Singles Rant Thread (1000)

398 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-19 21:07 ID:b3wnx4af

Ouch, that must suck. But I dont think you should give up... just yet.

Bumping as well. Eheh.

399 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-20 04:37 ID:s4goBvY4

sigh..... I don't know if its sad cuz I'm alone or its sad that I'm posting here =P

my parent finally left for Hong Kong for a while leaving me in canada a house/5 floors of emptyness... normally I would be like w00t, but now the house is just slient,

I'm a 18 year old Canadian male,
been though 6 relationships to date,
but lol ya know sometimes I think I know what those people mean by its easier to stay single if you have been single all along verus if you have dated before, before you date you don't feel like anything is missing or it can be replaced by gaming, anime, studying, etc... but few things can fill that void....

lol I need a beer (or probably not a good idea)

400 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-20 05:08 ID:ukcG5SZJ

*woo! 400th post! xD

anyway it turned out she never replied me back and stil we dont know when we are meeting. I'm also waiting for a reply from a girl that lives miles away from me! *sighh!~~"

>>399 i know whats its like being by ur self at home cos i know that silince and quietness at home! lol a beer is not the best idea! go watch a movie or do something on ur spare time! or even better jsut bum around 4ch xD

401 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-20 22:15 ID:b3wnx4af

>>399
I say, blast extremely loud music as you lounge around the house.

And on the subject of dating, I myself believe that if youre single, youre single, and if youre dating someone, youre dating. Theyre two different experiences.. Both with their pros and cons. Being single means you can basically do what you want and stuff, without someone there to be like, sorta nag at you in a way. But if youre in a relationship.. theres that whole "love" thing.

So theres my nonsensical ramble for today.

402 Name: Post 399 : 2006-03-21 21:02 ID:s4goBvY4

>>401 (sorry I don't know how to do that blue thing please teach me XD)

ya I know what you mean hmm I guess I'll rant a lil last winter/spring I was in a well not soo great relationship (she wanted me purely for physical reasons and I didn't want that so I ended it) afterward in summer I dated again but I just can't get the feeling out of my mind that I was being used so thus before anything got too deeper I sorta politly ended it with that other girl saying I wasn't ready yet and I don't want to hurt you she understood and was like but when you are ready if you ever wanna date again gimme a call

I never dated since... I still feel lonely at time but I guess that is my fault XD but I still don't think I should be dating I guess... dunno I have a weird life or I guess everyone goes though that as well.

403 Name: Nanuk : 2006-03-22 02:07 ID:QTy7eBk3

Man being fucking single sucks, I just left a short lived relationship a month ago, and before that not much else happened, a friend of mine is a total friggin tease and drives me off the wall, and so do afew others.
It sucks, but what can I do :/

404 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-22 02:10 ID:HDM8Z4h0

^ ^
masterbate?

405 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-22 02:16 ID:s4goBvY4

errr kay I'm probably gonna get called a lair or something

first I'm not gonna say I never masterbated nor will I say I will never do it again

but seriously for some people after a person as gone to a certain length in a relationship, well you sorta grow outta it

just like how I now find porn boring... I mean its the same shit over and over again...

basically what I'm trying to say is if a person lives in a hole all his life watching the shadows that appear on the wall its gonna be the coolest thing for him, but once he leaves that hole and sees the real world, then gets thrown back into the cave, watching shadows ain't what it used to be once you've seen the rainbow (sorry for using bits of Plato's "the allegory of the cave")

406 Name: fossil : 2006-03-22 07:53 ID:9TUGPvQ7

I am giant vagina when it comes to women. I am a freshman in college, and I am sitting terrified that I am going to ask a girl I really like out. I have asked out few girls out before, but I didn't care about the girls. They were just challenges me and my friends gave each other to pass time during our 'study sessions' are Barnes and Noble. I asked out a girl once, and got shot down. It didn't really bother me, it was a random girl, I didn't fucking care if she said yes or no.

Now I am in college. And now there is a girl I would without a doubt care if she said yes or no. I have never felt such a strong feeling for someone in my life, I also never felt such a terror in my life. I am very shy, I have an inferiority complex, thats why I took up the drums (Beatles reference). I have been taught that every action has a consequence, and it doesn't help that I am a pessimist.

