[Confused] What do I do know? [T.T] (18)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-05 02:22 ID:F34tOulH

Background: I went to the movies with this girl from one of my classes. She's been a great friend and helped me study a lot, we have a lot in common, and the "date" went pretty well. I put "date" in quotes because she asked me when I approached her in class "You know we're not dating, right?" I take a step back and see the classic dating sim menu pop up:

A. "What, do you have a boyfriend or something?"
B. "What do you mean? Wasn't that a date?"
C. "Uhh, yeah, sure..."
D. Put it in

Being the obviously quick-witted man I am, I punted and chose C. The real question is now, should I keep trying with her or give up? Moreover, how should I approach what she's said?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-05 02:39 ID:lU4VyHyR

Dude....

If you play your cards right, you might up with a friend with benefits.

She's testing you. See if you'll creep out and be a stalker.

Play it cool. Don't be a hard ass, but play it cool. Eventually you'll both do stuff together. Be kind, don't be a doormat. You are both young with raging hormones. Let nature take its course.

If you get creepy on her, game over. Start over with a new girl

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-05 02:57 ID:IICt2uJU

lol advice. stick it in her pooper!

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-05 18:09 ID:trINvBqL

I dunno, i'd try and clear it up. sound to me like you're on the course to the dreaded FRIEND ZONE. You don't want to be there.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-05 18:50 ID:F34tOulH

I'll follow a combination of >>2's and >>4's advice. I'll keep trying, but be aware that she might just want me to back off.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-06 03:45 ID:trINvBqL

if you really like her and she wants you to back off, get away from her. falling for someone that doesn't love you back only brings on a hell you can never imagine!

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-06 05:32 ID:Heaven

>>6
Yeah, I was thinking about basically cutting it off entirely (not referring to penis, although of a similar sentiment); I did that with a quasi-girlfriend before to some effectiveness. She doesn't seem like the type of girl that would swing for that, though.
My other option is to just throw in my cards and stay a reasonably disappointed friend.
Oh well, she never shaved her arms or legs (and presumably underarms). She's hairier than me O.o;

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-06 09:40 ID:trINvBqL

not cutter her off to make her chase after you, cutter her off so you won't end up falling for her and then watch as she goes out with other guys and sees you only as a "friend".

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-06 18:43 ID:Heaven

>>8
Yeah, that's what I meant.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-07 00:43 ID:5lP+h0z7

Since when do girls shave their arms?

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-07 03:00 ID:IICt2uJU

shaving arms is gross

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-08 00:24 ID:Heaven

>>10,11
( ,,゚Д゚;) 何?!

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-08 07:20 ID:/lXR8Qoj

>>1
Maybe she's denying herself. If she does have feelings for you, she might be nervous about losing you as a friend if she gets into a relationship.

Go on another non-date, but this time something more physical than movies. Mini golf, billiards, tennis, something where you can do the old "here, you do it like this" reacharound. If there's no sparks when you get close, resign yourself to friendship.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-08 07:28 ID:k8gOGsew

1, 13 is leading you down the road to disaster.

Reacharounds are obvious and are a good way to get kicked in the junk.

Play it cool. PLAY IT COOL. Just be all like "S'ok...whatever" but still kind of be there.

She's testing you.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-08 22:53 ID:F34tOulH

>>13
I had this idea at one point, don't remember what exactly it was. I don't think I'll go out of my way to set that kinda thing up, though.

>>14
It's not that bad of an idea if you're already friends, methinks.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-08 23:24 ID:RFn8LM2Y

2 and 14 (the same person?) have the right idea. Playing it cool is the way to do things.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-18 11:15 ID:1xdusOho

>>10>>11
.... how is shaving arms gross? -_-

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-04-19 10:18 ID:Heaven

>>17
dude, STUBBLE. eww.

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