It's started to hit the fans now... (15)

1 Name: 0214 : 2006-11-03 00:03 ID:xSOLlt1+

Disclaimer: This thread is more of a "holy shit I'm screwed, help!" kind of thread rather than a "this girl is so hot, get me together with her" kind of thread.

Well, I started a thread here a month back but it failed. Anyways, here's the run down of my situation prior to today.

There's a girl that I like. She's pretty intelligent and pretty, a combination you don't see too often nowadays. I'm too afraid to tell her. She's in my first period.

*tl;dr: Go a few paragraphs down. (Ctrl + F "...")

It could be a lot longer, but I'll get straight to the point. Yesterday, I stuck my neck in a bit too far. There's a club in which she's in, and one of my/her friends offered for me to join.

I wanted to join, but I didn't want to make it look as if I was chasing after her. So I told him I couldn't join "for personal reasons."

Now I had no idea he'd be so damn perceptive.

"What, is there some girl you like in there?"[/insinuation]

Damn it. He guessed a couple of names, I denied them. (None of the things)

The next day, we met in second period. He asked again who it was. I denied it again. He guessed a few names. After a few failures, HE GOT IT. (We'll call her "her") He said, "it's her, isn't it?[/annonying insinuation]" I over reacted, stuttered that it wasn't her. He actually bought it.

However, during the preparation period following it, I was so damn nervous I couldn't even think straight. I finally snapped and told him on the condition that he wouldn't tell anyone.

...

I told him, half knowing that he'd tell someone.

I think the following thing he said was "she's lesbo." I stared disbelieving.

"Wait, what?"

He says, "You can kind of tell."

Now that you think about it, I never would have been able to tell, but she acted in a way in which it was slightly believable. We may see being "lesbian" in a different way. In a simple analogy, you can see it as blond lesbian porn or in a less sexual sense.

I saw it as less of a sexual thing. I just think that she likes girls a bit over guys. Not much. I could be wrong. I know for a fact she's not open about her sexuality, which is nice.

This may seem like my biggest problem, but it's not. I told him to get some information on it.

2 Name: 0214 : 2006-11-03 00:03 ID:xSOLlt1+

He also said that "she's emo. She is, she just doesn't dress like it." Well, this doesn't bother me at all. Also, it was one of those things once again that you couldn't outwardly see, but it would make sense it she was. In fact, it made her even more interesting. Some people consider me like that, but I'm no wrist-cutter. Neither is she. This aspect of her didn't bother me at all, it just made her more interesting.

Anyways, even before he could get more information he deduced that she was straight. I asked him to look into it a bit more.

At this point, one of his friends was sitting next to him listening in on us, but he's not that important, I doubt he cared. But it was a bad omen, my friend was already letting other people in on it. Which brings me to my next point.

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During lunch, at the line, he says he talked to her. I asked him, "what did you say?" I don't remember for sure what happenned next, but... he did say something about mentioning my name to her.

"WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU SAY!?"

I said that pretty loud, at least ten people heard me. They ignored it. At this point, I am screwed, big time. It wasn't as bad as I thought it'd be. He said, this is what he told her. He said it was sarcastic, and said he was a pro.

"Hey, *her, you're pretty emo, you should go out with me (as in the poster of this thread), he's pretty emo too."

My first reaction was relief, but then it came back to me that he actually said my name. I wanted him to keep it between us, he said he'd make sure no one else would find out. Anyways, he said that she said "ew, I don't know him too much."

I'm pretty sure it wasn't a "ew" in disgust to me in particular.

I haven't thought about that too much yet. I'm still reflecting over it.

Anyways, we parted ways with a "well dude, if you don't talk to her nothing will happen."

At this point I was terrified. Seriously. I went through lunch contemplating suicide, eating without thinking.

During the last period of the day, my heart was pounding, even though she wasn't even in the room. I decided I'd tell her "Hey, did he (my friend who talked to her) talk to you about anything?" And if she says "yes" or something, I'd say "don't take it seriously."

