It's a date when both partners think it's a date. It doesn't happen to be specifically called a "date." My girlfriend and I went on three dates before either of us actually used that word. So you didn't think you were on a date, and odds are that the girls didn't either (seeing as how there were two of them), so it wasn't a date. But anyway, that's all just technicalities you really shouldn't worry about.

>I don't actually have that much contact with girls.

You recognize this as a problem. Very good. Now fix it.

You don't even need to hang out with "girls" per se; just go somewhere were people are. Head to the movies or a concert or something along those lines and make small talk with the people around you. Join a bowling team or art club or whatever you're in to. Great way to make sure that the girls you meet will have similar interests to you.

>a career as a suicide bomber would be less dangerous for me than asking a girl for a date.

I keep saying this over and over on this board; you are not going to get anywhere with girls if you have a shitty attitude and outlook like this. No, asking a girl out is not a life and death situation. What happens if she says no? You say, "oh, well, that's too bad" and, hand to God, *LIFE WILL GO ON.*