I see all these people talking about confessing their love. It's like watching Densha Otoko playing over and over again. I do hope it works well for all of the Otokos. Radio, Msn and everyone else.
But for me, it seems my confession is long over and there doesn't seem to be a happy ending in site. I've loved this girl for nearly a decade (literally 10 years) now. Six years in, i confessed to her but by then it was too late. We were already as good friends as anyone can be. It's been years since then and for a time we grew even closer and then we grew apart and then closer again. In those 10 years, i've done everything. I've tried not seeing/talking to her. Even tried going out with someone else. But in the end, here I am. Single and still growing more and more in love with her every day.
How can I move on? orz
only if you move to a different area code will you be able to move on.
Thought about that but i don't think it'll happen. I've been on multi week trips and stuff and I swear I see her everywhere. I'm always seeing her in crouds and taking second looks even know it's impossible for her to be there. Everything and everyone reminds me of her. I feel as though i've tried everything and i'm out of ideas T_T sigh ＿|￣|○
and god I can't type today :(
a shot in the dark, but try setting her up with someone.
wouldn't that just make things worse? and god knows she'll get someone eventually :(
you just have to convince yourself it wont work out, it will take time and be painful, but eventually you will be fine.
Just talk with her seriously. Tell her about your feelings, and ask her about her feelings. It's not a thing we should deal with. You should just tell her everything and work out some solution TOGETHER. In my opinion there is no other way...
we've talked about it a billion times. And the only conclusion she suggests is to just stay friends and forget the love business (which is easier for her than it is for me since it's not something i can just shut out. I would if i could). I've suggested lots of times that we should just stay away from each other but one of us always caved in eventually. She misses me as a friend and well... obviously I miss her as a friend and more. orz
someone in the other thread wrote
"In my opinion, love is something you have to fight for. Do anything you can to make everything worth. If you are not able to fight for it, it was not a real love."
i've always approached this with failure in mind...ever since the beginning i've been working so hard to get her out of my head. And though i've done a lot of things for her I've always laughed and said "that's what friends are for". It's probably too late now...but maybe I am supposed to fight for it? do you think so?
>>10 I said it. It's really up to you if you'll fight for your happines or not. If I would not fight for my love, probably I would be dead by now. It was never easy to love, to forgive, to go on. But somehow everything just finished with happy end. And I can say now, that it was not just pure luck. I worked hard for my own happiness. So try to grab your life in your own hands and do something with it. You may fail many many times, but if you won't try you'll never succeed.
Sorry if my english sux, but I hope that you could understand it.
you're english is perfect. I don't understand why you'd say it sucks! it's just that I would like to fight for it but there are a lot of people that say that if she just doesn't love you and only likes you as a friend there's nothing you can do about it. I mean, i'm not going to become a stalker or anything but would things work out if I did try? or will it end up where she only goes out with me because she feels sorry for me or something.
Never become a poor little guy that she will have to take care off. Just be yourself and if you'll become a stalker, don't let her feel that. Don't do anything that can hurt her.
In my opinion you should just seriously talk with her. Meet her somewhere (it should be quiet place) where you can just talk and tell her all that you feel for her. Tell her your worries and your hopes and ask her what does she feel. If she'll say there is no way that we can be together, then don't just runaway, but ask her why. You can expect that much from a person you are considering your friend. If there is no way for you to be together then ask her what in her opinion you should do. I think that people asks too much for help in here, while they should talk more with the ones they love. After all you want to stay with that person for the rest of your life. You should be brave enough to honestly talk with her. If she feels anything for you, she won't laugh but talk with you seriously.
>>13 We have sat down and quietly talked things over. She says she just doesn't feel anything other than frienship for me. We've had a few times where we've sat down and discussed this. One time I suggested that we should cut off communication from each other and she did mention "what if I change my mind in the future?". it was said in a way that meant it was VERY unluckly but still possible. She's even offered to accept my confession but it seems more out of pity than anything else. I can't let her get into a relationship with me if she doesn't feel anything for me at all beyond being close friends.
her stance has always been to just go on and forget all this love stuff and ignore it. But that's easier said than done for me. After all, these feelings, i can't ignore them or i would have already. orz
I know she values me as a friend and she's so wonderful. If I stay and she sees me unhappy she'd be unhappy too. But then if I just leave then that will hurt her too. And when we do stop talking to each other we miss each other. we've made up with us both in tears. But i suppose for different reasons... I wish I could just hide everything and be happy for her. But there is only so long I can do that before I fall apart. At the beginning, all I cared about was making her happy and it didn't matter if she felt anything back for me or who she'd be with. When did I become so selfish?
Hmm... My current girlfriend told me in the begining that she don't love me, but we can try. We were trying for some time, going out, spending time together, acting more and more as a couple, and then after quite some time (about after one year) she told me that she loves me. Maybe you should try to be a couple for some time. Try to imagine her with another guy. That would really hurt you.
If I could suggest you something, just show her this thread. It might show her some of your feelings that she didn't realized. When she'll read it, she should give you her suggestion what to do with it all. Love is not something that you can forget.
"i've always approached this with failure in mind."
Dude, if that's the case, then you were guaranteed to fail before you even began. You're not going to get her. You've lost. Game over. Find another girl, however hard that may be.