Hey guys,I am interested in this girl, we are good friends and I am thinking of asking her out. I don't think she has any idea about my feelings and I don't want to be abrupt and surprise her.Should I tell her about my feelings and ask her out? Or tell her about my feelings and ask her afterwards? Or just ask her out?Holy crap, what happened?
Just ask her out, go out with her, date her a bit. Then she may develope feelings for you, and you can both confess your mutual feelings.
well... If she likes you, then it will not matter either way you do it. But.. it is best to take her out for a walk at a park or something like that, talk with her a bit and find out how she feels about you too.
So, I should tell her even though she doesn't like me like I like her but I'm not in the friend zone?
Would you still want to be friends with her even if she said no?
If she says no, it will be a good 90% that you guys will not be good friends as you guys used to be. It will eventually turn to awkwardness and it will burden both people. Hope she says yes.
>>9
that means she's in your friendzone. if what you actually wanted was a full relationship with her, you couldn't bear to be just friends.
>>11 This friendzone bullshit is enthralling. A creation by and for people who are afraid of losing a friendship over their feelings, lol.
>>12
I fully agree with you; Friend-zone? Give me a break. It’s just a false comfort made to cover up the real reason a girl doesn’t like you.
I really don't think that if it turns out she doesn't like you in that way, she wouldn't want to be friends with you any longer. You said you were good friends, right? A good friend would understand your feelings and continue to want to be in a relationship with you, even if it is not an intimate one.
>>11
What the hell? If you want to be in an intimate relationship with her you wouldn't want a relationship at all? That's just stupid.
I think you should at least ask her out. Even if she doesn't return your feelings, you will still be friends, yes? A friendship is better than having nothing at all, and sometimes can be more rewarding.
OP here, I have been thinking about lots of stuff. This whole friendzone thing is bullshit. I am gonna ask her out. We are good friends and if she says no, I doubt it will ruin our friendship. If she says yes, then we'd go out. It's a win/win situation I guess.
I'll keep you guys updated.
I haven't asked her out yet.
My friend told me that she knows, nothing in our friendship has changed.
I don't know what to do, perhaps I should forget about it.
I think she likes someone. I don't think it's me. Perhaps I shouldn't tell her at all. I was thinking of doing it today.
-OP
do not do that man.. if you like her.. tell her.. if she likes someone else.. she will tell you.. then you know for sure.. right now you just think she likes someone else.. which might not even be true.. and you might lose her because of a stupid mistake..
>>19
I guess you are right. I've been a bit down lately. :\
I have to tell her, I'll feel a lot better, even if she says no.
Tomorrow after school we have another school club meeting. I hope the opportunity arises. We only have 12 school days left. I want to tell her before the end of the semester.
-OP
Nevermind, I can't do it. I should just forget about it.
Thank you all for your advice, support and help.
-OP
thats too bad.. she might have like you just as much or more.. well someone else might have enough brains to not miss out like you did...
I think you should just tell her.She might like you back! Is she pretty?
I'm having second thoughts now. I want to tell her but I don't want to be rejected.
She's very pretty. :3
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Ok, fuck that. Everyone has to face rejection one time or another. I can just avoid it but... I don't know what I am saying.
I'll just go for it. Even if she says no, I'll feel relieved that I told her. :D Wish me good luck.
-OP
Good luck! Tell us what happens as soon as you get back!
>>28
Awesome. Remember to tell us how it goes.
I should return soon or else the next generation won't know how to properly address girls... Zero constructiveness and all useless comments. 28 has grown balls, but balls alone makes you a teenager, not a seductive gentleman. Think it over with a clear mind and put yourself in her shoes. If you cannot, simply ask what she would do in such and such case... etc. That way you might develop something called empathy. If you are a nerd, look up its definition in the dictionary, as most people here like to post dictionary meanings for love and relationships...
Well, since my last post, I haven't found the opportunity to tell her. Since the semester is almost over, we don't get to hang out that often.
I was going to tell her sometime this week.
Remember I said she likes someone, she does. And it wasn't me :\. A girl asked her out and now they are going out.
-OP
fission mailed :(
>>33 Now it's time to pick yourself up and find a women who is interested in you.
Whoa she's a lesbian? lol
>>37
The girl I like is bi, the girl she's going out with now is a lesbian.
-OP
Wow, dude, that sucks.
Wow, that does suck.
Yeah. :( I don't know if she knows about my feelings. Well, at least our friendship has changed.
well u dont need to say anything. just take ur dick out of ur pants and swing it. then she will fall in love with u.
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It's too late now, time to move on.