I digress. This girl, she is my biology lab partner. I am guaranteed to see her once a week. She is our college's marching band is a fan of our basketball program as am I. Without a doubt, she considers me a friend, well at least I hope. Our lab is the last lab of the day, ends at 9:30pm, and I walk her to her room after class. However, I just see this as coincidence, since we both finish the assignment at the same time she being my partner and all and she her dorm is on the way to mine. We both like have similar interests (movies, music, love for the school's basketball team). She too plays an instrument; she is our marching band and was able to go with our beloved basketball team to the NCAA Tournament games. However, fate being ironic, decided to upset our team and she had to come home early, but that allow me to see her. In fact, when I saw her, when she got back, something inside of me said, 'you need to ask her out.' and this is where I am right now.

So, when, where, how...what the hell should I do? I am too nervous to think/to act. I think when the Perfect Situation comes, if it comes, I will recognize it and wuss out. I need to stop ranting, its 2:45 am and I have class at 9.

407 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-22 11:34 ID:LmrJqJhZ

wow. damnit. i just dreamt about someone i had a massive thing for a year or two ago. someone i haven't seen since back then, and am unlikely to see ever again, in reality. i suppose i'm not over him.

408 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-22 12:26 ID:NEy1E5/B

>I am giant vagina

the size of a hallway.

409 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-22 12:33 ID:NEy1E5/B

>>406

Though seriously.

You're waiting for the perfect moment. Don't wait for it. Just do it. If you wait for the "perfect situation" to occur you'll be 95 years old and still waiting for the "perfect situation." THEY DON'T EXIST. Better to try to MAKE a good situation. When she's not busy, ask if you can talk privately, and ask her out without vibrating or acting like a wuss. Just ask to see her privately somewhere, and ask her. The worst that can happen is she ties you up and whips you for a few hours before cutting your balls off and dipping you into a vat of iodine.

I know how it is when you like a pretty girl and you feel too embarassed to ask her out. Just ask yourself three questions constantly and reassure yourself. 1. Is she a good person? 2. Is she someone you could see yourself with a month or two down the road? 3. Is it better to just keep it at Friendship, if circumstances don't permit a deeper relationship? If those questions can be answered properly, then do it. NOTHING BAD will happen. She might turn you down. She might say, "Oh hey sure, how about Saturday?" You'll never know and you'll kick yourself in the ass if you never ask. And you'll never gain any confidence unless you try. Even if you fall flat on your face, you'll know how or how not to ask the question.

But for gods sake never let a turn-down or a heartbreak fuck you up. I let that happen and threw away three years of my life. Just get over it and don't keep asking yourself "what if" or "I shoulda coulda woulda", or you'd have learned nothing from your experience. "Take it like a man", and all that shit.

Hope this was helpful.

410 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-22 14:48 ID:ukcG5SZJ

I agree with >>409 perfect moment isn't for waiting, you have to act to get it. if you never experienced being shot down by a girl, its better if you try it cos you would know what its like but i must warn you its not a good feeling, the thing about being shot down is you must get over it ASAP otherwise it just drags your feelings down and you will feel even worse. I'm not trying to scare anyone here but just a warning about it! currently I'm waiting for someone i really like and i properly said that so many times xD anyway have some confidence!! you can do it!! ^^

411 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-22 18:34 ID:3OcaEuVf

>>406

Don't wait for the perfect moment that never exist if you want to ask her then just do it before its too late.

If you try to wait for the perfect moment you are only going to end up regreting it after you missed your chance.

With that said I'm not saying just randomly go up and ask, you have to well wait for the mood or chance to ask properly but that doesn't mean wait for the perfect moment basically

You should try to act quick before its too late.

412 Name: Miss Anonymous : 2006-03-22 18:35 ID:3OcaEuVf

>>406

Don't wait!!
Girls are usually sensitive... she can feel that there is sth going on.

Girls usually do the waiting, we are actually waiting for you to do the first move. Try to talk to her and really pay attention to the small details of her life. Make her feel that you care for her and is interested in her.

Oh.. and look her straight into the eyes when the moment comes, then ask her out!!!

413 Name: fossil : 2006-03-22 20:47 ID:1lcjlT/h

Thanks for the advice. I was reading my little rant, and man I really must have been stressed out. I had to write a history paper and a physics lab (in fact I had to do the lab twice, since I messed up the calculations). When I am really stressed out and left alone to hear my thoughts, well lets say things can go nuts. As of now I am far more calmer (skipped my morning class to get a extra hour of sleep and I eat a full meal for once). I'm hoping to ask her out by tonight for a date on Thursday. I have leave campus for the weekend, so I can't plan anything for the weekend. If I can't find her today, I will probably ask her out Monday after lab. Anyway thanks for the help, I'll try to keep you updated on my progress, if I get time to post (I am sitting in history lecture right now). Again thanks for all your help.

