>>54
Well, I was partially jesting with the couch bit. Though IMO you really do need to think through your priorities, values and perceptions.
Everybody is inherently flawed, but not in a way that makes them less worth - which is exactly how too many people think, except for that they tend to declare themselves The One who is so inherently flawed that almost everybody else is lightyears ahead of them. You seem to do something similar with your romantical interests. Don't put them on a pedistal, they're humans, just like everyone else. Treat them that way, don't reduce them into objects of quasi-perfection (in comparison to yourself).
>What? I already feel stupid enough about it! Am I supposed to feel even worse?
No. You're not supposed to feel bad the way you do, in fact. Seems as if you're the type who feels that they deserve and need to be seriously punished (and in the process emotionally wounded, albeit partially unintentionally) if you fail to be "ZOMG AWESOME!!111oneeleven". Punishing yourself like that only will set you even further back, it really doesn't make sense if you think about it in the long run. People tend to resort to that kind of behavior because they fail to realize that, that those negative subconscious and extremely short-term gratifications really have no place in a stable life.
By the way, I have met people who are genuinely happy and experience so called "true love". Their lives are not at all flawless, and every single relationship has its ups and downs, but overall they're doing really well. You're setting yourself up for negative relationships (whether they're one-sided or not). You're too busy enabling love-situations that are seriously negative, to find the ones that aren't.
I'm no licensed shrink, I'm not even a hobby shrink. I do not claim that my statements are automatically true, though I do believe that considering our comments as well as your own may help you to get insights about yourself, whether or not it was because we said something that happened to be true or the opposite; that you need to take a different approach. You do need to reconsider some things in your life (though pretty much most people do, if not all). We're here to help, but our help is useless if you don't actually use it. (please note that it doesn't mean that we are supposed to dictate your actions, just that our suggestions are to be considered and evaluated. you're the one who knows your life most accurately.)