Women and their PMS (12)

1 Name: argh : 2006-11-14 16:51 ID:22jEgVN9

Hello 4-ch. I am in a relationship with this woman and we are having a great time. But when the time of that month comes she turns cranky and very sensitive. I also am a very sensitive person (she tells me that I am the most sensitive guy she has ever seen) and it really hurts me when she gets mad for no reason and says very mean things to me during that time. Is she just over-sensitive or is every woman like this when that time comes? and do all men have to take this madness when women are pmsing? How do you get over this monthly desperation?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-14 17:04 ID:EaHP2J+C

Tell her you understand what she is going through but she doesn't need to disrespect you. Though she is going through a biological process that gives her mood swings, but it certainly doesn't give her the right to insult you.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-14 18:56 ID:6jWSqweI

> is every woman like this when that time comes?

I don't know.

Personally, the only 'mood swings' I get are that I often feel like crying. It does cause some short-temperedness, if I'm trying not to break down in front of someone and they just won't go away.

It's actually quite scary to have concrete proof that you don't control your mood - and, to some degree, your thoughts. Yikes.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-14 19:18 ID:6jWSqweI

ps. It's really annoying to have your opinions dismissed for that reason. Women can be legitimately angry/sad/emotional at any time.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-14 19:57 ID:dM72WhUH

Though you are sensitive, you also have to learn how to be empathetic at the same time. It's a lot about knowing what your partner feels and for what reasons. Only then can you really act accordingly. It may only be hormones, but you still have to find some way to deal with it. If you can't be empathetic to a great degree, communication in a proper manner usually is the solution.

6 Name: argh : 2006-11-15 05:15 ID:22jEgVN9

>>5
I do respect her and her opinions and I know how she feels when something goes wrong. It's just that she blames me for everything and I am the one who apologizes every time. Even though it was she who did something wrong, I somehow end up apologizing. It is very rare to hear 'sorry' from her, and I feel very grateful when she admits her faults. I want to forgive her in anyway I can.

When she gets mad at me, I tried to make things normal by communicating to her, but she avoids me when she sees me, and when I call her, all she does is saying 'I hate you,' 'I don't want to see you,' or just hanging up on me. I call her back, and she says 'don't call me back' and hangs up on me again. I text message her and she replies 'I hate you.'

I don't know if this is a healthy relationship, but I value her very much and I know she values me too. What can I do?

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-15 08:20 ID:Heaven

>>6
stop calling her? sheesh, take a hint.

when she wants to talk to people again, she'll call you. unless you've driven her batshit in the meantime by trying to talk to her when she clearly doesn't want to talk.

8 Name: Down and Out : 2006-11-15 10:14 ID:KpgGh7yX

My ex was like your lady OP. She thinks it's alright to not give me the respects any person should be given just because of her hormones... granted she also had a child growing inside her until it was aborted ... but yeah, why is it that some women like my ex think it's absolutely fine to treat her guy like a nobody just because of her hormones?!

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-15 18:52 ID:EaHP2J+C

>why is it that some women like my ex think it's absolutely fine to treat her guy like a nobody

Maybe it is because you all let them walk all over you.

10 Name: Down and Out : 2006-11-15 22:49 ID:KpgGh7yX

I didn't let her though. I call her out on that one. Granted, I decided to take her aside to talk about it when we were eating out with this JP exchange student, so she didn't like me doing that. But even so, I can tell she didnt like it when I tried to say I don't like how she's treating me.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2006-11-16 00:29 ID:EaHP2J+C

Yeah, you could have talked to her when you were alone and not in public.

12 Name: Down and Out : 2006-11-16 09:30 ID:KpgGh7yX

Ah well, I was pissed off and my head was overheated... I never could keep it cool when my head overheats.

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