414 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-23 00:12 ID:fZRYruNM

goodluck!!!

415 Name: test1 : 2006-03-23 06:05 ID:4Dk1t+VT

tesuto

416 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-23 06:08 ID:4Dk1t+VT

moichido

417 Name: Miss Anonymous : 2006-03-23 14:38 ID:3OcaEuVf

GOOD LUCK!!!!!
I wish to hear ur good news :)

Don't freak out or act weird in front of her though, give her a good impression!

Way to go!

418 Name: fossil : 2006-03-23 23:36 ID:cFwpZCm/

Busy, I am way too busy.
I was able to see her at the dinning hall, as she was leaving while I was eating. I quickly ended my meal, and i hurried to catch up with her. Our dinning hall has two different exits on opposite sides of the building, and I chose the wrong side. orz

419 Name: Aquilo : 2006-03-24 02:12 ID:s4goBvY4

Awww, at least you tried^^

if you haven't already though try to get her contact/phone/msn/ for ummm "study purposes" XD and do some small talk after you ask about the lab to get to know her more likes/dislikes, and maybe just casually ask her out to lunch or something to start with then go from there

420 Name: Miss Anonymous : 2006-03-24 03:18 ID:2e7iSIxA

Awww man...

TEXT MESSAGE HER if you get her phone number.
It works really well, believe me.
But don't flood her inbox though...

And then when you two start getting pretty familiar, then you can start like calling her at night and start those "night time" chats. Seriously that will be a great leap!!

Good luck! :)

421 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-24 05:17 ID:F39LwJZC

texting wont work, they see each other at least once a week, i say next time u see her ask her out to lunch or somthing then working your way from there

422 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-24 07:45 ID:fZRYruNM

actualli i think Text message is better, cos u at least can talk to her but never double send, reply when she replies and if she doesn't reply then leave it, or u can ask for her email! GOOD LUCK ゚∀゚

423 Name: Aquilo : 2006-03-25 03:40 ID:s4goBvY4

the only problem with text and email is that well its not instant contact and also since its just word you won't get stuff like the tone of her voice or hints/ stuff like that, as in you won't have as much time to adjust accordingly to the situation.

424 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-25 07:29 ID:fZRYruNM

your right but you usualy start from text messages or email then later start from phone calls. like you can ask "hey do you want to talk on the phone? its easier then typing messages all the time", really depends on the girl actuali

425 Name: 421 : 2006-03-26 08:47 ID:F39LwJZC

there are no set rules on "first u start texting then....",
its basicly whatever works, i think the best thing u can do if ask her out to lunch or somthing, basicly where u just see her more often, and this will allow for you to get to know her better, text thing is somthing quick and for people that u dont see on a regular bais, but then again i never use sms unless some one texts me

426 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-26 14:53 ID:KMtmJOA5

personally depending on where you are the situation changes like in Japan most people text msg each other a lot.

but if you are in North America or Europe I think mostly people either use a msging system or phone.

427 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-27 04:02 ID:KMtmJOA5

ya personally I would try Msn or Msging system since it also gives you the option of Webcam and voice chats, for times when you want it.
hmm back on the topic of being a single rant thread

ya know life is messed sometime I'm happy with my freedom of being single and no longer tied with the strings of relationship.

Yet at other times, espeically when my friends talk about their perfect relationship or when I'm out and I see a lot of couples, part of my wishes I hadn't broken it off last summer. Part of my wishes I still had someone I could rely on, someone to talk rant to, someone to comfort and to be comforted by.

Sigh I wish next year would come then I can finally move into Residence at University and maybe start a new life

I guess I'm really lame eh?

428 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-27 08:06 ID:fZRYruNM

lol thats normal, some people prefer to be single but some people preger to have a relationship. the good thing about being single is that you can do what ever you want without someone stuck on you, but the good thing about relationship is that you can be with someone without beeing by your self.

429 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-27 14:05 ID:3OcaEuVf

>>427

I know how you feel but I guess you can't always have the best of both worlds, or I guess you could depending on how close and understanding your partner is.

