XD and do some small talk after you ask about the lab to get to know her more likes/dislikes, and maybe just casually ask her out to lunch or something to start with then go from there
Awww man...
TEXT MESSAGE HER if you get her phone number.
It works really well, believe me.
But don't flood her inbox though...
And then when you two start getting pretty familiar, then you can start like calling her at night and start those "night time" chats. Seriously that will be a great leap!!
Good luck! :)
texting wont work, they see each other at least once a week, i say next time u see her ask her out to lunch or somthing then working your way from there
actualli i think Text message is better, cos u at least can talk to her but never double send, reply when she replies and if she doesn't reply then leave it, or u can ask for her email! GOOD LUCK ﾟ∀ﾟ
the only problem with text and email is that well its not instant contact and also since its just word you won't get stuff like the tone of her voice or hints/ stuff like that, as in you won't have as much time to adjust accordingly to the situation.
your right but you usualy start from text messages or email then later start from phone calls. like you can ask "hey do you want to talk on the phone? its easier then typing messages all the time", really depends on the girl actuali
there are no set rules on "first u start texting then....",
its basicly whatever works, i think the best thing u can do if ask her out to lunch or somthing, basicly where u just see her more often, and this will allow for you to get to know her better, text thing is somthing quick and for people that u dont see on a regular bais, but then again i never use sms unless some one texts me
personally depending on where you are the situation changes like in Japan most people text msg each other a lot.
but if you are in North America or Europe I think mostly people either use a msging system or phone.
ya personally I would try Msn or Msging system since it also gives you the option of Webcam and voice chats, for times when you want it.
hmm back on the topic of being a single rant thread
ya know life is messed sometime I'm happy with my freedom of being single and no longer tied with the strings of relationship.
Yet at other times, espeically when my friends talk about their perfect relationship or when I'm out and I see a lot of couples, part of my wishes I hadn't broken it off last summer. Part of my wishes I still had someone I could rely on, someone to talk rant to, someone to comfort and to be comforted by.
Sigh I wish next year would come then I can finally move into Residence at University and maybe start a new life
I guess I'm really lame eh?
lol thats normal, some people prefer to be single but some people preger to have a relationship. the good thing about being single is that you can do what ever you want without someone stuck on you, but the good thing about relationship is that you can be with someone without beeing by your self.
I know how you feel but I guess you can't always have the best of both worlds, or I guess you could depending on how close and understanding your partner is.
no luck
sorry to hear ~"~
my life of nothingness seems to come back to me.... i feel like i lost something but cant tell what it is~"~
>>432
lol the feelings of nothingness in our lives I think is something everyone in this single rant thread shares
and after joining 4-ch for a few weeks now I finally found out why this board appeals to a lot of people and why 2-ch got so famous, having the ability to post anonymously has allowed me to post a lot of aspect of life I haven't be able to share with other people^^ it really takes the weight off my chest I guess.
anyhow back to topic
The feelings of nothingness and something missing is a feeling most of us here share, you should try to fill it up with something even if its only temp solution. I use biking, studying, and photography to take up my time^^ I used to do gaming but I found out that only lead to more drama espeically if its an mmorpg lol. So rather than sitting here and reading this thread go outside and do something spring is here and the summer is coming, everyone should really go out and look for something to do because before you know it, time flies and you will end up regreting the time that has been wasted.
Regret is but the past trying to tell you not to waste the future and something not to be repeated. If you stay in the regrets of the past you will just end up regerting more as the future and present past you by...^^
lol I got off topic again sorry
nice kopipe
>>433 your so right! somehow i enjoy being on 4-ch although most of us are just being anonymous. but somehow i have lost my intrest in girls for some reason, seems because in the past i been tricked by girls to many times that i properly just cant be bothered going for it anymore. somehow i think the girls i met are just using me for something..... well anyway i'm gonna try and find something to do rather then sit here all day reading the board!~ you guys should do the same! I'm using my time on my movies now xD! doesn't make me think that much when i work on my movies!~ find something to do and get stuck on it and you will find you life more intresting ^^
i'm lonely
hahaha yeah xD!
>>438
If it's copype, it's not really important. Just some random usually unrelated rant copied and pasted in.
oh actually I tranlated some of it and its actually related
it was something about this rant about
a guy going to a new school
something about a cute girl
something about telling her he likes her and then something about regert
sorry my japanese skill = ewww
could someone translate it though? it does seems pretty interesting.
>>441 i am very bored now so i translated >>434 copipe :P
line 1 totally agree with you.
line 2 by the way,
line 3 i went to a bar with my old friend the other day
line 4 we went to the same kindergarten, elementary, middle and high school
line 5 but since we go to different colleges, it was the first time to see her in almost year and half
line 6 so we had so much to talk about. we kept talking and talking.
line 7 then, i noticed it was already midnight, so i was gonna take off.
line 8 but she was so drunk.
line 9 i never realized she was such a bad drinker.
line10 so i had no choice but take her home.
line11 on the way, she threw up many times, but i managed to get her place somehow.
line12 after having put her on bed, i exhaustedly sat down on the floor.
line13 then i looked at her sleeping face.
line14 i noticed she became very pretty while she was away.
line15 that moment i felt she was not just a friend but a woman first time in my life.
wooww this reminds me of this movie i saw where he took a drunk girl to a hotel xD Details Requested!
>>443
would that movie be My Sassy Girl by any chance?
i was thinking of the exact same thing !~
>>443
lol that sounds very much like My Sassy Girl XD
except the childhood part
I never thought kopipe would receive such a warm reception