Because just every female I meet are looking me that way, its driving me crazy, but it seems that I can't do anything about it. Its my personality, and I find it shit to act like someone who you don't want to be and stuff. I know, everyone's saying that "be yourself"-stuff, but what can ya do if your personality just isn't worth shit?
You don't.
There's nothing like the movies with buying a leather jacket and suddenly talking cool. Sorry, that's just how life is. Once they expect it from you, which they prolly do from your dress, you're fucked.
Sorry to be honest, but that's life.
Find a girl out there who appreciates that, is all you can do.
And they do exist. 本当です。
Try to take a break from attempting to get a girlfriend...perhaps you're just trying too hard which makes girls think you're desperate. It would also be better if you wrote more details, do you lack self-confidence or do you feel that you don't look good enough?
Totally know what you are facing there, OP.
Maybe you just need to buff up your appearance? Get a new wardrobe, maybe?
See, girls are really shallow. I know this for a fact, considering I'm a girl and girls have this sort of girls only cult where we discuss the types of guys we like...whether we wanna admit it or not.XD See, to catch a girl's interest, you need appeal. To keep a girl's interest, you need a good personality. You already have the latter, but it seems that guys who complain about how they can't attract women because they're always brushed off as "funny and nice, but not boyfriend material" usually lack appeal. You know "love at first sight"? That's not love. That's one of the base instincts of human nature saying "Oooh, pretty human, me mate with human! Ooga!".
Now, by appeal, I mean a lack of charisma, not a lack of looks. Take a look at yourself in the mirror. Does your usual attire consist of t-shirts and jeans? Do you tend to fade into the background in classes or at work or whatnot? Maybe your circle of friends is really huge, but do you stick out at least some of the time?
Basically, try to vary up your wardrobe when you go out, and let yourself be known. Actually, sometimes cheesy pick-up lines work if they're funny; use that sense of humor to your advantage.
Hope this helps.^.^;; I'm sure you'll get lucky sooner or later, though.^_^
It depends, Haruhi. Girls might be shallow, but what they see in men what they want to perceive.
You know, I once was uninteresting as well, nerdy looking and shy. My current being is now complimented left and right as "hot", although I humbly decline this. I don't consider myself good looking. To come all this way, I had to make a conscious effort to be attractive. Yes, I do watch my appearance, which is part of the first impression, but I also went into deep introspection of how to lure women. All women fall for men that discreetly hints being the one person that woman is waiting for. You learn what she expects from her ideal relationship and then you portrait yourself as being her ideal man without being pretentious or blatant. Be insistent about her liking you without openly giving away that you want her. Sometimes use innuendos, but never openly reveal your feelings. All women eventually melt. My advice is that; make a conscious effort to talk your way into women, and practice in front of the mirror. The more effort and dedication you put into it, the better you get.
There is no man that can't get any woman. Any man can get any woman.
> There is no man that can't get any woman. Any man can get any woman.
That sounds too idealistic. :P
I have the same problem as the OP. There's this girl. We used to hang out in a group of 4 (her, me and two other guys) but it seems that she prefers to stay only friends with us... or maybe she have a preference on one of the other guys.
Anyway, how do I get charisma and self confidence? A lot of people tells me (girls too) that I'm kind, cute and warm-hearted, but it seems that ther's no one who could actually appreciate it.
Despite that I'm already 23, I still can't just walk to a girl and accost her so I stick with online dating sites, but almost every girl disappears after the first meeting or after we swap photos...
Sure I lack self confidence very badly but how should I overcome it? I rarely get compliment from anyone.
At work, my boss constantly pisses me off, she just ridicules my work. After I get home, my father continues it, I always just get disciplined. No wonder my self confidence is torn...
Some people say that you need to impress girls with your creativity. Well I afraid I can't do that. I can't draw, my hands are clumsy. I can't write good stories or poems, I can't compose music, basically the only way to express my creativity is through AMVs or programming. But no girl would be interested when I say : "look I wrote this program", even for AMVs they say "hmm, not bad" and nothing more.
Am I pathetic?
Learn to stand up for yourself and take the consequences. Women don't want to have a weak wuss as partner.
Sorry to sound harsh, but that's how it is. You should rather lose your current job and break up with your father than getting humiliated and having no self esteem and self respect.
>how do I get charisma and self confidence?
if videogames have taught me anything? grind it.