430 Name: fossil : 2006-03-28 03:11 ID:rjgfAg0w

no luck

431 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-28 08:30 ID:fZRYruNM

sorry to hear ~"~

432 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-28 08:32 ID:fZRYruNM

my life of nothingness seems to come back to me.... i feel like i lost something but cant tell what it is~"~

433 Name: Aquilo : 2006-03-29 17:11 ID:Qf0MUnOb

>>432
lol the feelings of nothingness in our lives I think is something everyone in this single rant thread shares

and after joining 4-ch for a few weeks now I finally found out why this board appeals to a lot of people and why 2-ch got so famous, having the ability to post anonymously has allowed me to post a lot of aspect of life I haven't be able to share with other people^^ it really takes the weight off my chest I guess.

anyhow back to topic
The feelings of nothingness and something missing is a feeling most of us here share, you should try to fill it up with something even if its only temp solution. I use biking, studying, and photography to take up my time^^ I used to do gaming but I found out that only lead to more drama espeically if its an mmorpg lol. So rather than sitting here and reading this thread go outside and do something spring is here and the summer is coming, everyone should really go out and look for something to do because before you know it, time flies and you will end up regreting the time that has been wasted.

Regret is but the past trying to tell you not to waste the future and something not to be repeated. If you stay in the regrets of the past you will just end up regerting more as the future and present past you by...^^

lol I got off topic again sorry

434 Post deleted by moderator.

435 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-30 01:39 ID:Heaven

nice kopipe

436 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-30 07:12 ID:BLfTw3w7

>>433 your so right! somehow i enjoy being on 4-ch although most of us are just being anonymous. but somehow i have lost my intrest in girls for some reason, seems because in the past i been tricked by girls to many times that i properly just cant be bothered going for it anymore. somehow i think the girls i met are just using me for something..... well anyway i'm gonna try and find something to do rather then sit here all day reading the board!~ you guys should do the same! I'm using my time on my movies now xD! doesn't make me think that much when i work on my movies!~ find something to do and get stuck on it and you will find you life more intresting ^^

437 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-31 03:33 ID:Heaven

i'm lonely

438 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-31 04:13 ID:Qf0MUnOb

>>434

can anyone translate that? sorry I don't know japanese XD

>>437

its ok we all are lol (thats why we are here)

439 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-03-31 06:32 ID:BLfTw3w7

hahaha yeah xD!

440 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-31 07:17 ID:Heaven

>>438
If it's copype, it's not really important. Just some random usually unrelated rant copied and pasted in.

441 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-31 19:49 ID:3OcaEuVf

oh actually I tranlated some of it and its actually related

it was something about this rant about
a guy going to a new school
something about a cute girl
something about telling her he likes her and then something about regert

sorry my japanese skill = ewww

could someone translate it though? it does seems pretty interesting.

442 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-03-31 21:34 ID:OmcX3xeT

>>441 i am very bored now so i translated >>434 copipe :P

line 1 totally agree with you.
line 2 by the way,
line 3 i went to a bar with my old friend the other day
line 4 we went to the same kindergarten, elementary, middle and high school
line 5 but since we go to different colleges, it was the first time to see her in almost year and half
line 6 so we had so much to talk about. we kept talking and talking.
line 7 then, i noticed it was already midnight, so i was gonna take off.
line 8 but she was so drunk.
line 9 i never realized she was such a bad drinker.
line10 so i had no choice but take her home.
line11 on the way, she threw up many times, but i managed to get her place somehow.
line12 after having put her on bed, i exhaustedly sat down on the floor.
line13 then i looked at her sleeping face.
line14 i noticed she became very pretty while she was away.
line15 that moment i felt she was not just a friend but a woman first time in my life.

443 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-04-01 01:25 ID:xsHiGCi/

wooww this reminds me of this movie i saw where he took a drunk girl to a hotel xD Details Requested!

444 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-01 01:46 ID:Co6pRsmh

>>443
would that movie be My Sassy Girl by any chance?

445 Name: benson_2009 : 2006-04-01 04:44 ID:xsHiGCi/

i was thinking of the exact same thing !~

446 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-01 05:47 ID:I0+gPz/a

>>443
lol that sounds very much like My Sassy Girl XD
except the childhood part

447 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-01 07:45 ID:Heaven

I never thought kopipe would receive such a warm reception

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