Kind of Crush (54)

1 Name: Jin : 2006-02-05 21:43 ID:eVPpjC9r

Hi. there is this girl that i have kinda had a crush on for some time.I have talked to her a couple of times but thats only because i met her through my friend...I really don't know how to approach her...any suggestions???

5 Name: Jin : 2006-02-05 23:29 ID:eVPpjC9r

My firend is a guy and I'm not too sure if they had any past relations. I don't want to get caught up into a love triangle or anything.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-05 23:56 ID:OKoE26Kv

Be careful of a relationship between the two because men and women are rarely "just friends". He may suddenly feel possesive and decide he likes her, simply because you do.

7 Name: Jin : 2006-02-06 00:11 ID:eVPpjC9r

XD I never thought it could be so hard to talk to some one that you like

8 Name: 3 : 2006-02-06 01:30 ID:ChRnWKab

first things first, check out the relationship between the two. it could be that he really likes her but hasn't confessed yet. and try and be as certain as you possibly can. sometimes just asking him wont' get you a truthful answer.

whether you are justified in going after the girl if you do find out he has a thing for her (or the other way around) is another matter but what's important is that you know what you're getting yourself into.

9 Name: Jin : 2006-02-06 02:22 ID:eVPpjC9r

Alright...Im going to try and find out what's going on between the two. I will keep you guys updated.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-06 02:26 ID:ChRnWKab

we await your report!!! (-_-)>

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-06 04:58 ID:M+d4512W

jin,
its not that hard to ask out a girl, people make a big deal about it. if you dont make a big deal about it then its nothing. and wtf the fuck is all this talk about asking to see if this friend was dating the girl. i can understand seeing if she had a boyfriend, but no need to make wild speculations that they are dating. ask the friend that introduced you that if she has a boyfriend, if they are dating he would tell you, and if not he will help you, cause that what friends do.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-06 05:09 ID:ChRnWKab

it depends on how he introduced them. If they met at a party or group that he organized, maybe he wanted to just be with the girl and wanted to make it less uncomfortable if there were many people there. You never know but why not find out. I don't know if straight forward asking is the best idea though. Just something to look out for.

13 Name: SynthL0rd : 2006-02-07 08:54 ID:+qTcIAAj

jeez, I don't know if this is the right section to be posting this in but..here goes.
1)I like this girl
2)She likes me back (says some sources and her actions and some of the things she says).
3) She's 16
4) I'm 3 years older
5) We live miles apart
6) is developing a relationship with her a good idea?

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-07 18:13 ID:xsG5ao+/

>>13
Sure if you want to develop another relationship with a large, bald man who goes by the name of "Bubba" who helps you pick up the soap you dropped in the shower cubicle of your local prison.

15 Name: Jin : 2006-02-07 23:22 ID:eVPpjC9r

Hey guys...I talked to my friend and he said that i should go talk to her...he does not like her in anyway. She is single btw...

I havent seen her in a couple of days and when i do see her i don't know what i should say to her besides saying "HI" and giving her a hug. I totally suck at starting conversations. I don't want to sound like a LOSER XD

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-08 00:03 ID:ChRnWKab

Come on Jin, you gotta take the first step! you can do it!!

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-08 00:17 ID:g3zzVUDO

>>>Jin

roflcopter, say HI! Hugs, mad creepyness going that way, funny stuff. just, play it smooth? as long as you dont say you eat babies for dinner, i suppose ull be alright....

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-08 00:53 ID:k3eIY9to

say "hi, whats up, how was your day..." friendly chit-chat stuff, then ask her what she is doing friday night

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-08 01:46 ID:HkPPxbY6

>>15
Good luck... I think some of us know a lot about that kind of problem.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-08 02:15 ID:g3zzVUDO

C > Put it in

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-08 20:35 ID:ChRnWKab

good luck Jin!

22 Name: Jin : 2006-02-08 23:57 ID:eVPpjC9r

Hey guys....I tried talking with her for a while. I thought it went pretty well....till my friends came over to us and started making jokes about her and myself. She seemed irritated and told me she had to go. The whole thing ended up in she saying bye and walking away.

=[ I dont know what to do now...I think she's mad

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-09 00:09 ID:7ypb5RF8

>>Jin

grrrr ur stupid friends, sometimes that just happens....try again next time man

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-09 00:58 ID:C/fPf1WP

>>Jin

She is isnt mad, just frustrated. the fact she was frustrated is a GOOD sign. you were making progress with her (or she was making progress with you) until your friend came in. find her again, pick up where you left off and may be ask her on a date at the end. also tell your friends that they are cockblocks.

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-09 04:38 ID:ChRnWKab

I dunno, I had friends play the "oh wouldn't you guys make a good couple" gig and the girl acted relatively the same and she really didn't like me in that way...

be cautious

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-09 17:36 ID:a9QJzZVk

>>25
even still, he should give it a shot, trying is far better than giving up.