Even though it'd be more of a "d-d-don't t-t-take ittooseriouslyi2o34h09y9sw"

Anyways, I saw he after school, at about fifteen yards distance, but I froze up and walked away. I was still contempating suicide, but now I've calmed down enough to rationalize a reasonable reaction.

Right now, I'm thinking that she may not have taken it too seriously.

I'll type more if I recall things.

If my specs matter, I'll also post it someone asks.

Seriously, someone. What do I do?

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 00:15 ID:g6dsIQj2

Calm down.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 00:27 ID:Heaven

>>3 is good advice.

Otherwise, just take it slow and rationalize. The best thing you could do right now is ask her out. If she says yes, great. If she says no, you work on getting over her. Do not deceive yourself into thinking that if you wait until just the right time, she will be more likely to say yes. If she likes you, she likes you. If she's repulsed by you, she's repulsed by you. Odds are this isn't going to change. You might as well ask her out, get it over with, and deal.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 00:30 ID:Heaven

>Calm down.

Seriously, you sound like me.

6 Name: 0214 : 2006-11-03 01:11 ID:xSOLlt1+

Original poster here.

>>3

I think at this point I've calmed down a little, but I'm still worried...

>>4

I know I must sound like a coward, but it was even difficult to even try to speak with her just to tell her what my friend said shouldn't be taken seriously.

I see this is two ways.

  1. She didn't take it seriously, as if he was just pulling up a random person. The worst that could happen is a few odd glances at me. Which still sucks.
  2. She interprets that he was trying to hook me up, tells her friends, and at that point...

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 01:34 ID:0ayJC7UT

to be in high school again...

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 02:24 ID:Heaven

This is such a

>"this girl is so hot, get me together with her" kind of thread.
>"well dude, if you don't talk to her nothing will happen."

Saged.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 03:57 ID:g6dsIQj2

Calm down more, consider her nothing more than practice.

Tell her you've made up your mind. You want a woman who you can talk to.

Talk to here and talk to her. Eventually you'll find more things in common.

Clean up your place, then at some point during the first week or two invite her over.

You'll know when you have her where you want her.

Most importantly just play around and have fun, you'll get your chance if you keep trying.

10 Name: TokyoJapan22 : 2006-11-03 03:58 ID:1t2FaDdO

Wow. Your going through something exactly like me! Only I joined the club and now I'm closer to her than I was weeks ago!

11 Name: 0214 : 2006-11-03 05:26 ID:xSOLlt1+

>>9

You can't tell her you've made your mine if you haven't really ever spoken to her in the first place.

>>10

Damn, I'm so jealous.

Anyways, anyone have any comments on her orientation? Any speculations?

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 07:16 ID:Heaven

She probably didn't take it seriously. But if you went up to her and started hitting on her obviously, she might think that it may have been something.

But since she obviously doens't know you that well, I woudl say get to kinow her. Go up to her. Go "Hey, my name is blah blah. I notice we're in the same whatever class together." and start talking.

>>9's right. Don't take her seriously. This is your first time and it would be a terrible mistake to take it seriously. If you do, you're just gonna end up looking desparate and not only that, you'll probably get hurt. So take it as practice.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-03 12:09 ID:XMxt0Z98

>>10
Omfg, OP, do NOT under ANY circumstances do what TokyopJapan did. If you read his thread you will know what I mean.

Anyway. I quite enjoyed reading this. I liked the "d-d-don't t-t-take ittooseriouslyi2o34h09y9sw" part. Other than that, your friend is not "pro" at all, but I give him credit for initiating something you wouldn't have done. I think she says it her self when she says "ew, I don't even know him". Ie: He's not in any of my clubs.

14 Name: 0214 : 2006-11-03 14:35 ID:xSOLlt1+

Anyways, guys. I'm about to head out to school. I don't know if it's whether it's cold or something, but I'm really nervous. Shaking in fact.

Though I was calm and able to rationalize it last night, I'm still really really nervous.

>>12

I'm pretty sure she didn't take it seriously... But I'm still nervous as hell.

>>13

Yeah, I know. Joining the club at this rate it suicide. I think he handled it okay. I'm pretty sure if it wasn't for my insecurity it would have seemed okay to me that he did that.

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