Why are you going after shy guys? Are they your thing? Go after someone who challenges you and keeps you on your toes. Also, if you see that the same thing is happening over and over again JUST TAKE A BREAK from it all. Evaluate what you like in a guy and when you meet a guy that scores high on your score sheet give him a shot. Just because a guy likes the same things as you do and does the same things as you doesnt mean he is all into you. Heck, guys go to church with their girlfriends and on the inside they truly hate God--but they do it to win the girl right? You arent supposed to do the work of getting a guy interested in you. They are. They love challenges and when you just drop into their arms you are an easy catch and they just move on.