27 Name: SynthL0rd : 2006-02-09 17:42 ID:+qTcIAAj

>>14
The laws here are different from your American ones :D.

28 Name: Jin : 2006-02-09 19:37 ID:eVPpjC9r

Thanks for all of the reply's guys. Im going to try and give it another shot when i see her.....wish me luck XD

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-09 20:29 ID:7ypb5RF8

youre gonna get shot down, again, no chance, watch, for people who post here, the chances are 75% that youll get shot down. go ahead, proove me wrong

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-09 20:45 ID:DCC68VK0

>>29
im willing to prove you wrong. im sure jin can too.

31 Name: Doku Otoko : 2006-02-10 02:10 ID:vDLSbqLq

>>29, dont be a hater! Everyone's lucky day comes. Maybe it's jin's lucky day!

32 Name: SynthL0rd : 2006-02-10 03:22 ID:+qTcIAAj

>>29
You wouldn't happen to be a six foot d00d who injured his leg and can no longer play basketball would ya? :D

33 Name: 29 : 2006-02-10 03:46 ID:n4fZvLku

ive had a rough day, forget what i said, you can do it. but just dont feel too bad if it doesnt go too well

34 Name: 29 : 2006-02-10 03:52 ID:n4fZvLku

>>32
ur post made me smile and remember that guy, hah, thanks for the pick up

yeah, i really dont know what happens to you guys at all, but, i suppose, ill just wait and see

35 Name: Jin : 2006-02-10 04:07 ID:eVPpjC9r

Hey guys....no new news to report yet. I havent seen her in like 2 days...tomorrow is another day lol.

And I wish i was a six foot dude like in densha...im short =[

I shall keep you guys posted ^_^

36 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-10 04:28 ID:+kl4puje

dont worry about height, it doesnt mean a thing, and hopefully you will luck out tomorrow.

37 Name: Jin : 2006-02-10 19:48 ID:eVPpjC9r

It's over. I basically got rejected....should have known that was comming. I don't really know why. But she doesn't want anything to do with me. She put me in the "Friend Zone".

I did not say anything to her after that because her friends were with her. I felt embarrassed....so much for that.

38 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-10 20:02 ID:8y22vF/f

whoa...hold the phone...what exactly happened?

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-10 22:14 ID:ChRnWKab

>>32 haha

Jin, what happened?! details requested!

40 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-10 22:48 ID:Heaven

You asked her in front of her friends? No wonder you got rejected so badly.

41 Name: Jin : 2006-02-10 23:27 ID:eVPpjC9r

Well...I went up to her to ask her if she was doing anything tonight or tomorrow. She said nothing really important...so I asked her if she wanted to go to the movies or something. Then she asked me why?...."Do you like me or something".

I didn't know what to say so I said "yes". Then she said I'm more of a friend to her (thats when her friends started laughing)so I said ok. Then she had to go....

42 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-11 01:47 ID:/k2XdBvt

:(

43 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-11 02:21 ID:k3eIY9to

you did it in front of her friends?! why?

44 Name: SynthL0rd : 2006-02-11 02:22 ID:+qTcIAAj

>>41
Shit dude. Those bitches!. was she laughing with her friends too?
if not I'd recommended asking her again if you can get her alone or at least get more info on why she rejected you.

45 Name: Jin : 2006-02-11 03:15 ID:eVPpjC9r

She wasn't laughing but her friends were...I could never get her alone so i gathered up the courage ask her in front of her friends. I don't even know if its worth asking her why...any suggestions guys?

46 Name: 29 : 2006-02-11 04:22 ID:n4fZvLku

>>41
ugh, i hate it when im right. so, ill give u this advice mabye, try and get her alone, mabye she did say that out of impulse cuz she was in front of her friends, mabye thats why she wasnt laughing. but also, mabye she wasnt laughing cuz she legitimately felt bad for you. well, all in all man, good try, but i have to say, in front of her friends was a bad idea

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-11 05:33 ID:0rK9egxY

Girls get strength in groups, they are weaker alone and easier to ask out. Tackle the gazelle!

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-11 06:47 ID:k3eIY9to

yeah never ask a girl out in front of her friends, thats an instant rejection

49 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-11 06:59 ID:ChRnWKab

I wonder if it's still salvagable.....

50 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-02-11 08:09 ID:LhOVKgBr

>>49

would you ask this after putting your engine into your trunk?

why ask it now?

51 Name: Jin : 2006-02-11 13:37 ID:eVPpjC9r

I guess i could try again....I going to try and get her alone.

52 Name: SynthL0rd : 2006-02-11 14:39 ID:+qTcIAAj

>>51
God speed Sir!

53 Name: Friend Otoko : 2006-02-11 18:29 ID:RbAu/eTo

Just talk to her when shes alone, try not to end it on a bad note.

54 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-27 13:39 ID:24r/pM/h

>>33 I agree!

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